Advice please =]

Please keep anon as the guy in question comes on this forum and sorry about the length.

Basically in October my boyfriend broke up with me. We'd been going out for 3 weeks. Everything was going great and the day before we split up he told me he could really see it going somewhere and couldn't wait to see me again.

Anyway the next day he broke up with me and didn't give me a reason. I repsected his decision and didn't question him for it.

Haven't heard from him since.

Until Christmas Day when I sent a mass text out to everybody in my phone book wishing them all the best etc. He replied "saying the same to you xxxxx"

Two days later he texted me again, something really random and I replied and we ended up texting for most of the day. He told me he was glad we could be friends now but he really liked me and did see the relationship going somewhere but got scared. So I rang him and asked him what he got scared of. He said it didn't matter because I didn't feel the same and hung up on me.

So I texted him and said maybe I did. He replied with I obviously didn't otherwise I would have said. So I didn't reply basically because I couldn't be bothered with him. And he texted saying I did like you but knew you needed time and comfort and didn't know if I could give it to you.

Now this confused me because although I am quite bad at relationships he told me he was patient and would wait as long as I needed for anything and if that is his reason then I am gutted it ended because of that as I really liked him (I told him this)

Anyway later that night he texted me asking me to come to his. I told him I couldn't as I was back at home for Christmas. He never replied (this was 2 weeks ago).

And this afternoon I got a text from him asking me when I was coming back to uni. So I told him next saturday.

And he hasn't replied.

I'm so confused at the moment. Maybe I'm reading to much into it but do you think he likes me a little? He always puts like 4 kisses on everything but I know for guys they don't see that as a big deal. I sorta understand his reasoning for breaking up yet at the same time think it's a bit of a %%%%%%%%ty one. Why else would he ask why I'm back?

All opinions welcome :smile:

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

Forgot to add on New Year I sent a text to him wishing him all the best and at 4.30am he replied with "LOVE U!!!"

And when we were texting for most of the day he basically said he was proud that he was the first guy who'd gone down on me and the offer was always there for a repeat. All I had to do was say.

Reply 2

lily_blue3

13

I'm a bit confused...so he ended it why? Because he thought you didn't see it going anywhere?

Reply 3

Powersymphonia

20

Hmm seems like this guy likes you, give him a second chance!

Reply 4

jumpinglunch

13

Anonymous

Forgot to add on New Year I sent a text to him wishing him all the best and at 4.30am he replied with "LOVE U!!!"

And when we were texting for most of the day he basically said he was proud that he was the first guy who'd gone down on me and the offer was always there for a repeat. All I had to do was say.

Proud lol.......you sure he's a decent guy?

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

lily_blue3

I'm a bit confused...so he ended it why? Because he thought you didn't see it going anywhere?

Nope. He ended it because he knew I needed a lot of time and comfort and didn't know if he would be able to give that to me.

Reply 6

warblade

tesh^^

Proud lol.......you sure he's a decent guy?

That's a really fair question :biggrin:

Reply 7

lily_blue3

13

Ah right.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

tesh^^

Proud lol.......you sure he's a decent guy?

Hmm, why do you say that?

Reply 9

jumpinglunch

13

Anonymous

Hmm, why do you say that?

I've never heard of anyone being 'proud' of being the first person to go down on a girl........happy yes...proud no.

Reply 10

Mr. Ed

10

Anonymous

Please keep anon as the guy in question comes on this forum

I'm pretty sure he's gonna know that you're talking about him from the amount of detail in your post... :wink:

Reply 11

matty600

1

awwww go back out with him.
Probs just got worried and scarred of his emotions, maybe he was worried that he will end up heartbroken so was trying to protect himself so he didn't have to deal with anything if anything did go wrong... if you see what i mean?

I think he might just be afraid, make him feel more secure that you like him back! Send love you too! back and he wil defo be happy! lol
:smile:

Reply 12

Cj-Tj

15

Anonymous

Forgot to add on New Year I sent a text to him wishing him all the best and at 4.30am he replied with "LOVE U!!!"

He was pissed, but does like you.

Anonymous

And when we were texting for most of the day he basically said he was proud that he was the first guy who'd gone down on me and the offer was always there for a repeat. All I had to do was say.

Thats guy speak for; it means something to him. And theres the obvious bit at the end which requires no translating.

tesh^^

Proud lol.......you sure he's a decent guy?

Thats fine isnt it? Happy and proud are similar really. He can be proud for several reasons, if shes a good looking girl then she obviously considers him "better" than the other guys, then this is something to be proud of. Being proud of a girl is a nice thing to be, and *should* make her feel special.

OP; Yeah get back with him, its obvious that he made a rash decision, was then strong enough not to talk when you broke up, but since hes been talking to you hes realised maybe he made the wrong decision and old feelings have come back. Well, thats my take on it anyway.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

Thank you for all of your replies :smile:

I guess I'll see if I hear from him next week.

Do you think I should text him when I get back? Or not?

Reply 14

FCabinet34x72

1

Anonymous

Nope. He ended it because he knew I needed a lot of time and comfort and didn't know if he would be able to give that to me.

I; my advice give him a call/text , on your return , feel ready to talk!!;

Reply 15

sparkly_woo

2

Aww he sounds like a guy who just made a mistake, I’d say give him a text when you get back to uni, just letting him know that you’re around and go from there.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

right there's an update and I need advice.

The day before I was due to come back to University he texted me saying he might be making a mistake as he was meeting up with an ex girlfriend. I was a bit gutted but pleased he felt he could speak to me about worries he was having. This girl cheated on him 6 times and I told him if a guy did that to me I'd never see him again. He said he was now confused and he didn't know what he wanted.

In the past two weeks I've probably heard from him once.

Last night I got a text from him telling me that life is ****. I agreed and when asked I told him it was house troubles and I didn't want to be here anymore. He said his was women troubles and if it ever got bad there was always a bed at his.

I thanked him and asked if it was the cheating ex girlfriend. He said it was and she'd messed him around again. I said I was sorry and that I needed a strong drink to get through this week.

He then asked me out for a drink and a movie this week. I originally said no because I thought it was a rebound thing - his ex girlfriend messed him around so now he's come back to me.

But my housemates said I had nothing to lose, so I replied saying meet on thursday to drink our sorrows/troubles away? He said yes and that he couldn't wait.

My god I am so confused right now. Do you not think it's a rebound thing? I'm not going to text him until Thursday morning asking him if he's still on for the night?

But hmmm. Opinions?

Reply 17

dh00001

16

it could be, go and find out. still go with him but dont let anything happen, see how he acts with you. make sure you enjoy it

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

Right I texted him this morning (7am ish and 9am ish) asking if he was still on for tonight? (My phone was playing up) And no reply. I know he had no lectures and he has a contract phone so can't be out of credit.

It's now nearly half 4 and nothing. Should I text again or would that look desperate? I'm half tempted to text "If you didn't want to go out I'd rather you said than ignore me"

Meh.

Reply 19

RosiePosiePuddingAndPie

12

No don't send that. Just leave it with him, if he doesn't text back then assume he doesn't want to meet up. He's very difficult to read..

Advice please =]

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