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    (Original post by LegalDiaries)
    If I have to pay for my engagement ring, I could as well propose to myself and marry myself.

    But that's just me. To each his/her own.
    You're marrying just for a ring?
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    no and no

    it just spoils the fun, especially when you consider the millions upon millions of women who had their rings bought for them. you should have just let your boyfriend pay for the whole thing

    I once had a friend who asked me to pay towards my Christmas present! what a frigging joke, i told her to do one! completely ruins the whole purpose
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    (Original post by Tempest II)
    I thought it was three to three and a half months! It sounds like you've been short changed haha.
    I’d guess they’ve upped it over the years!
    For my parents it was a month. they got engaged in 1960. I got engaged in 1990 and it cost more than a month but that was the norm then too
    Just a greedy jewellery sector I suppose!!
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    (Original post by Palmyra)
    on the one hand i think you're crazy for thinking a ring over £500 is expensive but on the other hand i kinda like the attitude of how that money could be better spent elsewhere
    I guess it depends on how you've been brought up to view money. I have seen gorgeous rings in the Argos catalogue for less than £50! Just because it may not be made of proper diamonds of whatever doesn't mean it still isn't gorgeous. The ring I want is about £120 and when I saw it I just knew that is the ring I will have if I ever get engaged. Tbh I'd rather it wasn't expensive because I'd be too scared to wear it in case I damaged it or lost it.
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    redicelous to pay Lots of money
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    The real issue is spending a disproportionate amount of money on a ring! These items are a symbol and just as functional an item can be obtained for £100 as for £1,000. The months salary concept, ridiculous In my view, much better to put the money towards the honeymoon. As to your question, of course its ok for the woman to contribute,
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    (Original post by FireSt0rm)
    Its actually 3 months salary
    That's scandalous. One month's salary was ridiculous, but if jewellers are now saying this, it's utterly irresponsible .
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    (Original post by DrawTheLine)
    I have seen gorgeous rings in the Argos catalogue for less than £50! Just because it may not be made of proper diamonds of whatever doesn't mean it still isn't gorgeous. The ring I want is about £120 and when I saw it I just knew that is the ring I will have if I ever get engaged.
    same. sadly diamonds are worth no value nowadays so it can't count as an investment, thats why if the ring is supposed to be a form of 'dowry' for the bride he should aim to buy her a real gold one instead as it will always be worth something in the future. that said, I as a female completely understand the fascination with diamonds, because they're obviously pretty and sparkly and great to show off. thats why i'm glad I discovered moissanites and have found various websites that sell lab-diamonds that look exactly like the real thing but cost as low as a couple of hundred. best thing ever created if you ask me! I already know which one I want too, cost £500 and is a huge rock! don't see the point in spending thousands on a ring I'm only going to wear a few times
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    If I were to get married I would try to make a ring myself to make it more special and important. The ring would represent me, her or both of us. (Have characteristics of us, for example, an engraving.
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    I don't think a woman should pay towards engagement ring, but it shouldn't be necessarily expensive. My gf has told me that she wants a smaller stone. She doesn't really care for the "percent of salary" I will spend. So I guess I'll go with one of these womens rings. I'm happy figures don't matter for her.
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    Guy pays for the ring, girl pays for the dress.

    Fairest way.
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    I don't like rings. I was given an engagement boat we both sailed.
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    I don't see the ring issue as a big deal but if he really insists on paying you back then maybe just let him or he'll feel guilty for a long time even if you don't care about having to pay.
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    Yes
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    I'd have no problem with contributing towards my own engagement ring, although I wouldn't want anything flashy or mega expensive in the first place
 
 
 
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