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    My sisters boyfriend has pretty much moved into our house.
    I stay at my parters house and I come visit once a week
    I've never met him before because I have quite bad society anxiety, the thought of it panics me, that he could be anywhere in the house, so every time I visit I make an arrangement with my sister for him to go back home whilst I'm there.

    My parents spoke with me the other day and said how 'strange' they thought it all was. That he lives there, that it's unfair on him, that he's a paying tenant (£10 a week + bills). That he has to take his stuff with him every time, that he has a job so it might be inconvenient for him. I was just crying because they don't get my anxiety at all. I'm blamed for having these issues.

    "Your other sister can talk to him" I said but we're not the same!! They're just so ignorant to me. Ofc this is only their opinion on it, the boyfriend gets it, and hasn't complained. So it's none of their business.

    Now then when I visit he'll probably end up being in another room while I'm there, just to keep them happy.

    You're in the wrong here. Your sister's boyfriend is clearly joining the family (at least for now) so you can't insist he leaves his own home and stay away from you. Yes, it's hard for you but your anxiety won't improve unless you challenge it and TBH what are you going to do if they're together a long time? insist he can't come to christmas or birthdays and stay away from the wdding? say once they buy a house that he still has to leave if you visit?
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