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    I have no job, live with parents but started a commission thing. Some days might get £20, some £50, mostly £150 but every month on average IF I’m lucky. Okay one time I got £600 but that was once and it went straight on something I needed. Most of the money goes on things I want and I’m trying to save up but it’s not working ( need a job soon haha ).


    My friend knows about this and he also has a friend who has been doing the same thing for a while but she works on top. They both work. He recently asked me to buy him a ticket for London as he’s meeting his sister and friends for a barbecue. I paid for London Midland as it’s cheaper. He got pissed and said London Midland takes too long and he’ll miss the party and wasn’t going to a barbecue after all. I got mad as I’m paying. But I just asked for a refund and booked virgin trains instead. I booked the return on the same day by mistake he told me this and said he had to pay for a ticket home himself.

    He also keeps commenting ‘ why do you complain about money you’re rich now ‘ and any time I tell him I’m broke ( which is often as £150 doesn’t stretch ). He says ‘ you’re not broke you just waste money ‘. He also keeps asking to buy food and transfer money into his account.

    ( another friend who is 17, never worked asked for me to buy him a pizza, I told him I’m not working atm and he’s never asked again, I wasn’t so mad about this but still a little annoyed that he asked).

    Don’t get it twisted I DONT MIND PAYING BORROWING OR GIVING IF A FRIEND IS IN DESPERATE NEED, REALLY NEEDS SOMETHING IMPORTANT AND CANT AFFORD IT OR ONCE IN A WHILE GOING OUT WITH FRIENDS AND THE DRINKS ARE ON ME OR PAYING FOR A FRIEND IN MCDONALDS A TREAT ONCE IN A WHILE.

    But I don’t know if I’m being selfish here for being mad that friends are suddenly asking for money and acting like I’m rich. When I think about it my friend said he paid for the train ticket home which means he had the money but just wanted me to pay for his train fare. I’m not liking this. ‘ you’re rich now ‘. Getting £150 on average every month when it’s not guaranteed isn’t exactly ‘ rich ‘. And I do spend it on stuff I need. I can’t even save up at this rate. Also like I said his friend does this and works on top. Why not ask her for money? He is WORKING aswell and can obviously afford / pay for what he’s asking me to pay for him. Or should I be a friend and be nice every now and then?
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    Also my friend is renting two flats out and I’ve never asked him for money once
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    So why didn't your so called friend or their sister buy their own ticket? Am I missing something? You need new and better friends asap.
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    They’re taking advantage of you
    Say no to everyone
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    (Original post by Guru Jason)
    So why didn't your so called friend or their sister buy their own ticket? Am I missing something? You need new and better friends asap.
    I don’t know I thought I was doing a favour but now I’m pissed
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don’t know I thought I was doing a favour but now I’m pissed
    Simple answer is to say no from now on. Just say your short on cash atm. It the reality for me almost every month lol. But seriously, let them pay their own way and you pay yours.
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    (Original post by Guru Jason)
    Simple answer is to say no from now on. Just say your short on cash atm. It the reality for me almost every month lol. But seriously, let them pay their own way and you pay yours.
    Yeah when I sit down and think about it. He asked for a return next day ticket I booked same day return by mistake but he paid for his ticket home. Which means he had the money. He just wanted me to pay. £150 no guarantee isn’t going to stretch anywhere. I just hate the ‘ you’re rich comments ‘. I’m not.
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    (Original post by Guru Jason)
    Simple answer is to say no from now on. Just say your short on cash atm. It the reality for me almost every month lol. But seriously, let them pay their own way and you pay yours.
    & thankyou
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah when I sit down and think about it. He asked for a return next day ticket I booked same day return by mistake but he paid for his ticket home. Which means he had the money. He just wanted me to pay. £150 no guarantee isn’t going to stretch anywhere. I just hate the ‘ you’re rich comments ‘. I’m not.
    This brings me back to my original point. You need better friends.
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    (Original post by Guru Jason)
    This brings me back to my original point. You need better friends.
    Yeah I know. Thanks x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have no job, live with parents but started a commission thing. Some days might get £20, some £50, mostly £150 but every month on average IF I’m lucky. Okay one time I got £600 but that was once and it went straight on something I needed. Most of the money goes on things I want and I’m trying to save up but it’s not working ( need a job soon haha ).


    My friend knows about this and he also has a friend who has been doing the same thing for a while but she works on top. They both work. He recently asked me to buy him a ticket for London as he’s meeting his sister and friends for a barbecue. I paid for London Midland as it’s cheaper. He got pissed and said London Midland takes too long and he’ll miss the party and wasn’t going to a barbecue after all. I got mad as I’m paying. But I just asked for a refund and booked virgin trains instead. I booked the return on the same day by mistake he told me this and said he had to pay for a ticket home himself.

    He also keeps commenting ‘ why do you complain about money you’re rich now ‘ and any time I tell him I’m broke ( which is often as £150 doesn’t stretch ). He says ‘ you’re not broke you just waste money ‘. He also keeps asking to buy food and transfer money into his account.

    ( another friend who is 17, never worked asked for me to buy him a pizza, I told him I’m not working atm and he’s never asked again, I wasn’t so mad about this but still a little annoyed that he asked).

