The hardest time in my life

I have never felt as depressed as i do now. 6 weeks ago my best mate at university died of meningitis and on new years eve my girlfriend of almost 2 years and i split up. I miss her hugely already but know it is the right decision, I'm dreading going back to university and being there without my friend and i have loads of work to do before then. I'm fighting with my mum at home because she says i don't talk to her enough, and my dad won't get off my case about my work. I feel like there is nothing good in my life and literally have no idea what i can do to make myself feel better.

Reply 1

DDD99

juz calm down,relax...first of all take your private life seriously and sorted it out...show love to your mum...show ur dad ur commitment and dedication towards ur work...

people..friends..girlfriends or whoever..they juz come and go u know in one way or the other..but u cant do nethng..u juz gota move on in your life....

or maybe also..chill out with ur mates n have a laff with thm...

Reply 2

Profesh

20

DDD99

juz calm down,relax...first of all take your private life seriously and sorted it out...show love to your mum...show ur dad ur commitment and dedication towards ur work...

people..friends..girlfriends or whoever..they juz come and go u know in one way or the other..but u cant do nethng..u juz gota move on in your life....

or maybe also..chill out with ur mates n have a laff with thm...

And to think, you were doing so well.

If your parents don't appear sympathetic, then it's either because they're exceedingly callous and blinkered individuals or because they don't understand; presumably in no small part due to the fact that you aren't communicating with them (which seems at least corroborated by your mother's complaint). If you can't even confide in your own parents, then it's little wonder you're wallowing in despair.

Reply 3

*Joanna*

12

I know a bit of what you'er going through- a very close friend at uni was killed 2 months ago and I'm finding it very hard to come to terms with. If you want to PM me about it, feel free. I know it can be hard to talk to your parents, but I urge you to try and talk to them. If your mum knows you're finding it hard to talk to anyone, never mind her, she might back off a bit. It sounds a bit as if your dad is concerned, but it's all coming out wrong.

Take things a day at a time. Set little goals, such as 'Today I will answer one question off the sheet/write 200 words' or something. Make sure you're eating well, as eating rubbish can make you feel like crap. Do you have any mutual friends that you can talk about your late friend with? That really helped us in November, knowing that we were all going through the same thing and were there for chats and hugs and remembering.

Reply 4

DDD99

ya i thnk profesh is right...if they are juz being a pain..thn juz cut the crap and get on with it...

Reply 5

WhatTheFunk

17

one of me best mates died a few weeks before starting uni, this year, yes it was hard, but being with other mates and talking about it helped a lot, for me, maybe just founding someone to talk to, to let it all out to may help

Reply 6

her0n

11

To add to these comments - Talk to a tutor or someone at University and find out if they will be able to assist with regards to extended deadlines or special consideration when marking your work, regarding your extenuating circumstances.

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