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    I kind of feel like no one will read this.. because it may be really confusing and messy ( I'm sorry if that is the case) If anyone does read it though - thank you so much. And if you could give me a bit of advice that would mean so much to me!

    So here goes... I'm in my second year of a levels and struggling with a lot more things than just the workload + UCAS process this year. I think I may have depression (this mainly started from year 11 where stress got out of control) and I've have shown some symptoms of social anxiety (no one really believes me though). For example I physically shake when I talk to someone, I worry a lot about what they will think of me and whether I'll say the right/appropriate - basically something not weird and something very new - my mind decides to turn off while going on public transport, it literally goes into this worry and clumsy mode. I haven't actually got a clinical diagnosis for each. Although I was close to getting the SAD diagnosis once - in an appointment once I was being asked a few question to enter me in this group activity program to improve my confidehce in socialising. Like myself, my mum wanted to know if I was shy or was it something else (I so vividly remember this - the doctor first asked me how I was in crowded situations? I responded by saying "it feels kinda over whelming". And then.. she asked if I have panic attackts - I said "no". And after that i sensed she thought there was no point in diagnosing me or even looking at it further.Since then I've been confused about why I struggle so much in social situations. New confusing scenario: apparently I have autism to my parents and that's why I struggle socially.
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    My main point is that I'm finding it difficult to concentrate on my work and thus not coping well with the workload. Also my personal statement for university writing is going very slowly 😬 I have high aspirations and expectations for myself (and the Same is for my family) so the fact that these things are really progressing is make me feel rather low and I'm getting the impression from my parents that they're disappointed in me. They say they're proud of me but I can tell they're hiding something. They have helped me a lot in my education epsically as while we were abroad form the UK for six yrs and I recieved Hardly any suppourt from the school in adinig my visual needs (believe it or not I'm legally blind). This I want to show that their huge effort made a really big difference and hopefully i can express how thankful I am for the support they have given me.

    Another big concern is probably related to my exieryences on the internet. I've had some bad experiences with cyber bullying last year, I got sexually harassed/groomed, labelled etc. I managed to leave this site/app where this is all happened just last month (it's hard to explain why I didn't leave any earlier, all I can say though I heavily regret it ) The memories are still quite debilitating and distressing, I've left only feeling lost, lonely, scared, depressed. I wish this would all end but with a level exams, mocks, university deadlines I highly doubt things will become even a bit easier.
    I'm scared about what I'm going to have to face next, whether I'll actually meet the deadlines. I already feel like a failure and a burden on others I've not been able to hand in my homework assignment in on time, lagging behind in test scores.
    Lastly I've repeatedly told myself that I'll talk to my parents and mentor at my sixth form about this but I can never seem to do it, it seems as if my buzzing and jumbled thoughts get in the way.

