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Relationship with someone you're not sexually attracted to? watch

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    My boyfriend and I split up amicably a few months ago due to outside factors but are now looking to give things another shot. I adore him. Often I think a good test is, if they suddenly had to be in a wheelchair etc would you stay with them and I definitely would.

    Don't get me wrong I find him attractive. But in bed with him, I don't really get turned on by him. He has a nice body etc so I don't get it. But the thought of being sexual with him doesn't excite me sexually, it's more that I enjoy the emotional connection we have in the moment.
    I don't know if this is just because I'm too comfortable with him that I don't have those animalistic sexual desires that I have with boys I find hot but don't know deep down.

    Do you think this sounds like the kind of relationship that ultimately won't go very far if he is unable to please me sexually. Sex isn't actually a big thing for me but maybe it's because I've never had good sex I don't know what I'm missing. Has he just turned into a best friend that I enjoy kissing?
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    If you want more in the bedroom, have you thought about exploration and trying new things? You could mention things that you want to try and it can bring you closer together. If everything else is right in your relationship, you only need to concentrate on your sexual relationship.
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