It might sound weird but i often feel low and cry about losing my mum even though shes alive and healthy (though in her early 60's). . I'l watch sad youtube clips like dumbo being seperated from his mum and know that my life will be hell when im old. Im an only child and have never really had friends. Id like to marry and settle down soon but cant bear the thought of being pregnant so that pretty much rules out me having a family for company. I dwell on the future a lot.
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- Thread Starter
- 03-11-2017 01:49
- 03-11-2017 02:50
Omg this is me, I totally do the same thing sometimes just to a different extent. I'm usually not watching YouTube videos lol. But anyways this is all apart of life and there is absolutely no way of preparing yourself for these hard times in your life, you just have to jump in head first and do it and let these things happen as they come. You can't dwell on the past, or worry about the future. Focus about what is going on right now. Live in the moment.
- 03-11-2017 02:53
Also I know it's hard and you do have to think about the future sometimes, you can't just ignore what you're going to do or what will happen because that just won't work. But with things such as those you've listed try not to dwell on these sad issues too much. Some definitely will happen and there is absolutely no way of stopping it so just try not to freak yourself out too much. Maybe just stop watching video clips and feeding the flame?
- 03-11-2017 03:36
Yeah I've had those worries myself too, thats why I went on a mission to ensure that my mum is the image of good health and make sure she eats right, exercises regularly, takes all her meds and most importantly keeps herself calm and free from stress. Shouldn't stress about it too much, in todays day and age most people are living beyond the age of 80.
and as for you not wanting to be pregnant, you can always adopt. or just find a man who also doesn't want any kids too. don't put off marriage for that sole reason. also do you have any cousins? try getting close to them too.
- 03-11-2017 04:14
I think young people nowadays do worry about the future, more so than my generation. Life is much faster now than it was when I was your age. You have to have to hope for yourselves and try to find at least one positive thing about the future. When I was younger, I used to worry that I would never find someone who would love me and have children with me.
I have been married twice - widowed once and divorced once, 7 children, 16 grandchildren and about to be 17th, and there you go. You don't have to marry and have children to be happy. And having a family doesn't always make you happy. There are bad times too, just like in how everyone lives their lives.X