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    I moved in a month late due to health reasons so skipped the whole 'everyone is new lets make small talk and get to know each other better stage', frankly, I don't care because I'm the worst at small talk.

    Anyway, I just have no motivation to be friends with them. They're nice and all (or seem so from the 20 seconds conversations I've had with them since moving in a couple weeks ago) but when I come home I just want to be alone. I'm not a chatty person so when I'm in the kitchen I don't want to talk, I just want to make food and retreat to the comfort of my room.

    They've invited me out a few times but I always say I'm busy or tired. My point is, is it weird I never feel like talking to them and don't plan to? I'm not rude to them or anything, if I see them I say 'hi' but that's that.
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    If you're living with them... you'd want to make some effort at times. Or at least I'd think so... but I wouldn't say it's too weird either. Maybe you just prefer your own company.
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    You sound like me haha. You don't need to be friends with them/socialise with them if you don't want to. I personally don't see an issue with it, maybe let them know so they understand that you're just an 'introverted' type of person, rather than being rude.

    When I was in your position (1st year in halls) I just told them I'm not sociable/fairly quiet and that it's not because I don't like them, I've just never been talkative/social. They got it, it wasn't a big deal. I don't think it's weird it's just that some people are more extroverted & introverted than others, but it is good for people on opposite ends of the spectrum to experience each other so they're aware some people don't talk as much and vice versa.

    With all that said, you'll find your people (if that's what you want - you don't have to) e.g. People who aren't into small talk either. It's all good, nothing to worry about
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    I’ve been with my flatmates for about 5-6 weeks now and I don’t talk to them a lot either. They’re really nice people so they’re not that fussy. I get on with my thing and they get on with theirs. Obviously when we see each other around in the flat or at uni we say hi and things like that, but other than that we get on with our own thing. If your flatmates are anything like mine then you should have no problem.
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    You don't have to be friends with them, but if they are inviting you out, it seems a shame to decline everytime!
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    They're pretty quiet too, I dont think any of them really hang out in the kitchen/living room. We mostly communicate through WhatsApp. But three of them seem to know each other well and the other one seems really friendly. Anyway, it is what it is. I just don't want to come across as a *****.
 
 
 
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