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    Some i'm in yr 12 and i feel like i'm losing connection with anyone , despite me trying to interact with my friends , i'm pretty much ignored by everyone , deserted by everyone and practically alone in general . I don't know what i did to deserve this but it seems like everyone i come across once to get away from me (had 2 incidents like this today where groups of friends purposefully move away from me) it's tearing me up inside , someone help me
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    Make friends in clubs and school activities. Just talk to people in general even if they aren’t your friend. I don’t have any friendship circles but I have a couple of friends I interact with individually

    I also talk with girls from other schools that come to my science clubs in school. The more stuff you do like music, drama, etc. The more people you’ll meet. And then take it from there.
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    Reckon we've all pretty much had rubbish days in Year 12. It will pass. There's alot more life out there beyond the boundaries of Year 12, and you can look forward to it getting a whole lot better.
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    (Original post by VirgoStrain)
    Make friends in clubs and school activities. Just talk to people in general even if they aren’t your friend. I don’t have any friendship circles but I have a couple of friends I interact with individually

    I also talk with girls from other schools that come to my science clubs in school. The more stuff you do like music, drama, etc. The more people you’ll meet. And then take it from there.
    i do basketball as a side hobby , i'm still a work in progress , but everyone kind of looks down on me because the new guy/less experienced , so no one really talks to me there either
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    (Original post by DrSocSciences)
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    Reckon we've all pretty much had rubbish days in Year 12. It will pass. There's alot more life out there beyond the boundaries of Year 12, and you can look forward to it getting a whole lot better.
    i sure hope so
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    (Original post by Ray_Shadows)
    i do basketball as a side hobby , i'm still a work in progress , but everyone kind of looks down on me because the new guy/less experienced , so no one really talks to me there either
    Eventually they will. Or you talk to them. I have next to no friends but the fact I don’t care about that makes it easier to socialise because I don’t expect anything to come out of it anyway.
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    (Original post by VirgoStrain)
    Eventually they will. Or you talk to them. I have next to no friends but the fact I don’t care about that makes it easier to socialise because I don’t expect anything to come out of it anyway.
    yeh i tried talking to them they just walk away from me
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    (Original post by Ray_Shadows)
    yeh i tried talking to them they just walk away from me
    That’s bad, nobody does it to me... if they have that little respect for you then don’t bother. Find friends outside of school, or only talk to people that are actually nice to you.
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    (Original post by VirgoStrain)
    That’s bad, nobody does it to me... if they have that little respect for you then don’t bother. Find friends outside of school, or only talk to people that are actually nice to you.
    it's hard to find people u can trust nowadays
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    (Original post by Ray_Shadows)
    it's hard to find people u can trust nowadays
    Which is why I confide my problems with nobody, even my family. I’ve been bullied, made fun of, and humiliated in primary school and in my secondary school years up until the end of GCSE’s, where some of the bullies were kicked out of school and I trounced nearly everybody in my year with my results. I’d have loved to have seen the look on that guy’s face in geography when he saw I got 60/60 for my coursework, even though he was mocking my sketching skills for many lessons. He hasn’t tried to bully me since.
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    (Original post by VirgoStrain)
    Which is why I confide my problems with nobody, even my family. I’ve been bullied, made fun of, and humiliated in primary school and in my secondary school years up until the end of GCSE’s, where some of the bullies were kicked out of school and I trounced nearly everybody in my year with my results. I’d have loved to have seen the look on that guy’s face in geography when he saw I got 60/60 for my coursework, even though he was mocking my sketching skills for many lessons. He hasn’t tried to bully me since.
    wow ok , i'll try to be like that
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    I feel for you because I also feel very lonely at school. I have gone from having lots of very close friends to barely any. I'm better friends with the year 13's than the people in my year (11). Maybe it might be a good idea to search for friendships within other years because you might find nice, accepting people to hang out with and be friends with
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    (Original post by Ray_Shadows)
    wow ok , i'll try to be like that
    Work hard, ask the teachers questions, revise hard and do well in tests, do extra stuff to impress your teachers like finishing write ups early. That’s what’s important for you in school.
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    Year 12 sure is a tricky year, especially with all of the exam stress. But I know whata it's like and honestly its just one year before you may choose to leave for a certain course. You should try focus on your exams, maybe hang ouy in library and see if students in there want to be , mayne you'll find people with similar interests, the same with clubs or being involved in a student union
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    In school, friendship groups are largely decided for you. You get put into groups, often at random, and are expected to get along. Once you leave you have the chance to make your own friends with similar interests and opinions. It does take effort, but there are many other people like you. Even when you feel alone remember that there are people who care, and that there are friends you just haven't met yet.
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    hmm i wonder why they walk away from you..
    unless everyones just plain mean maybe you need to change up a few things
    is it hard for you to keep a convo going?
    if youre not really a sociable person try and get some experience and improve on this
    college is only two years and youll get the chance to meet way more new and exciting people in uni.. just wait on it
    for now, if youre lonely, dont hide away as itll less the chance of someone coming up to you with the intention of being friends
    make yourself approachable at break/lunch and in the mean time, use the extra time you have that you normally wouldve spent messing about with mates, to focus on your grades & work.. thrive in whatever situation youre put through and use your initiative
    you can do it!
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    (Original post by Ray_Shadows)
    Some i'm in yr 12 and i feel like i'm losing connection with anyone , despite me trying to interact with my friends , i'm pretty much ignored by everyone , deserted by everyone and practically alone in general . I don't know what i did to deserve this but it seems like everyone i come across once to get away from me (had 2 incidents like this today where groups of friends purposefully move away from me) it's tearing me up inside , someone help me
    Hey,

    Hope you're doing okay. I went through a similar thing due to a mean girl spreading rumours about me. My friends started to get up and walk away from me when I sat down with them. Got really bad, but eventually people started to grow up and see through the lies. I felt like I had no friends but it got better. I am sure it will be the same for you. I know this is not very comforting at the moment, but don't give up. Just keep trying to be pleasant to everyone and keep smiling. Its the best way to make friends If you ever need to talk just message me.

    Em x
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    (Original post by VirgoStrain)
    Work hard, ask the teachers questions, revise hard and do well in tests, do extra stuff to impress your teachers like finishing write ups early. That’s what’s important for you in school.
    yeh ok , thanks
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    (Original post by JaffaNeko)
    Year 12 sure is a tricky year, especially with all of the exam stress. But I know whata it's like and honestly its just one year before you may choose to leave for a certain course. You should try focus on your exams, maybe hang ouy in library and see if students in there want to be , mayne you'll find people with similar interests, the same with clubs or being involved in a student union
    yeh i spend almost all my free periods/breaks/lunch in the library
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    (Original post by Lit teacher)
    In school, friendship groups are largely decided for you. You get put into groups, often at random, and are expected to get along. Once you leave you have the chance to make your own friends with similar interests and opinions. It does take effort, but there are many other people like you. Even when you feel alone remember that there are people who care, and that there are friends you just haven't met yet.
    i'm sure they do appreciate me , but it feels like i'm the odd one out and i don't really fit in anywhere
 
 
 
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