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Hi, well just a rant about my sister and her boyfriend. My sister and her boyfriend have been going out for like a year (he's 20, she's 15!) and he's stayed at my house almost every night since then. I wouldn't mind but when he isn't working he's literally here all day and all night. He eats here, showers here etc etc! Anyway this isn't too bad but what annoys me the most is that when he's here in the day (and sometimes the night) he switches the TV on maximum volume and my bed is right near the TV in the other room so it actually makes me have a serious headache each time. When he's not listening to the TV at full blast he's talking full blast and shouting and screaming ''ooiiiiii'' and ''wayyyyy'' (I don't know why). He does this until like 4AM all the time and sleeps then gets up at 8 doing the same thing meaning I get no sleep so I can't be bothered to revise as I'm so tired all the time
A minute ago I heard him say ''come on get your t***s out'' to my sister, it's so embarassing! I feel most sorry for mum and dad as they have to get up at 6am for work every morning and he prevents them from sleeping too.
My mum and dad have tried to prevent hims staying but my sister is a psycho and screams and shouts and swears and still brings him in and locks her door so there's nothing they can do, they just get on with it to keep the peace! I've tried to tell my sister but she just insults me so I've given up on that.
Oh also, when he eats here he leaves his pots and stuff all over the house and messes the house up and just leaves it for my poor mum to do!
The thing that upset me most is that I recently got a new phone and I lent my sister my old one to use, he decided he'd smash that (she said it was an accident but I heard him swearing and then throw it!) Fair enough but I got no apology from him or my sister I told her but she said ''grow up!''.
Yeah I don't really know what I'm asking I suppose just what you think about it and your advice! Thanks a lot!
Hi, well just a rant about my sister and her boyfriend. My sister and her boyfriend have been going out for like a year (he's 20, she's 15!) and he's stayed at my house almost every night since then. I wouldn't mind but when he isn't working he's literally here all day and all night. He eats here, showers here etc etc! Anyway this isn't too bad but what annoys me the most is that when he's here in the day (and sometimes the night) he switches the TV on maximum volume and my bed is right near the TV in the other room so it actually makes me have a serious headache each time. When he's not listening to the TV at full blast he's talking full blast and shouting and screaming ''ooiiiiii'' and ''wayyyyy'' (I don't know why). He does this until like 4AM all the time and sleeps then gets up at 8 doing the same thing meaning I get no sleep so I can't be bothered to revise as I'm so tired all the time
A minute ago I heard him say ''come on get your t***s out'' to my sister, it's so embarassing! I feel most sorry for mum and dad as they have to get up at 6am for work every morning and he prevents them from sleeping too.My mum and dad have tried to prevent hims staying but my sister is a psycho and screams and shouts and swears and still brings him in and locks her door so there's nothing they can do, they just get on with it to keep the peace! I've tried to tell my sister but she just insults me so I've given up on that.
Oh also, when he eats here he leaves his pots and stuff all over the house and messes the house up and just leaves it for my poor mum to do!
The thing that upset me most is that I recently got a new phone and I lent my sister my old one to use, he decided he'd smash that (she said it was an accident but I heard him swearing and then throw it!) Fair enough but I got no apology from him or my sister I told her but she said ''grow up!''.
Yeah I don't really know what I'm asking I suppose just what you think about it and your advice! Thanks a lot!
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Reply 2
Get your parents to change the locks on your sister's door and throw the spoilt brat in Brat Camp. Problem solved.
Reply 3
I just confronted her about today's noise session and she said ''shut the %%%%%%%%%%%% up or I'll punch you in the face!'' along with numerous other insults!
Reply 4
alex p
if its realy that bad report him to the police for paedophilia
Reply 5
Anonymous
I just confronted her about today's noise session and she said ''shut the %%%%%%%%%%%% up or I'll punch you in the face!'' along with numerous other insults!
jeez man, you have my sympathies
Reply 6
Artemidoros
jeez man, you have my sympathies
In all seriousness, you have mine too OP. My sister (now 20, then 18-19) used to be addicted to crack cocaine and numerous other ridiculous drugs and go literally psycopathic at my mother, screaming all day and night and making it impossible for me do so my GCSEs / A levels.
Try talking to your parents again. Keep on at them. Suggest anger management for your sister to them. If the boyfriend isn't too rude or aggressive directly to you, firmly but politely tell him that it would be nice to take his dishes to the kitchen, or ask him to turn the tv down as you can't sleep.
Calling the police would also be my suggested move but unless your parents back it up and make a complaint, the police can't do anything afaik.
Reply 8
lily_blue3
In all seriousness, you have mine too OP. My sister (now 20, then 18-19) used to be addicted to crack cocaine and numerous other ridiculous drugs and go literally psycopathic at my mother, screaming all day and night and making it impossible for me do so my GCSEs / A levels.
Try talking to your parents again. Keep on at them. Suggest anger management for your sister to them. If the boyfriend isn't too rude or aggressive directly to you, firmly but politely tell him that it would be nice to take his dishes to the kitchen, or ask him to turn the tv down as you can't sleep.
