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    Just a query .. Or curiosity.. But, obviously, this shouldn't be taken as an universal law, as for sure there are some extrovert British people either .. But , talking about my own experience, most (not all) of the British I've met are particularly reserved , some even quite difficult and introvert to be socialising with.. .So, this could be obviously a great obstacle to extablishing friendship or any other intimate bonds..

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    (Original post by Ling91)
    Just a query .. Or curiosity .. As sometime this could be an obstacle to socialising ..
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    British myself, and no idea to be honest. I sort of prefer it that way XD We're all friendly and will gladly invite you round for tea & crumpets and have a good natter about the weather.

    I'm definitely less talkative and more restrained in public compared to TSR...
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    I think it dates back to Oliver Cromwell's time, aided and abetted by Queen Victoria and then the school system we used to have.
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    (Original post by Blue_Cow)
    British myself, and no idea to be honest. I sort of prefer it that way XD We're all friendly and will gladly invite you round for tea & crumpets and have a good natter about the weather.

    I'm definitely less talkative and more restrained in public compared to TSR...
    Ahahah sounds good, I like tea and crumpets, that is a lovely combination to go with 😋 Hmm.. Just wondering .. Would it be possibly related more to an educational factor .. or more to something dealing with a protection barrier ..So a sort of mean to self protecting from strangers ..
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    (Original post by Ling91)
    Just a query .. Or curiosity.. But, obviously, this shouldn't be taken as an universal law, as for sure there are some extrovert British people either .. But , talking about my own experience, most (not all) of the British I've met are particularly reserved , some even quite difficult and introvert to be socialising with.. .So, this could be obviously a great obstacle to extablishing friendship or any other intimate bonds..

    Many thanks for your eventual replies!

    Wish everyone a good weekend,

    Ling
    Polite and respect, go to America to see what people be like if they not reserve.
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    (Original post by Ling91)
    Just a query .. Or curiosity.. But, obviously, this shouldn't be taken as an universal law, as for sure there are some extrovert British people either .. But , talking about my own experience, most (not all) of the British I've met are particularly reserved , some even quite difficult and introvert to be socialising with.. .So, this could be obviously a great obstacle to extablishing friendship or any other intimate bonds..

    Many thanks for your eventual replies!

    Wish everyone a good weekend,

    Ling
    I think British society strongly encourages a reserved and polite mannerism. From a very young age, one is taught how to behave in public and there is the adage of the "stiff upper lip" and showing self-restraint.

    I dont think it is a bad or good thing, it is just a different way of life. For example, Japanese have a different way of living than the Igbos or French
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    I think British society strongly encourages a reserved and polite mannerism. From a very young age, one is taught how to behave in public and there is the adage of the "stiff upper lip" and showing self-restraint.

    I dont think it is a bad or good thing, it is just a different way of life. For example, Japanese have a different way of living than the Igbos or French
    I think we should close this thread, feels like this is the correct answer.
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    Modern Brits aren't reserved at all.
    They are emotionally incontinent and often demonstrate this through their prolific use of Twitter and Facebook.
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    (Original post by ckfeister)
    Polite and respect, go to America to see what people be like if they not reserve.
    Now, I'm curious .. How are the Americans, then ..? Are they generally very different from the British in terms of good manners ..?
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    (Original post by RivalPlayer)
    Modern Brits aren't reserved at all.
    They are emotionally incontinent and often demonstrate this through their prolific use of Twitter and Facebook.
    I feel that, despite of the younger generation they belong to, in real life they are still reserved. Social media is just a vehicle to pour their emotions out, as in their concrete lives, they are unfortunately not allowed to.. Being emotional or extrovert is something that you can hardly see in the British society.. It may be possibly part of being ''politically correct..''(?)
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    I think British society strongly encourages a reserved and polite mannerism. From a very young age, one is taught how to behave in public and there is the adage of the "stiff upper lip" and showing self-restraint.

    I dont think it is a bad or good thing, it is just a different way of life. For example, Japanese have a different way of living than the Igbos or French
    Yes, you are definitely right. But, sometime, having a conversation can be a bit frustrating, because you won't really know what the other person might actually think upon a certain or a few matters, as they are not gonna tell you. 😕
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    (Original post by Ling91)
    Yes, you are definitely right. But, sometime, having a conversation can be a bit frustrating, because you won't really know what the other person might actually think upon a certain or a few matters, as they are not gonna tell you. 😕
    You just have to get to know the Brit that you are engaging with on a more personal level.
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    (Original post by Ling91)
    Now, I'm curious .. How are the Americans, then ..? Are they generally very different from the British in terms of good manners ..?
    Well from the one I know they are nicer than Brits but also more brutual, I'm not that British myself even though born and raised here.
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    (Original post by ckfeister)
    Well from the one I know they are nicer than Brits but also more brutual, I'm not that British myself even though born and raised here.
    Doesn't being born in Britain make you British???
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    Maybe it's 'cause we live on an ireland lol
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    You just have to get to know the Brit that you are engaging with on a more personal level.
    Well, not easy to know someone in a more personal level, if not many opportunities are normally being created .. Getting people know as friends or even just more superficially is not easy at all if they won't be even approached .. For a start, I've noticed people in the U.K. tend to avoid eye contact very often, not just on the streets or on the bus among strangers, but also face to face ..
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    (Original post by KawaiiArtist)
    Maybe it's 'cause we live on an ireland lol
    Ahaha, did you mean on an 'island' maybe..? 😆
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    (Original post by Ling91)
    Ahaha, did you mean on an 'island' maybe..? 😆
    I think so xD

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    (Original post by Blue_Cow)
    British myself, and no idea to be honest. I sort of prefer it that way XD We're all friendly and will gladly invite you round for tea & crumpets and have a good natter about the weather.

    I'm definitely less talkative and more restrained in public compared to TSR...
    you must be a northerner....us northerners are generally more friendly
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    (Original post by Paisley99)
    you must be a northerner....us northerners are generally more friendly
    I'm a Southerner XD
 
 
 
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