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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Wrong Wrong Wrong. You will feel alienated. I felt this in school when someone stupidily guessed as i was autistic and then the whole year aggravated me. Treated me differently and mocked me.

    Interestingly, and i'm not being racist because i am black, the black community does not take people likely with any mental health issues so mentioning autism would make you feel like utter ****. Hence the hostility i get from my parents.

    OP, just keep it a secret. If you're really different just say you have social anxiety or something
    You need to stop being so negative. Not everyone is like the people you mention.
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    (Original post by doodle_333)
    If you want to tell them but don't want to freak them out then 1. you want to limit the 'scary info' for example don't also tell them about all your family issues and mental health problems at the same time... and 2. try and keep the conversation positive and open - for example if you can tell them specific helpful things then they will probably be happier because they feel like they can help and if you make it clear they can tell you if you did something wrong then they won't feel so under pressure (and it's good for you too as you can learn from mistakes)
    Yeah this is what I've tried to do. Had a productive chat about it with one of them last night and I feel like he gets me now. And yeah, I try not to lay down anything to heavy 😂😂 don't want to scare people 😂
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Wrong Wrong Wrong. You will feel alienated. I felt this in school when someone stupidily guessed as i was autistic and then the whole year aggravated me. Treated me differently and mocked me.

    Interestingly, and i'm not being racist because i am black, the black community does not take people likely with any mental health issues so mentioning autism would make you feel like utter ****. Hence the hostility i get from my parents.

    OP, just keep it a secret. If you're really different just say you have social anxiety or something
    Sorry you've had such a negative experience :/ I feel like adults are a bit more mature and no decent person would treat you like that at uni.
    My original question was more looking for ways to phrase what autism is, as I've already told everyone I am in a kind of off handed way.
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    (Original post by elmosandy)
    Aspergers is high functioning autism.

