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    I understand I shouldn't of had sex with him so early but I just came out of an abusive relationship and was vulnerable.

    So I have known this guy since 31st August this year. I speak to him nearly everyday and I have been out with him a a lot like bars cinema restaurants clubs ext he always takes me to nice places and pays

    He has come to my house a couple times but he is trying to do the whole come over at 10pm 9pm times aka booty call
    We are not boyfriend and girlfriend and actually he has said a few times about me to not fall in love with him

    I have expressed to him in not a booty call and he always claims I'm not

    However again today he has said " so should I come over"
    Like he invites himself to my house

    I have never been to his house even though he apparently lives alone and always says I "will" come

    I'm just over this now tbh all of it just puts me off plus he has asked me for nudes twice which I have said no and he tried to convince me to do it

    How do I tell him basically one don't invite yourself to my house and that his behaviour is putting me off
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    You have to tell him straight that he needs to stop bothering you. He has made it clear that he is not interested in a relationship and he only wants sex from you. Tell him you don't want anything to do with him and for him to stop contacting you. You shouldn't be forced into doing something you aren't comfortable with. If needs be, delete him from social media and block his phone number.

    I think you need to be alone for a while, just to find your self confidence again. I think your first relationship really damaged your self-esteem, and this guy made it ten times worse. Find that you are happy to be your own person and make a good circle of friends. Don't depend on a guy to prove your self worth.
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    Thank you
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    TBH he sounds like an *******. I would move on. You have told him you're not a booty calla nd you've said no to nudes and he's still asking - he clearly doesn't respect your boundaries. And even if you speak about this instance the overall problem will probably come up again in the future. It's pretty common for people to get into multiple abusive relationships so heed the warning signs and find someone who respects you.
 
 
 
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