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    what is university like for someone like me? im 20, never been out clubbing, cant stand alcohol and have little tolerance for people who are intoxicated and acting like idiots. I do enjoy socialising, but usually for most it involves going out to a bar - i would prefer to go bowling, for a meal or the like. I do also value my private time immensely, and although i will agree to socialise it wont be every week, especially with the course i want to go into (vet medicine).

    whats uni life like for people like me? i know i just described the most boring and uppity person ever, and i promise im a fun person. i just dont enjoy any of that stuff lol.
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    halls can be pretty **** unless your lucky.. because chances are that you will end up living with people whose partying/drinking annoys you.

    outside of halls though there should be no problem at all. There are plenty of people who don't enjoy the things you describe, and whole groups who would rather do other things then drinking/clubbing. You just need to find them through your course/societies and then you will have plenty of friends with similar interests.

    The main problem I saw at university was that people gave up looking.. they met their flatmates who liked clubbing, met a few course-mates who liked clubbing, then concluded that university life does not match them. Its a big place though - and you just need to plow through until you find people who gel with you... there are so many people out there don't feel bad for apologetically sifting through a bit until you find those that make you happy. Amoung the thousands of students its unlikely the first 20 you meet will be your best friends forver..
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    It depends on which uni you go to, but at mine you can go into alcohol free accomodation. And as the last reply says, if you join societies and keep looking around for people then you'll find others like you! In my experience, there's quite a lot who don't drink, so you'll be okay!
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    (Original post by JasmineGlanv47)
    what is university like for someone like me? im 20, never been out clubbing, cant stand alcohol and have little tolerance for people who are intoxicated and acting like idiots. I do enjoy socialising, but usually for most it involves going out to a bar - i would prefer to go bowling, for a meal or the like. I do also value my private time immensely, and although i will agree to socialise it wont be every week, especially with the course i want to go into (vet medicine).

    whats uni life like for people like me? i know i just described the most boring and uppity person ever, and i promise im a fun person. i just dont enjoy any of that stuff lol.
    You sound exactly like me! I don't mind having a glass of wine with a meal, but I never go out with the intention of getting drunk. Honestly, it can be a little sucky. I made a post about it and got told I was rude for wanting people to be quiet at 3am.

    Honestly you won't be the only one. I bought ear plugs to help me sleep. And it's okay to go out for a meal with people, but then leave before they go out clubbing or drinking after.

    I'm first year and I've made a nice group of friends.

    I did have to call security once though because it was 3:30am and people were shouting and drunk outside my window. I don't care if it's "just fun" at that time of the morning it's unacceptable.
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    Depends on the uni - I've been incredibly lucky. You definitely don't have to club - I went for half an hour in freshers week, was not a fan, have not been again, it's fine. I've met lovely non-drinking/ minimal drinking friends and we just have tea parties and play cards now - wild. Everyone works very hard, so doesn't have much time to meet up anyway.

    It's not like that for everyone though - my friend at a London uni hasn't found anyone. I think her mistake though was not going to events in freshers. I met my non drinking friends at pre-club prinks, because I spotted askward people not holding bottles and we all kind of gravitated towards a little happy sober corner. Go to events, especially non-drinking ones - I understand at some unis these aren't great, they were pretty good at mine, but at least it's a good way to find some friendly faces. Also try clubbing once. If you think you'll hate it you're probably right, but then at least you can be a good sport, say you've tried it and never go again. Going to the pub's actually alright once you get used to it, especially if you're with a sober friend. Societies are a good start too, and you'll make friends on your course. Just really try and talk to everyone and be open to bew kinds of people - I thought one of my friends would be an edgy club girl when I first saw her and she's the total opposite.

    Good luck - I know not drinking at uni can seem really daunting, but it can be fine. I've had a great time.
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    (Original post by PaintTheStars)
    It depends on which uni you go to, but at mine you can go into alcohol free accomodation. And as the last reply says, if you join societies and keep looking around for people then you'll find others like you! In my experience, there's quite a lot who don't drink, so you'll be okay!
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    Hey.
    I am very introverted, and also have anxiety issues which I try to overcome, and am in 1st year at uni. I'm in a very rural uni in Wales, so unfortunately (or fortunately? who knows...) there aren't many people here with the same mindset as me...or many people here at all. The result is a very sport and drink orientated uni, which is great for those that enjoy those things. Until recently there wasn't a single society that didn't involve sport or drink. They have now set up four new societies, including 3 which are no alcohol and no sport zones, which are designed to help those who are less confident to meet one another.

    In terms of halls, yeah, they're not great. I love being on campus, but I've had people banging on my windows and doors at 4am before now (I have a heart condition so that was a one off as it's dangerous for me to experience stuff like that), stomping up stairs etc. I live with all girls, I should add, no guys are even allowed in the building. BUT, having had that moan, they are an alright bunch. We get along, I just don't tend to hang out with them. I am very much an introvert who will only speak if and when relevant or needed. I don't do chatting or small talk. Makes it difficult, but those that I am close with can't get a word in when I talk about something I am passionate about!!

    I don't drink much either. Here, there are student events every Wednesday, Friday and Saturday nights, so pre-drinks start at 7 ish. There is some disturbance, but my uni is good in that we have porters who basically tell people to shut up if they are too rowdy.

    Drinking is definitely not the be all and end all. I know a few from my course who live off campus, so those friendships were totally separate from the social scene.

    I am sure you will do absolutely fine. Just make sure you don't compare what you are doing to the others around you. I did that, and I didn't cope well for a while, realising I was different and not having many friends on campus at all. Plus, no one can be more boring than me

    Best of luck! And apologies for the essay (passionate about introvertism haha!)

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