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    So, as much as I don't like to admit it, I have a lot of trouble making friends, or even starting a conversation. I've been going to the same school for about 4 years now, and I've always been somewhat socially ostracised. I have very few social skills despite being 15, and an awful amount of people have written me off as just a "bit of a loser". I have had some success in making friends, but despite this, the few "friends" I have made are clearly not actually that interested in being my friend, or I can never find time to socialise with them, as they hang with groups of people who have, as I said, written me off. So what I want to know is how can I work to build up my social skills, become a more likable person, and/or find new people in my school's year group that I could potentially be friends with. Pretty clueless . Any tips appreciated.
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    Try to make friends with the other 'bit of a loser' people, because popularity really isn't that important. I'd also say to start small. Having goals like "I need to be more socially confident" aren't any good because they're too vague, instead be like "this week I'm going to say hi to someone new" or "in this class I'm going to ask if I can sit with someone I've not sat with before".

    Don't be too afraid of rejection, it sucks but remember that it's not a reflection of you. People have a lot of stuff going on in their lives, and the truth is that nobody has any idea what they're doing and we're all just a little scared. People are mean because of that, but the only thing you can do is to be better than them, so be kind. The more people turn you down, the more you'll realise that it isn't so bad. You'll still be standing afterwards. The hard stuff sucks, but you can do it.

    Also join clubs! Do stuff that makes you feel confident, and do it with other people. You're bound to make friends then.
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    (Original post by crocodile_ears)
    Try to make friends with the other 'bit of a loser' people, because popularity really isn't that important. I'd also say to start small. Having goals like "I need to be more socially confident" aren't any good because they're too vague, instead be like "this week I'm going to say hi to someone new" or "in this class I'm going to ask if I can sit with someone I've not sat with before".

    Don't be too afraid of rejection, it sucks but remember that it's not a reflection of you. People have a lot of stuff going on in their lives, and the truth is that nobody has any idea what they're doing and we're all just a little scared. People are mean because of that, but the only thing you can do is to be better than them, so be kind. The more people turn you down, the more you'll realise that it isn't so bad. You'll still be standing afterwards. The hard stuff sucks, but you can do it.

    Also join clubs! Do stuff that makes you feel confident, and do it with other people. You're bound to make friends then.
    yeah, most of that sounds like pretty decent advice, thanks. only problem is even the other "losers" dont like me that much lol. I will give it what I can though, see what happens.
 
 
 
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