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    (Original post by Blue_Cow)
    I'm a Southerner XD
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    I don't understand, do people from other countries just walk up to strangers in the street and start a conversation, for no reason?
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    (Original post by Paisley99)
    you must be a northerner....us northerners are generally more friendly
    Unfortunately, I'm not often being asked to join someone for a cup of tea neither for crumpets 😔😓 In Italy and in several part of South East Asia, you may find commonly quite a few people inviting you for a cup of coffee or for a tea! This happens on a daily basis, regardless of how close or not you are with that particular person or those particular people..
    So, are you saying that Northern English are much more friendly then the Southern one ..?
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    (Original post by Paisley99)
    you must be a northerner....us northerners are generally more friendly
    I'm southern and I'm friendly. Its the big city people who are cold *******s, typically. I'm from countryside which is quite Northern in social terms, we are the poorer side of Southeast though.

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    Doesn't being born in Britain make you British???
    No, not really I did say " part " I do not relate to British people, all of my friends are migrants, ethnic minorities or people international.
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    (Original post by Ling91)
    Unfortunately, I'm not often being asked to join someone for a cup of tea neither for crumpets 😔😓 In Italy and in several part of South East Asia, you may find commonly quite a few people inviting you for a cup of coffee or for a tea! This happens on a daily basis, regardless of how close or not you are with that particular person or those particular people..
    So, are you saying that Northern English are much more friendly then the Southern one ..?
    Definitely what i'm saying. That's what i have found anyway since being at uni and others I've talked to agree with me. See for yourself. Where are you living?
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    (Original post by SCIENCE :D)
    I don't understand, do people from other countries just walk up to strangers in the street and start a conversation, for no reason?
    Well, you may find this in some countries , less likely (unlikely) in Northern European countries .. In Italy and in Spain is not that rare to find people who will start a conversation by chance at the bus stop/ on a bus/ on the train or in a shop, just for the sake of having a conversation or to kill the time if there is a long wait.. In some South East Asian countries , you might be even approached by people with a smile and a greeting, eventually followed by: 'Hi there, are you ok, guys ?' Where are you from..?'
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    (Original post by Paisley99)
    Definitely what i'm saying. That's what i have found anyway since being at uni and others I've talked to agree with me. See for yourself. Where are you living?
    In North Wales 😶 And yourself ?
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    I suppose it's just down to how we're socialised and our own British culture more than anything. Like in America you could argue that acting extroverted is a lot more encouraged whilst in the UK people might find that rude or annoying.
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    Maybe as children we are told to keep more to ourselves. I remember being taught not to brag or point out something to someone that could hurt their feelings. Maybe we just think about what we say more.
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    (Original post by Luckystars500)
    Maybe as children we are told to keep more to ourselves. I remember being taught not to brag or point out something to someone that could hurt their feelings. Maybe we just think about what we say more.
    Fair enough. But what happened if.. Something which could potentially hurt somebody's feeling is the TRUTH and you want that person to be aware of this, because you just want to be honest and fair with that person .. ? I'm not taking about offensive/ discriminating or racist contents ..
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    (Original post by Ling91)
    Fair enough. But what happened if.. Something which could potentially hurt somebody's feeling is the TRUTH and you want that person to be aware of this, because you just want to be honest and fair with that person .. ? I'm not taking about offensive/ discriminating or racist contents ..
    I don't hold back if I believe it is necessary for them to know. But I would have to stop and ask myself do the need to know or would I just be saying it to hurt their feelings. I look forward and if I think them knowing this will make their future brighter then I will tell them.
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    (Original post by Luckystars500)
    I don't hold back if I believe it is necessary for them to know. But I would have to stop and ask myself do the need to know or would I just be saying it to hurt their feelings. I look forward and if I think them knowing this will make their future brighter then I will tell them.
    Fair point. I do really wish my colleagues and many other people do think the same. Sometime you realise how it's hard when you don't get any sort of feedback from others, especially at work.
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    because that's our culture, to be more reserved and quiet rather than our more outgoing and brasher cousins across the pond.
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    I think British society strongly encourages a reserved and polite mannerism. From a very young age, one is taught how to behave in public and there is the adage of the "stiff upper lip" and showing self-restraint.

    I dont think it is a bad or good thing, it is just a different way of life. For example, Japanese have a different way of living than the Igbos or French
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    (Original post by Ling91)
    Well, not easy to know someone in a more personal level, if not many opportunities are normally being created .. Getting people know as friends or even just more superficially is not easy at all if they won't be even approached .. For a start, I've noticed people in the U.K. tend to avoid eye contact very often, not just on the streets or on the bus among strangers, but also face to face ..
    Keep trying. Sooner or later, you will break through
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    (Original post by shameful_burrito)
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    (Original post by Ling91)
    Just a query .. Or curiosity.. But, obviously, this shouldn't be taken as an universal law, as for sure there are some extrovert British people either .. But , talking about my own experience, most (not all) of the British I've met are particularly reserved , some even quite difficult and introvert to be socialising with.. .So, this could be obviously a great obstacle to extablishing friendship or any other intimate bonds..

    Many thanks for your eventual replies!

    Wish everyone a good weekend,

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    It's actually racism as I find them also to be very patronising to me.
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    (Original post by ckfeister)
    Well from the one I know they are nicer than Brits but also more brutual, I'm not that British myself even though born and raised here.
    Tbh I prefer that, all the Americans compared to British I've met are much friendlier and more honest !
    They should be more like that here in the UK, would be less depressing.
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    "Girl said take off your jacket"
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    probably because they knock the confidence out of you at an early age here :flute:

    or maybe it's just cause people learn to be less trusting of one another, especially in cities

    idk - i have a few theories, all of which are complete sh*t hahaha
 
 
 
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