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Do relationships with age differences work out? Advise needed. watch

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    Firstly take a deep breath and calm yourself a little. I think you have over analysed this to such an extent, before you have dated the girl you are worrying about marriage! Put marriage and the distant future to one side and tackle the initial problem: you are 2 people from widely different cultures who would like to date each other.

    Your troubles are 2 fold: the religious divide and the age gap. I presume you are 16 or 17? She is 21/22?

    At those ages 5 years is quite a bit in terms of adult experience, but if she has been very sheltered from the world then perhaps not so much as you would expect between 2 people with western cultures.

    It depends entirely on how strict her parents are about dating and whether you are able to have a calm adult conversation with your parents about dating her.

    If you can get around the dating issue then just take it slowly with cinema type dates and stress to her that you have a high school life with all the stress that entails plus the part time job so you keep it very casual and perhaps go out once or twice a week. None of you are then “committed”to anything else or going any deeper when you are this young.

    I don’t know your entire circs of course, but a slow casual approach to dating is the way to go.
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