Calling the police would also be my suggested move but unless your parents back it up and make a complaint, the police can't do anything afaik.
Try talking to your parents again. Keep on at them. Suggest anger management for your sister to them. If the boyfriend isn't too rude or aggressive directly to you, firmly but politely tell him that it would be nice to take his dishes to the kitchen, or ask him to turn the tv down as you can't sleep.
Calling the police would also be my suggested move but unless your parents back it up and make a complaint, the police can't do anything afaik.
I asked my sister to ask him to be quiet but she won't tell him incase she upsets him! Plus I just get insulted! I'm finding it impossible to revise my for my degree, she calls me lazy as she dropped out of school etc. I think calling the police may be a bit extreme as he may get jailed or something lol. My parents are useless they don't do anything in order to keep the peace but my sister is the biggest nightmare on earth.
Hun
I am going to be as frank as I can
It is your parents home. If this guy is not showing respect he has to leave
Your parents need to take charge of the situation and not let a 15 and 20 year old run rampant in the house. Why is a 20 year old staying in a house with a 15 year old when her parents are present??
I know others have said you should call the police but in reality your parents should be the people dealing with this issue. It shouldnt even be an issue to begin with
Plus your sis and her bf sound like they are abusing some substance as their behaviour sounds very erratic
I am going to be as frank as I can
It is your parents home. If this guy is not showing respect he has to leave
Your parents need to take charge of the situation and not let a 15 and 20 year old run rampant in the house. Why is a 20 year old staying in a house with a 15 year old when her parents are present??
I know others have said you should call the police but in reality your parents should be the people dealing with this issue. It shouldnt even be an issue to begin with
Plus your sis and her bf sound like they are abusing some substance as their behaviour sounds very erratic
Reply 10
if its the guy thats really annoying you,why not talk to him instead,very unlikely but he might be more inclined to listen than your sister
Reply 11
Anonymous
I asked my sister to ask him to be quiet but she won't tell him incase she upsets him! Plus I just get insulted! I'm finding it impossible to revise my for my degree, she calls me lazy as she dropped out of school etc. I think calling the police may be a bit extreme as he may get jailed or something lol. My parents are useless they don't do anything in order to keep the peace but my sister is the biggest nightmare on earth.
No, don't ask your sister to ask him - ask him yourself. Go into the room (preferably not in pj's lol) and say "X, could you turn the tv down please because I'm trying to sleep. Thanks very much." (It'll help if you stand up straight and look him in the face.) He can't get upset about turning a tv down.
If all else fails, I really would suggest just not going home during the holidays. Sounds like he's not a long term thing anyway (they're both too volatile from what I've heard for them to make it work).
The police wouldn't jail him, as your sister would argue it was consentual (sp? sorry, lol). But he would get a warning and your parents could push for a restraining order.
Reply 12
Rokit
Your parents need to take charge of the situation and not let a 15 and 20 year old run rampant in the house. Why is a 20 year old staying in a house with a 15 year old when her parents are present??
I know others have said you should call the police but in reality your parents should be the people dealing with this issue. It shouldnt even be an issue to begin with
Your parents need to take charge of the situation and not let a 15 and 20 year old run rampant in the house. Why is a 20 year old staying in a house with a 15 year old when her parents are present??
I know others have said you should call the police but in reality your parents should be the people dealing with this issue. It shouldnt even be an issue to begin with
absobloominlutely.
Rokit
Plus your sis and her bf sound like they are abusing some substance as their behaviour sounds very erratic
Like I said, my sister used to do hard drugs and was behaving in a very similar way. I'd get your parents to poke about in her room when she's out, though it would be more probably she does it whilst she's out...anyway, drugs = highly likely I think from what we've all heard.
Reply 13
lily_blue3
No, don't ask your sister to ask him - ask him yourself. Go into the room (preferably not in pj's lol) and say "X, could you turn the tv down please because I'm trying to sleep. Thanks very much." (It'll help if you stand up straight and look him in the face.) He can't get upset about turning a tv down.
If all else fails, I really would suggest just not going home during the holidays. Sounds like he's not a long term thing anyway (they're both too volatile from what I've heard for them to make it work).
The police wouldn't jail him, as your sister would argue it was consentual (sp? sorry, lol). But he would get a warning and your parents could push for a restraining order.
If all else fails, I really would suggest just not going home during the holidays. Sounds like he's not a long term thing anyway (they're both too volatile from what I've heard for them to make it work).
The police wouldn't jail him, as your sister would argue it was consentual (sp? sorry, lol). But he would get a warning and your parents could push for a restraining order.
It's virtually impossible to get to him as he's locked in her room all the time! I told her that I'd say something to him but she just says ''you dare, I'll %%%%%%%%%%%%%%*king knock you out!''
I didn't go home for the whole 1st semester because of it but I missed my mum and dad so I went home. My sister is a horrible person she's done some very bad stuff.
My parents are too soft to get a restraining order as my sister would probably kill us all!
Reply 14
lily_blue3
absobloominlutely.
Like I said, my sister used to do hard drugs and was behaving in a very similar way. I'd get your parents to poke about in her room when she's out, though it would be more probably she does it whilst she's out...anyway, drugs = highly likely I think from what we've all heard.
