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    I didn’t think I was a clingy person until my friends started saying how clingy I was towards my boyfriend.
    I went with my friend to a boys house (the boy she was getting with) and my boyfriend got mad at me for going there with her and wanted to break up with me but I talked him out of it luckily! But I feel as if he doesn’t love me anymore and that he just wants to control me!
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    Why do you feel that he wants to control you and doesn't love you?
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    Jealousy is ugly and is using driven by the need to control.

    So the question is why did he feel the way he did? Is he just a controlling jerk or was the guy who's house you were going to have a bad reputation? Was there going to be a LOT of drinking and he was afraid you'd over-indulge and get with a guy at the party?

    Jealousy is bad in that it innately shows a lack of trust and the need to control.....but you need to look at your own behavior. Did he ask you not to go ahead of time? Partners need to listen and respect each other. If his request for you not to go was reasonable then you need to respect that. Unfortunately there is a fine line between one partner just being jealous and the other partner just being on a position to get to do what they want with out being questioned.

    I don't think it is a lack of love but you both need to sit together and discuss boundaries and expectations. The number one cause of failed relationships be it bf, platonic friend etc. is due to failed expectations. Communication is very, very important!
 
 
 
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