    I used to hide it but I just tell people now. Yes it annoys me when some people want to argue how I can't be autistic, but I realised now most people don't care or they've forgotten what autism is.
    btw guy Aspergers is under the autism spectrum disorder and it is not
    in fact high functioning autism
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    (Original post by ishotupcolombine)
    btw guy Aspergers is under the autism spectrum disorder and it is not
    in fact high functioning autism
    Really? I swear it is. Also ‘ high functioning autism ‘ is not an official diagnosis it’s just a term used for people on the higher end of the spectrum but not as survivor as aspergers ? And yes no one said aspergers is not an autistic spectrum disorder ( eel at least I didn’t )
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    (Original post by elmosandy)
    Really? I swear it is. Also ‘ high functioning autism ‘ is not an official diagnosis it’s just a term used for people on the higher end of the spectrum but not as survivor as aspergers ? And yes no one said aspergers is not an autistic spectrum disorder ( eel at least I didn’t )
    I thought that since they reformed the profile it all falls under autistic spectrum disorder, and they now say which profile you fit. So my friend was diagnosed as "Autistic Spectrum Disorder (high functioning / Aspergers profile)" I haven't had my official diagnosis through yet but was told I'd probably fit the same profile as her. I dunno tho 😂😂
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      Hey so I'm just having trouble sleeping and this is really bugging me.
      I was recently diagnosed as autistic, and I'm first year undergraduate, living in halls, and I want to work out the best way to explain to my flatmates that I'm not being rude / antisocial, it's just sometimes I'm blunt / stand-off-ish / don't like to be touched / get sensory overloads / don't know what to say in silences because I'm autistic. I've said it kind of off the cuff in a jokey way, but I want them to understand me, because I really like them all, but sometimes I feel kind of eggy after talking to them, like I made a faux pas or something. I just don't know how to explain the things that I struggle with without sounding like a victim / really negative / attention seeking. It also makes me really tired because I really have to think carefully and get really anxious around them because I want them to like me because I really like them. I have some pretty deep issues besides the whole autism thing (lots of family stuff, mental health stuff, bullying, self-esteem, you name it, the usual crap), and I don't want people to be put off me just because I'm quite complicated??
      It just gets me really down that I can't seem to get it right with them. I feel like if they understood what I struggle with they'd understand my behaviour better.
      I really struggle with personal relationships, so I really value the ones I have, and I want to be good friends with these people.
      This probably sounds pathetic but it's 2am and I can't sleep, and was wondering how other people explain autism to people who probably have very little idea about what it entails?
      Also on anon cos I'm p embarrassed about this, because I always knew I was kind of autistic, but I thought it was just mild, but they said I fit the Aspergers profile so... Basically I'm just hyper aware of everything I do now and it's a difficult time anyway, starting afresh, meeting new people. I just have no confidence.
      I normally explain it using cpu architectures as an analogy: NTs are based on Intel cpus; we're based on, say, Qualcomm ones.
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      I thought that since they reformed the profile it all falls under autistic spectrum disorder, and they now say which profile you fit. So my friend was diagnosed as "Autistic Spectrum Disorder (high functioning / Aspergers profile)" I haven't had my official diagnosis through yet but was told I'd probably fit the same profile as her. I dunno tho 😂😂
      Yeah aspergers is high functioning autism and is a disorder on the autism spectrum. But there’s also high functioning autism which isn’t a official diagnosis but a term used for people on the higher end of the spectrum but I think higher than aspergers and PDD-NOS meaning you have a lot of autistic traits but not enough to be consider high functioning and aspergers
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      (Original post by Tootles)
      I normally explain it using cpu architectures as an analogy: NTs are based on Intel cpus; we're based on, say, Qualcomm ones.
      That's quite a fun way of putting it! Not sure my friends know enough about computers to get that - I'm the most tech-literate of them, not to fit the stereotype or anything! 😂
      So far I've managed to ease the concept into conversations, like if I haven't understood some sarcasm, I've just pointed out that's something I'm not great with, or if I haven't been overly keen to be hugged I've told them about my touch therapy (when I was 5 my mum had to brush me with this plastic brush to desensitise me to touch because at that point it was difficult to wash me etc...). I try not to make a big deal of it, but have been carefully explaining if various things come up. So far my flatmates have been so lovely and supportive.
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      (Original post by elmosandy)
      Yeah aspergers is high functioning autism and is a disorder on the autism spectrum. But there’s also high functioning autism which isn’t a official diagnosis but a term used for people on the higher end of the spectrum but I think higher than aspergers and PDD-NOS meaning you have a lot of autistic traits but not enough to be consider high functioning and aspergers
      Yeah that sounds right. All the words are a bit confusing!! I'm guessing whenever I get my official assessment and report done they'll explain whatever type I am! 😂
      (I've only been assessed by an educational psychologist, so they aren't qualified to give an official diagnosis, but I did score 43 on the ASQ, and he said in his professional opinion I fitted the aspergers profile. Still on waiting list for my official assessment, maybe I should ask my dad about it as he's a psychiatrist, although his specialism isn't in autism.)
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      Hey so I'm just having trouble sleeping and this is really bugging me.
      I was recently diagnosed as autistic, and I'm first year undergraduate, living in halls, and I want to work out the best way to explain to my flatmates that I'm not being rude / antisocial, it's just sometimes I'm blunt / stand-off-ish / don't like to be touched / get sensory overloads / don't know what to say in silences because I'm autistic. I've said it kind of off the cuff in a jokey way, but I want them to understand me, because I really like them all, but sometimes I feel kind of eggy after talking to them, like I made a faux pas or something. I just don't know how to explain the things that I struggle with without sounding like a victim / really negative / attention seeking. It also makes me really tired because I really have to think carefully and get really anxious around them because I want them to like me because I really like them. I have some pretty deep issues besides the whole autism thing (lots of family stuff, mental health stuff, bullying, self-esteem, you name it, the usual crap), and I don't want people to be put off me just because I'm quite complicated??
      It just gets me really down that I can't seem to get it right with them. I feel like if they understood what I struggle with they'd understand my behaviour better.
      I really struggle with personal relationships, so I really value the ones I have, and I want to be good friends with these people.
      This probably sounds pathetic but it's 2am and I can't sleep, and was wondering how other people explain autism to people who probably have very little idea about what it entails?
      Also on anon cos I'm p embarrassed about this, because I always knew I was kind of autistic, but I thought it was just mild, but they said I fit the Aspergers profile so... Basically I'm just hyper aware of everything I do now and it's a difficult time anyway, starting afresh, meeting new people. I just have no confidence.
      TBH so many things like this are so difficult to approach, and I think the other thing is, if you were diagnosed recently, you may have been made hyper-aware of all the tendancies associated with Autism, whereas you may usually have been slightly less aware? And then with moving into halls as well, the massive shift and new space wouldn't help...

      Nevertheless, maybe do you all eat meals together or something? Literally phrase it in a similar way to how you did initially on here, about how you just don't want your actions to be misinterpreted, and it's just something you can't help, but that you want to be good friends and you do enjoy their company etc.! If they're as nicer people as they sound from what you've said, hopefully they'll completely get it, or maybe approach them one by one? Whatever you would be more confident doing!

      In the end, just do whatever you're happy with, to make you happy, and trust me what I say the right people will accept you for you were, despite and even because of any of your quirks ~ autism isn't necessarily a bad thing; it's a way to see the world differently, and that different perspective can lead to many great things!
     
     
     
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