    Don’t get it twisted I DONT MIND PAYING BORROWING OR GIVING IF A FRIEND IS IN DESPERATE NEED, REALLY NEEDS SOMETHING IMPORTANT AND CANT AFFORD IT OR ONCE IN A WHILE GOING OUT WITH FRIENDS AND THE DRINKS ARE ON ME OR PAYING FOR A FRIEND IN MCDONALDS A TREAT ONCE IN A WHILE.

    But I don’t know if I’m being selfish here for being mad that friends are suddenly asking for money and acting like I’m rich. When I think about it my friend said he paid for the train ticket home which means he had the money but just wanted me to pay for his train fare. I’m not liking this. ‘ you’re rich now ‘. Getting £150 on average every month when it’s not guaranteed isn’t exactly ‘ rich ‘. And I do spend it on stuff I need. I can’t even save up at this rate. Also like I said his friend does this and works on top. Why not ask her for money? He is WORKING aswell and can obviously afford / pay for what he’s asking me to pay for him. Or should I be a friend and be nice every now and then?


    your friends are leeches and taking advantage of you, £150 a week is not rich.

    tbh, you should not have even paid them anything as they already have jobs.

    you should have cancelled the ticket on the spot too and took back, after the friend had the cheek to demand a faster train ticket.

    your friends are to blame, but i think you're a little to blame too OP, you are letting people walk over you!
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    You just have to say you can't spare the money right now. I can't imagine asking people for money unless I desperately needed it.
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    Why can't your "friends" pay for their own train tickets?
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    Tell them to p**s off, you need money for food, clothes, socialising etc as well as spending *your* money on things *you* want. You aren't being selfish, he's definitely taking advantage of your good nature and guilt tripping you into buying things for him, it sounds like you're already very generous with your money, you just need to learn where the line is between being kind and being taking advantage of and set some boundaries.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have no job, live with parents but started a commission thing. Some days might get £20, some £50, mostly £150 but every month on average IF I’m lucky. Okay one time I got £600 but that was once and it went straight on something I needed. Most of the money goes on things I want and I’m trying to save up but it’s not working ( need a job soon haha ).


    My friend knows about this and he also has a friend who has been doing the same thing for a while but she works on top. They both work. He recently asked me to buy him a ticket for London as he’s meeting his sister and friends for a barbecue. I paid for London Midland as it’s cheaper. He got pissed and said London Midland takes too long and he’ll miss the party and wasn’t going to a barbecue after all. I got mad as I’m paying. But I just asked for a refund and booked virgin trains instead. I booked the return on the same day by mistake he told me this and said he had to pay for a ticket home himself.

    He also keeps commenting ‘ why do you complain about money you’re rich now ‘ and any time I tell him I’m broke ( which is often as £150 doesn’t stretch ). He says ‘ you’re not broke you just waste money ‘. He also keeps asking to buy food and transfer money into his account.

    ( another friend who is 17, never worked asked for me to buy him a pizza, I told him I’m not working atm and he’s never asked again, I wasn’t so mad about this but still a little annoyed that he asked).

    Don’t get it twisted I DONT MIND PAYING BORROWING OR GIVING IF A FRIEND IS IN DESPERATE NEED, REALLY NEEDS SOMETHING IMPORTANT AND CANT AFFORD IT OR ONCE IN A WHILE GOING OUT WITH FRIENDS AND THE DRINKS ARE ON ME OR PAYING FOR A FRIEND IN MCDONALDS A TREAT ONCE IN A WHILE.

    But I don’t know if I’m being selfish here for being mad that friends are suddenly asking for money and acting like I’m rich. When I think about it my friend said he paid for the train ticket home which means he had the money but just wanted me to pay for his train fare. I’m not liking this. ‘ you’re rich now ‘. Getting £150 on average every month when it’s not guaranteed isn’t exactly ‘ rich ‘. And I do spend it on stuff I need. I can’t even save up at this rate. Also like I said his friend does this and works on top. Why not ask her for money? He is WORKING aswell and can obviously afford / pay for what he’s asking me to pay for him. Or should I be a friend and be nice every now and then?
    Seems like you’re friends are just really rude! Not selfish of you at all...Do they even care about your own needs?
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    If you keep giving them money, they'll carry on asking because they know you'll give it to them.
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    I totally get where you're coming from in terms of people around you trying to leech off you, because in their minds you can afford what they want more than they can afford it themselves and that makes them somehow entitled to at least borrow money from you for it, and seemingly put you at the bottom of the priority list in their finances when it comes to paying you back. I'm in the exact same boat. Problem is, you're letting them walk all over you. The people in my life wouldn't ask me outright to buy them something like a train ticket or a pizza cause they know if just laugh in their face, and these are members of my immediate family were talking about here, and I've refused to let most borrow any more money off me cause they always break agreements we've made on terms of payback. Just gotta learn to say no when you feel like people are taking the piss.
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    yeah thats not on. dont let a friendship become based on money, just say no.
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    Make new friends . The friends you have (no offence ) are not friends . Make friends which don’t know about how much money you have and treat you nicely because it’s you and not because of your money
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    There taking advantage of you they aren't worth it. Why can't they buy their own stuff to go a party that's just so wrong
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