Socialising as a Commuter

Hello everyone,

I didn't really know who to talk to about this so I thought I would come to this app. Anyway, this September I have started my first year at university. Many of the students in my seminar group live in accommodation on site, different to my situation where I am commuting as I live near by.
I wouldn't say I find socialising difficult but there are so many factors holding me back such as not being able to go to parties because I would have no easy way of getting home in the middle of the night. To be honest, I'm almost scared. I am making friends but everyone sort of goes round in pairs or their flatmates and I just end up going around with whoever possible. I don't know what the answer is.
I guess you could say, I almost regret not going for accommodation as perhaps then things would be different and I wouldn't have to worry about my social life.
I don't want to just make friends in lesson and just talk about the work, I want to make good friends who I can hang around with in and out of university.
Is there anyone in a similar situation to me or can suggest anything?

Reply 1

cheesecakelove

Did you join any societies when you started? Sometimes they can do daytime activities at the weekend, although it is true that commuting does limit your options. If you make a few good friends, you could stay over at their place after a night out?

Have you asked any of your course mates after your class if they wanted to get lunch with you or meet up for a coffee? You could also look at Facebook groups as a way of chatting to new students, which could be transferred to real life friendships?

You do state that you have made some friends already - have you made an effort to meet them more regularly outside of classes, during the afternoon? If the commute is not too far, you could invite them to your town/place.