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    Hey everyone. So I just wanted to write about a difficult situation which has been really stressing me out So me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for about a year now and we have started having (trying) to have sex in the last couple of months. I’m new to sex but are determined to get it right. Unfortunately when me and my gf attempt to have sex it hasn’t been going well. Largely due to the fact that when I put on a condom I remain hard for a little while but then go completely soft. Sometimes I remain hard long enough to enter her vagina but I quickly loose my erection and I end up thrusting inside her with only a semi hard on. In regards to the condoms I feel I may need a bigger condom as it didn’t role to the base of my shaft and feels kinda tight but I’m wondering if that’s because my head of my penis is sensitive or is due to other factors such as I’m just not used to wearing one or may have Performance anxiety?? However, I can easily gain and maintain an erection during foreplay and stay hard throughout. Interestingly sometimes I *** when we are grinding on each other is this bad ?? In addition to this, I am uncircumcised and I used to bed hump a lot when I was younger (I now masturbate properly however) and I’m wondering if this may have contributed to my situation ?? I’m wondering therefore if I also have Phimosis as a result of this ?? I can however retract my forsaken over my head and when I put a condom on it retracts relatively easily. I have recently tried stretching my foreskin hoping that will help and have also recently started masturbating with a condom at night to try and get comfortable with wearing one. Any advice or any suggestions would be hugely appreciated, thanks
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    Try closing ur eyes when u put it in and do it quick so ur erection can be sustained when u put it in
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    Maybe a bit of anxiety and the fact that condoms give a pretty different sensation. Get a bit of advice from your GP, doubt it will be new to them.
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    (Original post by SurferJ)
    Hey everyone. So I just wanted to write about a difficult situation which has been really stressing me out So me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for about a year now and we have started having (trying) to have sex in the last couple of months. I’m new to sex but are determined to get it right. Unfortunately when me and my gf attempt to have sex it hasn’t been going well. Largely due to the fact that when I put on a condom I remain hard for a little while but then go completely soft. Sometimes I remain hard long enough to enter her vagina but I quickly loose my erection and I end up thrusting inside her with only a semi hard on. In regards to the condoms I feel I may need a bigger condom as it didn’t role to the base of my shaft and feels kinda tight but I’m wondering if that’s because my head of my penis is sensitive or is due to other factors such as I’m just not used to wearing one or may have Performance anxiety?? However, I can easily gain and maintain an erection during foreplay and stay hard throughout. Interestingly sometimes I *** when we are grinding on each other is this bad ?? In addition to this, I am uncircumcised and I used to bed hump a lot when I was younger (I now masturbate properly however) and I’m wondering if this may have contributed to my situation ?? I’m wondering therefore if I also have Phimosis as a result of this ?? I can however retract my forsaken over my head and when I put a condom on it retracts relatively easily. I have recently tried stretching my foreskin hoping that will help and have also recently started masturbating with a condom at night to try and get comfortable with wearing one. Any advice or any suggestions would be hugely appreciated, thanks
    there are a lot of guys who have this issue, and i know this because i have a lot of male friends and my ex had this issue too.
    I mean there are two solutions for this, you could talk to her and get her to start taking the pill or get the implant etc? works out cheaper and better sex in the long run, or go to the doctors and they'll prescribe you with viagra, i work in a pharmacy and had to take a course on sexual health!!, but those two are you safest bets, don't google anything as it'll just worry you,, and id say going to the doctors are the best shout for this.
    Gooood luck!
 
 
 
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