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    I would say that I'm not normal. or if that's too vague, psychologically healthy. so am probably psychologically damaged by now.

    does anyone comes through this and remain a normal person?
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    It's much more common than you realize and there is no such thing as 'normal'.

    You could sit next to a 28 year old in a long term relationship who is abusive/emotionally manipulative etc - where would you and he be on the 'normal' scale then? Having a significant other does not make someone superior or mean they are 'normal'. Just look at a newspaper and see all the people in relationships/marriages who commit all sorts of crime etc. The best thing to do is focus on yourself and your happiness/personal growth - be the best version of yourself you can be and focus on your goals, regardless of whether that attracts others - do it for yourself first and foremost. Having a partner won't fix anything that is currently not right in your life - you need to be happy on your own rather than finding someone to make you happy.

    You're fine, stop over analyzing. Society has got it in your head that you should have had a gf by now, ignore society, focus on living life and working towards goals.

    I depended on someone for happiness and when they left I was completely depressed - that's not a good way to be. Don't put yourself in a position where your happiness is dependent on someone else. Have your own life/ambitions/dreams/interests etc and depend on yourself for happiness. If someone comes along that adds to it, then that's lovely - but never depend on it to get by. As for friends - I have 2 or 3, a couple years ago I had 0. I'm still the same person though and my mental health is dependent on my diet, exercise, hobbies and just being focused on the present and being grateful for what I have, rather than what I don't. I don't place any of my happiness in other human beings anymore - friends or partners, and it's done my mental health a world of good.

    Just focus on you, that's my best advice - just go out and do what makes you happy and focus on everything that is positive.
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    It's much more common than you realize and there is no such thing as 'normal'.

    You could sit next to a 28 year old in a long term relationship who is abusive/emotionally manipulative etc - where would you and he be on the 'normal' scale then? Having a significant other does not make someone superior or mean they are 'normal'. Just look at a newspaper and see all the people in relationships/marriages who commit all sorts of crime etc. The best thing to do is focus on yourself and your happiness/personal growth - be the best version of yourself you can be and focus on your goals, regardless of whether that attracts others - do it for yourself first and foremost. Having a partner won't fix anything that is currently not right in your life - you need to be happy on your own rather than finding someone to make you happy.

    You're fine, stop over analyzing. Society has got it in your head that you should have had a gf by now, ignore society, focus on living life and working towards goals.

    I depended on someone for happiness and when they left I was completely depressed - that's not a good way to be. Don't put yourself in a position where your happiness is dependent on someone else. Have your own life/ambitions/dreams/interests etc and depend on yourself for happiness. If someone comes along that adds to it, then that's lovely - but never depend on it to get by. As for friends - I have 2 or 3, a couple years ago I had 0. I'm still the same person though and my mental health is dependent on my diet, exercise, hobbies and just being focused on the present and being grateful for what I have, rather than what I don't. I don't place any of my happiness in other human beings anymore - friends or partners, and it's done my mental health a world of good.

    Just focus on you, that's my best advice - just go out and do what makes you happy and focus on everything that is positive.
    Very eloquent and beautiful reply
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      yes you are normal. It is just that you have not found people you click with.
     
     
     
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