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depressed second year at uni watch
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Last edited by sarah21897; 09-11-2017 at 15:52.
- 07-11-2017 14:22
- 07-11-2017 16:24
Go and speak to your wellbeing peeps at your uni, or your GP, you need to talk about someone about your depression, and the social anxiety you're feeling about being 'pushed out'
as for these friends, i would bet that in reality you arent being pushed out but your worry and behaviour to avoid them slowly means you are distancing yourself from them to avoid being hurt. I did the same thing. "they don't like me as much as blah" "I'm so boring" "they're only friends with me because they have no one else" thats what social situations in uni did to me. i soon learnt that you have to put matter over mind. and make sure you're making the effort too. giving your friends a sign that you're into them with sooth their insecurities too, because everyone has them . you're not alone.
Please please don't give up. uni is a **** storm.
if you have to you can still pursue your passion on your own, you don't need to have loads of friends. but join more societies, find more people who share your interests and passion, and you will find a good group or a good mate . I would suggest keep hanging out with your friends though, talk to this lad. tell him you just wana know whats going on with you guys, talk to your other friends, confide in one how you're feeling, even try and be friends with these new girls, infiltrate their friendship, so you then have more 'power' in the group. you are their friend, and if they still act like dicks, sack em off and endeavour to find new people on your course or societies.
- 07-11-2017 16:37
To give up now would be such a shame. As you say, you are interested in your course and are there to focus on your career. I think you were really affected by the guy losing interest in you. Did he know how you really felt? I am sorry that you feel like you were pushed out of your social circle as well. Are they your housemates too or do you have other people you can socialise with?
I would keep going out to new events and societies and meet more people. The friends you made in first year don't have to be your only friends at university. It seems like they weren't true friends anyway if they don't support and love you. You will make and find genuine friends, you just need to get out there and not stay at home alone.
If you feel like things are really bad, I would talk to someone from student support. They can find the best way to help you.
- 08-11-2017 09:30
For the good of your health, your sanity and your education, try to take the best of a bad situation, draw a line in the sand and move on. You had valuable experience with this guy last year and you can put that into a relationship with a new person who is WORTHY of you, not someone who basically sounds pretty immature and his silly girlie friends who sound the same. When I was at uni I was crazy about a girl in my first year who I went out with but who dumped me, and it put a cloud over my entire first year when I should have been out having fun.
- 09-11-2017 01:20
Hey there, I am really sorry to hear about this and and unfortunately I cannot give an advice to you but I can tell you that you are not alone with situations like thi, if you wanna talk about this just dm me x
- 09-11-2017 01:40
Ditch him, he's not worth all the ****.
Paying £9,000 a year to have to deal with **** like that probably isn't in your best interests. There's a lot of opportunities around you to make new friends, and then some.
Talk to your University, see if they have a counsellor, talk to your GP, there's a lot of people around you that can, and will help you.
- 06-12-2017 14:20
hi, does anyone know whether you have to reapply for student finance each year or if it automatically rolls over into next year?