Like I said, my sister used to do hard drugs and was behaving in a very similar way. I'd get your parents to poke about in her room when she's out, though it would be more probably she does it whilst she's out...anyway, drugs = highly likely I think from what we've all heard.
She used to sniff aerosols a few years ago but I don't think she's on drugs, she's just very bad behaved for whatever reason.
You really have to do something to change this situation!
Have you tried talking to your parents about it? I can see how it would be difficult for them to act if they want to keep the peace but it sounds really unfair that your sister and her boyfriend are acting as they are. You and your parents live in the same house and don't deserve to be treated as you are being.
As for revising, you could try going to the library to rev ise until the problems at home are sorted - but I suppose if you're really tired this isn't going to help much.
If your parents really dont want to act on the problem, try speaking to a social worker about the problem - there may be something they can do.
Have you tried talking to your parents about it? I can see how it would be difficult for them to act if they want to keep the peace but it sounds really unfair that your sister and her boyfriend are acting as they are. You and your parents live in the same house and don't deserve to be treated as you are being.
As for revising, you could try going to the library to rev ise until the problems at home are sorted - but I suppose if you're really tired this isn't going to help much.
If your parents really dont want to act on the problem, try speaking to a social worker about the problem - there may be something they can do.
I agree with some of the others that your parents need to put their foot down; she's 15 ffs! What kind of parents would even consider letting their 15 year old daughter have their 20 year old boyfriend stay over (and have them presumably sleeping together). I'm only just allowed to have my boyfriend stay over and we're both 19 and have been going out for 2 years.
Your sister does sound difficult to control, but your parents can stop her boyfriend coming round. Don't say that they can't, they can. If either your sister or the boyfriend get aggressive, they could call the police.
Your sister needs to realise that she is a KID; at 15, she should be trying to get some GCSEs or something, not hanging round with some loser who obviously can't get a girlfriend his own age
Your sister does sound difficult to control, but your parents can stop her boyfriend coming round. Don't say that they can't, they can. If either your sister or the boyfriend get aggressive, they could call the police.
Your sister needs to realise that she is a KID; at 15, she should be trying to get some GCSEs or something, not hanging round with some loser who obviously can't get a girlfriend his own age
Reply 17
abbbbey
I agree with some of the others that your parents need to put their foot down; she's 15 ffs! What kind of parents would even consider letting their 15 year old daughter have their 20 year old boyfriend stay over (and have them presumably sleeping together). I'm only just allowed to have my boyfriend stay over and we're both 19 and have been going out for 2 years.
Your sister does sound difficult to control, but your parents can stop her boyfriend coming round. Don't say that they can't, they can. If either your sister or the boyfriend get aggressive, they could call the police.
Your sister needs to realise that she is a KID; at 15, she should be trying to get some GCSEs or something, not hanging round with some loser who obviously can't get a girlfriend his own age
Your sister does sound difficult to control, but your parents can stop her boyfriend coming round. Don't say that they can't, they can. If either your sister or the boyfriend get aggressive, they could call the police.
Your sister needs to realise that she is a KID; at 15, she should be trying to get some GCSEs or something, not hanging round with some loser who obviously can't get a girlfriend his own age
I understand what you're saying but my sister has done so much my mum has no air left in her to be honest. I keep telling my mum but she doesn't know how to control her, she is a nightmare. My sister thinks she looks older so therefore can act older, she dropped out of school because she ''hated it'' but don't we all sometimes! I hate her she ruins this family she really does.
Reply 19
Just call the police say you're a 'neighbour' and heard a disturbance created by a young ruffian and that you keep getting disturbed at early hours of the morning via shouting, loud noises etc. Say you also don't think it is the family because you know them well and you keep seeing this strange figure coming in and out of the house making a racket.
The po po will be there to help you.
I had a similar encounter, but it's my mothers partner. Boy, is he a waste of %%%%%%%%ing space.
I rang the po po on him and the police said a neighbour complained . He used to stay up to like 4am (he worked like 5am till the afternoon) and just blast out some random 'comedy' shows laughing his %%%%%%%%ing face off while smoking packs and packs of fags. I just had to get up in the middle of the night, walk downstairs and open a window because it was that bad.
It must be hard though when trying to revise. Thought of going to the local library? I know it's annoying when you want to revise till 11pm at night and most libraries close at 5.30pm, but it would mean not having to listen to your sisters boyfriend.
The po po will be there to help you.
I had a similar encounter, but it's my mothers partner. Boy, is he a waste of %%%%%%%%ing space.
I rang the po po on him and the police said a neighbour complained
. He used to stay up to like 4am (he worked like 5am till the afternoon) and just blast out some random 'comedy' shows laughing his %%%%%%%%ing face off while smoking packs and packs of fags. I just had to get up in the middle of the night, walk downstairs and open a window because it was that bad.It must be hard though when trying to revise. Thought of going to the local library? I know it's annoying when you want to revise till 11pm at night and most libraries close at 5.30pm, but it would mean not having to listen to your sisters boyfriend.
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