    Thank you if you read a bit of this or got to the end.
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    Hello I’m really sorry you are going through such a bad time I know how it feel to be have social anxiety I have it badly at the moment I’m 17 and have left so many things like sixform, college and two jobs because I mentally couldn’t deal with it. I get so shaken up when I have to talk to people in public speaking or even just a hello to someone. I have a social worker and she taught me that even tho you cannot control your reaction to the emotions aka feeling shaky dizzy and feeling sick but you can choose what to do in the sense that you can try and neither block out the feelings of worry or what people might think of you or even think about it it is much easier to coupe and just thinking what’s the worst that can actually happen? I’ve struggled from about year 10 and it all started from people being nasty to Me and when I had to do speaking in front of the whole class and people make comments about how I read did honestly scar me so I know how it feels and it’s isn’t a very nice place to be. Mental health is so important so make sure you’re taking a break from revising and that kinda stuff to just have some time to yourself. You’re doing so well!! Literally you’re doing something that most people can’t and I think for what you’ve been through you’re doing really well! Also maybe speak to a doctor about maybe getting a bit of support maybe just someone to talk to it helped me. Even if you break down into tears it will honestly help talking to someone about it. Good luck with sixform
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    I have a friend who is like you. the best advice I've given her is that she has so many people out there who she can talk to or even email or phone. I'd say just take deep breaths. or chew gum which supposedly helps with nerves, if you need to talk PM me
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    Hi I also have mental health issues and on an injection every 4weeks. It all started like you described. I was so conscious of what other people might be saying about me and a lot of thought running through my mind until it all exploded one one day which meant I had an episode. In my case I didn't even realised I was experiencing mental health problems. In your case you are aware something is happening which is a good news to get help early. You said it all to talk to your parents or mentor. Please however hard it's for you, try to speak to these people especially your mentor. . She might just spread up a diagnosis to save the situation. Sorry for this worse time.
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    How about sending your mentor an email?S/he'll read it all and be able to best help you. Plus an email means you won't forget anything and you can construct it exactly as you want no jumbled thoughts. It sounds like you're struggling so I'd advise reaching out for help sooner rather than letting thing get worse.
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    There is lots of support available at uni but it's best if you can get a diagnosis of something. Please email your mentor and explain your concerns, if you can speak to an ed psych that would be super helpful - if not get a letter from your mentor to explain your difficulties and then the uni can provide you some appropriate support.
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    How about sending your mentor an email?S/he'll read it all and be able to best help you. Plus an email means you won't forget anything and you can construct it exactly as you want no jumbled thoughts. It sounds like you're struggling so I'd advise reaching out for help sooner rather than letting thing get worse.
    I Honestly don't think I'll be able to email my mentor. I've planned it all in my head About what im gonna write and then I started to write the email, then decided I just couldn't. I struggle opening up, I know it's serious but still feels like this huge barrier. I mean I can't even talk to my mum about it (who's the closest to me).. 😬 With that said my mentor has already realised that I'm getting stressed with the workload and she acknowledges that's the nature of work + for me to hand my assignments in on time I should write it all in my dairy so I don't forget (which I do most of the time).
    I'm getting work down (at least I think so) but that's only cause I have to. Therefore i now feel more like curling up in a ball,and hiding in a corner of my room. Everything is a little bit crazy so I'm sorry for being so pessimistic.
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    Hello I’m really sorry you are going through such a bad time I know how it feel to be have social anxiety I have it badly at the moment I’m 17 and have left so many things like sixform, college and two jobs because I mentally couldn’t deal with it. I get so shaken up when I have to talk to people in public speaking or even just a hello to someone. I have a social worker and she taught me that even tho you cannot control your reaction to the emotions aka feeling shaky dizzy and feeling sick but you can choose what to do in the sense that you can try and neither block out the feelings of worry or what people might think of you or even think about it it is much easier to coupe and just thinking what’s the worst that can actually happen? I’ve struggled from about year 10 and it all started from people being nasty to Me and when I had to do speaking in front of the whole class and people make comments about how I read did honestly scar me so I know how it feels and it’s isn’t a very nice place to be. Mental health is so important so make sure you’re taking a break from revising and that kinda stuff to just have some time to yourself. You’re doing so well!! Literally you’re doing something that most people can’t and I think for what you’ve been through you’re doing really well! Also maybe speak to a doctor about maybe getting a bit of support maybe just someone to talk to it helped me. Even if you break down into tears it will honestly help talking to someone about it. Good luck with sixform
    Thank you so much for what you said. Things were quite different b4 but it's changed a bit now - I have no ideas why or how. Sometimes I want to go back to that state of feeling deep guilt. Alough I am glad that I can get SOME work done st least.
    And I'm sorry you got teased in school, as you seem to be a lovely and friendly person. And I'm glad your work with ur social worker helped you.
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    Honestly, reading what you wrote is exactly like reading my overwhelming fears and stresses age 17, which seemed so crippling at the time. I can tell you now that in 6 years time, you're going to look back and think, what the hell was I stressing about? There are far more important things in life than all those things I used to pull my hair out over - like health and happiness for one. Don't make the mistake of neglecting those. Your priority should be looking after your mind and your body - because nothing else will work out if you don't look after those.

    Things will little by little (and even if that is extreeeemely gradually) get better with time - whether that's the way you relate to people or following the path you want. Life is a learning process and there's absolutely no way you're supposed to have figured out how to relate to people or have achieved all the things you want by the age 17.

    I'm sorry that it sounds like your doctor didn't take you seriously - I would absolutely most certainly see a counsellor or therapist if you're feeling overwhelmed. (I totally wish I'd done that sooner.) Don't be afraid to seek help and support from others when you need it.
 
 
 
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