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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Seriously I always thought it would be simple with guys but its proven difficult
    We are simple lol. It's not hard to gage a guy's interest. Idk what you're doing wrong.... I guess make it explicitly clear and recommend that you guys should hang out, like see a movie or something. IDK
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    (Original post by eden3)
    We are simple lol. It's not hard to gage a guy's interest. Idk what you're doing wrong.... I guess make it explicitly clear and recommend that you guys should hang out, like see a movie or something. IDK
    Turns out he has a crush on another girl lmao damn
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Turns out he has a crush on another girl lmao damn
    LOL

    just chat to someone else
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    (Original post by hannxm)
    Act like you're uninterested in him and he'll be begging for your attention.
    if you act uninterested he will think you are uninterested and give up on you.
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    (Original post by eden3)
    LOL

    just chat to someone else
    urghhhh ye i guess, honestly dont seem to know anyone else so far that I would like in that way
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    (Original post by Froppy)
    if you act uninterested he will think you are uninterested and give up on you.
    turns out he has a crush on another girl anyway...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    turns out he has a crush on another girl anyway...
    sorry to hear ..i guess the only logical thing to do now is... ELIMINATE HER! O_O but really theres "loads more fish in the sea" and all that jazz, hold your head up high and keep smiling.
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    (Original post by Froppy)
    sorry to hear ..i guess the only logical thing to do now is... ELIMINATE HER! O_O but really theres "loads more fish in the sea" and all that jazz, hold your head up high and keep smiling.
    Thank youuu! I’m sure I’ll get over him, it was just a little crush i guess
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    (Original post by Froppy)
    if you act uninterested he will think you are uninterested and give up on you.
    In my experience, the more I ignore a guy (because I genuinely don't want to date him), he just contacts me more and gets more needy. The one time I gave a guy all of my attention and showed how much I wanted him, the more he moved away. Guys want what they can't have.
    A guy asked me on a date and I made him wait a few days because I didn't speak to him long enough (a genuine thing of mine, not in order to play "hard to get") and he said that he wanted me more because I made him wait and he viewed it as a challenge. However, guys like that tend to get bored if they do get you, as the challenge has gone. You have to keep that challenge up until they fall in love with you.
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    (Original post by hannxm)
    In my experience, the more I ignore a guy (because I genuinely don't want to date him), he just contacts me more and gets more needy. The one time I gave a guy all of my attention and showed how much I wanted him, the more he moved away. Guys want what they can't have.
    A guy asked me on a date and I made him wait a few days because I didn't speak to him long enough (a genuine thing of mine, not in order to play "hard to get" and he said that he wanted me more because I made him wait and he viewed it as a challenge. However, guys like that tend to get bored if they do get you, as the challenge has gone. You have to keep that challenge up until they fall in love with you.
    Strange >_< ...It most likely depends on the type of guy then i guess. Personally If i was to try to be nice to a girl and she brushed me off or pretended like i didn't exist it would kind of annoy me. Then i would think she must not be interested or already be in a relationship so theres no point trying to chase her.
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    (Original post by hannxm)
    In my experience, the more I ignore a guy (because I genuinely don't want to date him), he just contacts me more and gets more needy. The one time I gave a guy all of my attention and showed how much I wanted him, the more he moved away. Guys want what they can't have.
    A guy asked me on a date and I made him wait a few days because I didn't speak to him long enough (a genuine thing of mine, not in order to play "hard to get" and he said that he wanted me more because I made him wait and he viewed it as a challenge. However, guys like that tend to get bored if they do get you, as the challenge has gone. You have to keep that challenge up until they fall in love with you.
    You sound like my really dramatic female friend that I would never date even though she's hot lmao. Always has silly mind games and plans that ruin her relationships. Then she ends up asking me what went wrong :laugh: It's the whole "play stupid games win stupid prizes" thing. The prize is ending up with a guy that gets bored and dumps you. This is how you end up in a dramatic relationship rofl.
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    Tag him in the latest memes
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    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    You sound like my really dramatic female friend that I would never date even though she's hot lmao. Always has silly mind games and plans that ruin her relationships. Then she ends up asking me what went wrong :laugh: It's the whole "play stupid games win stupid prizes" thing. The prize is ending up with a guy that gets bored and dumps you. This is how you end up in a dramatic relationship rofl.
    Great assumption, but it works out fine for me. Your friend needs to sort out her 'game'. 😂
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    (Original post by hannxm)
    In my experience, the more I ignore a guy (because I genuinely don't want to date him), he just contacts me more and gets more needy. The one time I gave a guy all of my attention and showed how much I wanted him, the more he moved away. Guys want what they can't have.
    A guy asked me on a date and I made him wait a few days because I didn't speak to him long enough (a genuine thing of mine, not in order to play "hard to get" and he said that he wanted me more because I made him wait and he viewed it as a challenge. However, guys like that tend to get bored if they do get you, as the challenge has gone. You have to keep that challenge up until they fall in love with you.
    You sound like a really nasty person to date. Essentially all you are doing is wasting other people's time, so you can feel good about yourself while you let him chase after you. This is the sort of behavior I find extremely pointless and quite frankly disgusting. Maybe you should take a good long look in the mirror and figure out why you do not care that you are wasting other people's time in return for making yourself feel good.
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    (Original post by RedGiant)
    You sound like a really nasty person to date. Essentially all you are doing is wasting other people's time, so you can feel good about yourself while you let him chase after you. This is the sort of behavior I find extremely pointless and quite frankly disgusting. Maybe you should take a good long look in the mirror and figure out why you do not care that you are wasting other people's time in return for making yourself feel good.
    That's your opinion. You don't know me personally and certainly haven't dated me to realise what it is like to date me so I'm not too concerned. 😊 If I don't like a guy, I tell him straight up but it's their decision to continue so I'm not wasting anyone's time. I don't know why seeing as I'm such an awful human being.
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    (Original post by Froppy)
    Strange >_< ...It most likely depends on the type of guy then i guess. Personally If i was to try to be nice to a girl and she brushed me off or pretended like i didn't exist it would kind of annoy me. Then i would think she must not be interested or already be in a relationship so theres no point trying to chase her.
    I have a guy messaging me all the time and I've told him I don't wish to date him but he still asks me to text him, asks me out and calls me beautiful all the time. He's not getting the message that I only want friendship, even if I slapped him across the face with it, yet I am the one viewed as the person who is time wasting and playing games.

