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    I have previously applied to university, found out on results day I was in, and then spent the rest of the day second guessing myself. Now I'm on an access course and reapplying to uni.
    The problem is I'm not sure if I made the right choice in not going this year. I think I may just not have been ready for university and the anxiety made me feel that I wanted to go to a university at home. Now I am reapplying I find myself drawn to the uni and course I was going to do this year!
    My biggest problem with all of this is that my family all think I want to go to a place closer to home, as that is what I was telling myself in August, and I'm unsure of how to explain I changed my mind back - I have tried to bring it up but my parents seem frustrated (and whilst I can understand why that is, it does bother me somewhat as ultimately I am the one that will be paying the price for my choice through actual debt and prospects when leaving), and my extended family seemed happy that I changed my mind :ashamed2:
    I have a selection of courses I'd be happy to do, but I'm not sure if I go with my gut and choose the uni I want as my first choice and most likely annoy or even upset my family, attempt to find a medium where I'm closer to home than I'd want to be but still not at home, or just go to the uni I had said I was going to after declining my offer on results day?! :headfire:
    Any advice would be greatly appreciated because I am at a total loss as what to do...
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    (Original post by littlebleu)
    I have previously applied to university, found out on results day I was in, and then spent the rest of the day second guessing myself. Now I'm on an access course and reapplying to uni.
    The problem is I'm not sure if I made the right choice in not going this year. I think I may just not have been ready for university and the anxiety made me feel that I wanted to go to a university at home. Now I am reapplying I find myself drawn to the uni and course I was going to do this year!
    My biggest problem with all of this is that my family all think I want to go to a place closer to home, as that is what I was telling myself in August, and I'm unsure of how to explain I changed my mind back - I have tried to bring it up but my parents seem frustrated (and whilst I can understand why that is, it does bother me somewhat as ultimately I am the one that will be paying the price for my choice through actual debt and prospects when leaving), and my extended family seemed happy that I changed my mind :ashamed2:
    I have a selection of courses I'd be happy to do, but I'm not sure if I go with my gut and choose the uni I want as my first choice and most likely annoy or even upset my family, attempt to find a medium where I'm closer to home than I'd want to be but still not at home, or just go to the uni I had said I was going to after declining my offer on results day?! :headfire:
    Any advice would be greatly appreciated because I am at a total loss as what to do...
    I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but honestly don't stress it.

    Choosing a University and a course is a big decision. You want to make sure you're happy with your decision. As much as we all love our familes you have to do what's right for yourself.

    Personally, i stayed at home for the entirity of my degree. I found a lot of benefits but also a lot of downsides too. It's great if you want to study and save money, but can be less helpful if you want to be a social butterfly and pick up important life skills.

    I think everyone in this forum will tell you to do what makes you happy. Even if it's reapplying for the same course you just declined. It might even work out for the best if you pickup a short term job and can save some money for your first year.

    Hope that helps
    Josh
 
 
 
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