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    Hi I am a muslim girl from a Muslim family. I met a christan boy. We love each other so much and want to get married. He has now converted and practices the religion. He is now a Muslim. I have told my family but they are not accepting it as they think he isn't good for me and it will bring shame to the family. They think that what i want to do is wrong. We used mt savings together and his money to get a house together and the famiky think it's wring and that the man shoukd do it all and they want the money back that was used. They keeo going on about the money. They are not listening to anything about me and him about how we feel about each ither. They keeo saying it's shameful the whole family is saying that. Only my auntie and uncle are okay with me and my bf. We want to have a nikkah but my famoly isnt listening. What shall we do as he we are trying so hard and fighting for our love. Please help with suggestions and advice thank you
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    Hi I am a muslim girl from a Muslim family. I met a christan boy. We love each other so much and want to get married. He has now converted and practices the religion. He is now a Muslim. I have told my family but they are not accepting it as they think he isn't good for me and it will bring shame to the family. They think that what i want to do is wrong. We used mt savings together and his money to get a house together and the famiky think it's wring and that the man shoukd do it all and they want the money back that was used. They keeo going on about the money. They are not listening to anything about me and him about how we feel about each ither. They keeo saying it's shameful the whole family is saying that. Only my auntie and uncle are okay with me and my bf. We want to have a nikkah but my famoly isnt listening. What shall we do as he we are trying so hard and fighting for our love. Please help with suggestions and advice thank you
    In this situation, To be very honest if he practices Islam, then what’s your family’s issue? You seem happy with him and isnt that enough for them? To be honest, why do they want the money back? Like thats being rather petty- its probably just because they don’t have any other reason not to like him. Your uncle and aunty are fine with it and I’m sure the longer you stay together everyone else will too, I think it’s a matter of them adjusting- but they can’t be petty like that, it’s not fair and you should find a way to speak to them about that. Maybe talk to your parents? Hope that helped
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    In this situation, To be very honest if he practices Islam, then what’s your family’s issue? You seem happy with him and isnt that enough for them? To be honest, why do they want the money back? Like thats being rather petty- its probably just because they don’t have any other reason not to like him. Your uncle and aunty are fine with it and I’m sure the longer you stay together everyone else will too, I think it’s a matter of them adjusting- but they can’t be petty like that, it’s not fair and you should find a way to speak to them about that. Maybe talk to your parents? Hope that helped
    I have spoke to my parents like my mum's in two minds but my dad isn't listening at all. Other family members getting involved and I'm made out to be the bad person. I love him so much he means everything to me and he feels the same way. They wantthe money back because they think it's wrong the girl paying before marriage to help the guy out
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    I have spoke to my parents like my mum's in two minds but my dad isn't listening at all. Other family members getting involved and I'm made out to be the bad person. I love him so much he means everything to me and he feels the same way. They wantthe money back because they think it's wrong the girl paying before marriage to help the guy out
    They gonna have to deal with the fact that times have changed and if it isn’t wrong or illegal in society, then what’s the problem? Tbh I think it’s your duty to convince your mum and hopefully then your dad, as much as you can. But at the end of the day you’re their child, they do love you, they are being stubborn and should just accept the fact you are happy. It will take time but they will accept it, sooner or later.
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