Does anyone else find sex gross?

Basically, I'm a 20 year old who can't stand sex. Everytime I've tried anything sexual, beyond kissing, I've just felt dirty and disgusted. Thinking about anything sexual disgusts me. It's not like I've done stuff with people I haven't really liked, I've really liked everyone I've done sexual stuff with, until I've done it, and then I just can't stand them. I do fancy people, and (in the least arrogant way possible!) usually get the person I want as I'm fairly attractive, but I just can't stand sex.

Does anyone else out there feel like this? Everyone I know at uni thinks I'm WEIRD, and it'd be nice to know I'm not the only student out there who doesn't think sex is the best thing in the world!

Reply 1

randomgirl

14

I'd imagine you are not the only one to feel this way. Yes it's unusual but it does happen.

When you are actually doing sexual things do you feel gross? Or is it only afterwards?

Reply 2

beckyboo777

Maybe you've just got to find whats right for you

No.

Can't say I do.

Profesh

No.

:dito:

Reply 6

fairycakes

12

no, can't say i do.

what is about sex that makes you feel disgusted?

Reply 7

baba multicoloured sheep

no

Reply 8

Sweyn Forkbeard

19

I'm really sorry to hear that, OP. I can't imagine not enjoying sex at all. Can you think of any reason why you think it's so disgusting, and why you feel disgusted afterwards?

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

randomgirl

I'd imagine you are not the only one to feel this way. Yes it's unusual but it does happen.

When you are actually doing sexual things do you feel gross? Or is it only afterwards?

At the time I tend to feel kind of bored to be honest, but thinking about it afterwards, or just thinking about anything sexual at all, repulses me.

And I don't know what it is about sexual things I find gross, I guess on the simplest level it's just that I find it quite primitive and thus 'dirty' but it isn't this alone that disgusts me, I really can't explain it! :confused:

Reply 10

Laevis

13

"Some say sex is over rated, but they just ain't doing it right." :jiggy:

Reply 11

squeak

21

if you want to enjoy sex, why not try going to a sex counsellor or something? unless you're just seeing if anyone else feels the same; in which case, I'll have to say no.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

squeak

if you want to enjoy sex, why not try going to a sex counsellor or something? unless you're just seeing if anyone else feels the same; in which case, I'll have to say no.

I dunno, I guess I find it kind of embarrassing as, as this thread's proved, I think my attitude towards sex is unusual to say the least?

Also, I'm not in a relationship at the moment, and I kind of always hope that with the next person it will be different.

Reply 13

different?

2

Anonymous

I think my attitude towards sex is unusual to say the least?

I can sympathise and I know people think it's freakish. I'm just hoping that I change when I'm actually with someone.

Reply 14

squeak

21

well, I'm pretty sure I have read a couple of other threads really similar to this one before.

a lot of people will say you're a weirdo, but it's something you don't like, people should respect that.

I think that if you keep replaying to yourself how gross sex is, you won't ever enjoy it, and you never know; with the next person it might actually be different.

Why don't you maybe try trying to familiarise yourself with the act of sex, by watching softcore porn, or movies with sex scenes in. then you might be able to see that it can be incredibly romantic, or really sexy... and not something to be ashamed of.

I can completely understand where you are coming from, but it is a natural act. if you love someone, you want to be as close to them as you can, you want to please them you want pleasure back and you find them irrestistable... maybe you just havent found the right guy yet.

I hope you do find him.

Reply 15

Inersha

6

Maybe if you talk about how you feel with the right person it might help the both of you and you might feel less uncomfortable. I'm sure that you are not the only one that feels this way though.

Reply 16

Helenia

20

Anonymous

I dunno, I guess I find it kind of embarrassing as, as this thread's proved, I think my attitude towards sex is unusual to say the least?

Also, I'm not in a relationship at the moment, and I kind of always hope that with the next person it will be different.

I'm not really sure I have any advice, but I'd be interested to know a couple of things (which might help us out in thinking what to do next)

Do you actually get horny/want sex ever? Do you have sexual thoughts about other people/situations? Do you masturbate?

If you do all these things and are happy with that, but don't like actual sexual activity, then it's probably more to do with who/what you're doing and some hidden psychological issues. If you don't have sexual thoughts at all then it's probably a more complicated problem and not one that's going to be solved by trying to watch porn or whatever.

To be honest, while I personally don't really relate to it, if you really don't LIKE sex at all, I guess there's no reason you should feel like you have to do it just because of society pressure. If you're genuinely happy not having sex, who cares if everyone else is at it?

Reply 17

Morbo

17

I find sex disgusting, hilarious and awesome all at the same time.

Reply 18

Barny

17

Sex is gross, but that's what makes it so good!

Reply 19

Nalced

14

I just find sex messy.

You know, doing it, trying to find the right place, then location location.
Where to put them legs, should you go top, flop on top, side ways, let her on top. Whos more dominant, who should do more talking.
plus, you have the pause to put on the condom at the every start.

Dirty? Sometimes. But I find it more messy than dirty.

Does anyone else find sex gross?

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