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    Ok, so I've been dating a girl for a few weeks now and we've had protected vaginal sex a few times now. We haven't had a chance to have STI tests yet but have an appoinment booked for next week to get them done together.
    When it comes to oral sex, she wants to use a condom which I'm fine with. When it came to me going down on her, I wanted to use a dental dam (cut up condom) but she insisted on me giving her oral without protection. I did it that time, but don't feel like I should have to do it again. Any advice?
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    If she insists on using protection giving you oral sex, you can insist on using it when you give her oral sex. It's a two way street and it works both ways. She can't demand things from you then not expect the same from you.

    Just say no and if she can't accept that then tough, no oral for her. Your consent is just as important as hers.
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    What is it you are worried about?

    But yes, it's you who gets to say 'if I'm going down on you, we're using a barrier'.
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    What is it you are worried about?

    But yes, it's you who gets to say 'if I'm going down on you, we're using a barrier'.
    Well usually STIs...gonorrhoea, herpes and syphilis
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    me too mate its a *****
 
 
 
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