    You would likely understand that message and not try any further but many guys just continue and when they've been rejected about 5 times, they get angry, think they're entitled to you, sometimes insult you and then tell people that you misled them and wasted their time. A lot of "nice guy" rage.

    I've also spoken to guys and they've assumed that I was being off with them when it is simply how I type so then they give up. Then other guys are blissfully unaware that you're actually getting annoyed with them.

    People think I'm rude when I ignore them but I'm not daft. A guy I never spoke to from high school suddenly pops up years later with kisses, suddenly interested in your life is the biggest clue and if I do respond, it gives them a level of hope or I get into the cycle of trying to tell them that I do not wish to date. I'd rather just ignore the whole situation and for them to see that it's not going to go anywhere rather than give them false hope. Don't you think that's fair?
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    Pretend you're talking to one of your friends. Forget that you're talking to a really cute boy. Also you want to develop a relationship with this person whether that be friend or something more. Find out about them by asking them about themselves. Ask if they play sport, what music they listen to or what bands they like. Find some common ground and see what you have in common so that you can delve into further conversation.
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    (Original post by hannxm)
    I have a guy messaging me all the time and I've told him I don't wish to date him but he still asks me to text him, asks me out and calls me beautiful all the time. He's not getting the message that I only want friendship, even if I slapped him across the face with it, yet I am the one viewed as the person who is time wasting and playing games.

    You would likely understand that message and not try any further but many guys just continue and when they've been rejected about 5 times, they get angry, think they're entitled to you, sometimes insult you and then tell people that you misled them and wasted their time. A lot of "nice guy" rage.

    I've also spoken to guys and they've assumed that I was being off with them when it is simply how I type so then they give up. Then other guys are blissfully unaware that you're actually getting annoyed with them.

    People think I'm rude when I ignore them but I'm not daft. A guy I never spoke to from high school suddenly pops up years later with kisses, suddenly interested in your life is the biggest clue and if I do respond, it gives them a level of hope or I get into the cycle of trying to tell them that I do not wish to date. I'd rather just ignore the whole situation and for them to see that it's not going to go anywhere rather than give them false hope. Don't you think that's fair?
    I think its perfectly fair to ignore the thirsty weirdos that pester you even though you've clearly stated your not interested. No one is arguing with that. However I don't think you should ignore decent guys you actually have a crush on if you want them to like you...which is the point of this thread >_<. Just my opinion of course.
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    Obviously all guys are different however if you just give him some attention (ask questions, have a conversation, compliments you know ways to get to know each other and build some trust) majority of guys will bond and will start to like you. Remember it's not going to work all the time. You can also get close (not in a creepy way like randomly touching him) like playing some kind of game where you hold hands.

    Make eye contact, let him know you are paying attention.

    Just some Ideas don't know if it helped.
 
 
 
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