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    Basically, im applying for university for 2018 and i have gotten five choices but i personally want to choose a strong 3. So far my first is Bristol, then followed by Nottingham but im torn between choosing Swansea for my third choice.
    This is because my boyfriend goes here already, we've talked about it before and he says that it'll just be a bad idea if i go to the same university as him as we wont have as much independence (which i can understand).
    But, i recently went to an open day there and it was honestly perfect for me, as the course structure of the course i want to do was really good and the resources there were great.
    But every time i mention something about the uni to him he will automatically say something negative about it in return to try and persuade me to dislike it.
    Its getting to the point now where i feel pressured to not even consider it or apply for it at all because i dont want to make him annoyed. I wouldn't even be going for him, as for me my education is more important. I would be going because its a really good university and its close to my home (Cardiff).
    What do i do? im getting stressed with it and he's just pressuring me not to go, yet he always talks trash about my first choice Bristol.
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    Sounds to me that he may be hiding something from you.. but honestly, do what you want and feel is best for you. Talk to your parents about it. You can still go to the same university and not be dependent on each other.
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    He doesn't control you, therefore he cannot decide where you study for the next 3 years. You need to be firm, but not angry, with him. Tell him that you understand his concerns, but this is your education. You will be there to get your degree and you can make sure to keep your independence while you're there. He has no right to tell you where you can or can't study and he needs to understand that. He is your partner, not your boss.
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    You might break up by the time you get to go to uni! As good as everything might seem right now, you should keep in mind the possibility of you splitting, and how much you would beat yourself up then for not applying to Swansea just because of him. Go for it.
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    You need to go and do the course that you feel is best for you,.
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    (Original post by laurabev)
    Basically, im applying for university for 2018 and i have gotten five choices but i personally want to choose a strong 3. So far my first is Bristol, then followed by Nottingham but im torn between choosing Swansea for my third choice.
    This is because my boyfriend goes here already, we've talked about it before and he says that it'll just be a bad idea if i go to the same university as him as we wont have as much independence (which i can understand).
    But, i recently went to an open day there and it was honestly perfect for me, as the course structure of the course i want to do was really good and the resources there were great.
    But every time i mention something about the uni to him he will automatically say something negative about it in return to try and persuade me to dislike it.
    Its getting to the point now where i feel pressured to not even consider it or apply for it at all because i dont want to make him annoyed. I wouldn't even be going for him, as for me my education is more important. I would be going because its a really good university and its close to my home (Cardiff).
    What do i do? im getting stressed with it and he's just pressuring me not to go, yet he always talks trash about my first choice Bristol.

    Have you considered Pymouth university?
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    (Original post by matwillis)
    Have you considered Pymouth university?
    I have, i went there last year
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    He wants to go off and shag other women
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    Despite what your boyfriend says, you should attend the university that is best for you. Why should you have to compromise your education based on his wishes? So he wants to be more independent at uni, you can be in a relationship but still socialise with other people. You don't have to spend all of your time together!

    If he loves you, he will have no problem with you going to the same university as him. He should want the things that make you happy.
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    (Original post by Yaboi)
    He wants to go off and shag other women
    That might be true ngl
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    (Original post by laurabev)
    Basically, im applying for university for 2018 and i have gotten five choices but i personally want to choose a strong 3. So far my first is Bristol, then followed by Nottingham but im torn between choosing Swansea for my third choice.
    This is because my boyfriend goes here already, we've talked about it before and he says that it'll just be a bad idea if i go to the same university as him as we wont have as much independence (which i can understand).
    But, i recently went to an open day there and it was honestly perfect for me, as the course structure of the course i want to do was really good and the resources there were great.
    But every time i mention something about the uni to him he will automatically say something negative about it in return to try and persuade me to dislike it.
    Its getting to the point now where i feel pressured to not even consider it or apply for it at all because i dont want to make him annoyed. I wouldn't even be going for him, as for me my education is more important. I would be going because its a really good university and its close to my home (Cardiff).
    What do i do? im getting stressed with it and he's just pressuring me not to go, yet he always talks trash about my first choice Bristol.
    It seems like being independent from you is something that's very important to him which isn't the best sign. Go to the university which best suits you and i'd reconsider your relationship with him with his lack of support with your educational choices.
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    you both could be perfectly independent whilst attending the same university, maybe reiterate and reinforce that to him and see why else he may have any concerns as to why you're going there. so many people who go to the same university date and are not dependent on one another! maybe he thinks you're only going there because he's there, which is OF COURSE not the case! make sure he understands that for sure!
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    (Original post by laurabev)
    Basically, im applying for university for 2018 and i have gotten five choices but i personally want to choose a strong 3. So far my first is Bristol, then followed by Nottingham but im torn between choosing Swansea for my third choice.
    This is because my boyfriend goes here already, we've talked about it before and he says that it'll just be a bad idea if i go to the same university as him as we wont have as much independence (which i can understand).
    But, i recently went to an open day there and it was honestly perfect for me, as the course structure of the course i want to do was really good and the resources there were great.
    But every time i mention something about the uni to him he will automatically say something negative about it in return to try and persuade me to dislike it.
    Its getting to the point now where i feel pressured to not even consider it or apply for it at all because i dont want to make him annoyed. I wouldn't even be going for him, as for me my education is more important. I would be going because its a really good university and its close to my home (Cardiff).
    What do i do? im getting stressed with it and he's just pressuring me not to go, yet he always talks trash about my first choice Bristol.
    you know what. if you love bristol pick it. you will be studying there for the next 3 years so pick something you will love. your bf is just a bf. he aint your dad. he can not decide where you do and do not go. why does he care so much. most boys would be happy to go uni with their gf. maybe he is hiding something. you should ask him. but do what you think feels right.
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    He fitna get SUCKED AWFFFF at uni :holmes:
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    But seriously, you gotta make your decision based on what’s right for you and not him. It’s your life and our career. What if you listen to him and then down the line break up with him? He may have ruined your life.
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    (Original post by laurabev)
    I have, i went there last year
    That can't be true because it isn't in your top 3, clearly you're thinking about the University of Portsmouth . Seriously though, it sounds that he doesn't want to go to the same uni as you because he thinks you're going to chain him down in some way. He can't get away with infidelities if you're at the same fresher's event. My blunt suggestion would be to end it and potentially restart the relationship a couple of months into uni, that is if you do end up at the same place.
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    Its up to you to make your life choices.If he really cares for you he will let you do what you want.There are chances that he can leave you.Never regret about choices you make .
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    Choose what suits you best. If your boyfriend wants Independence he should probably break up. Don’t let him decide what is best for you.
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    IGNORE HIM AND APPLY! Do what is best for you, if you get offers from the other universities it wont even be a problem. Also ask him what he's hiding!
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    it's a bit weird that he doesnt want to go to the same uni as you. he is probably unfaithful or hiding something you wouldn't like. more boyfriends would be really happy to go to the same uni as their gf
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    What kinda boyfriends do y'all have ???
 
 
 
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