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    So it just hit me today that I genuinely have no friends, I'm not joking. Sure I have people to eat with and hang around but I find myself prefferring to just sit in an empty classroom and cut up paper and listen to music alone (embarassing I know.) Today when i was sitting in a classroom that was another form's form room a girl walked in and said wtf why are you sitting here this is our room, what are you doing cutting paper up, is that why there's always paper on the chair, why are you so weird? and it hit me that I'm a absolute loser. I rarely go out with friends, probably once a month, and when I do I'm dying to come home. However I am concerned that when I am out of education I will just sit at home alone all the time which is unhealthy and after a few years very lonely. I am in year 11, so not much time to change. I get bored of people easily and like being with myself but only the past year has it been a real issue. This was more of getting it out but open to any suggestions
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    You do have friends. You just don't enjoy being with them?
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    You're in the best position! Having no friends (especially during GCSE and A-Level) is the best! No worries or distractions. I wish I was in your place.
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    I have NO friends at all and tbh i don’t want any. I suggest you make friends in your subject classes and in extra-curriculars
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    Lol why are you smiling in your op about that
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    (Original post by Emerald777O)
    You do have friends. You just don't enjoy being with them?
    I kind of have friends on a surface level, like people I'll hang out with sometimes and to be fair I do get invited to parties and to do things but I always feel like everything is too much effort I'd rather be in bed alseep I know im pathetic lol
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    (Original post by Salt Queen)
    Lol why are you smiling in your op about that
    Better to smile than be sad about it!
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    (Original post by Salx.x)
    I have NO friends at all and tbh i don’t want any. I suggest you make friends in your subject classes and in extra-curriculars
    I used to have friends in my classes but I just pushed them away, I got tired and just couldn't be bothered with people anymore, so noone would particularly want to be my friend anymore because I wasn't that nice to people
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    (Original post by so5tired758)
    So it just hit me today that I genuinely have no friends, I'm not joking. Sure I have people to eat with and hang around but I find myself prefferring to just sit in an empty classroom and cut up paper and listen to music alone (embarassing I know.) Today when i was sitting in a classroom that was another form's form room a girl walked in and said wtf why are you sitting here this is our room, what are you doing cutting paper up, is that why there's always paper on the chair, why are you so weird? and it hit me that I'm a absolute loser. I rarely go out with friends, probably once a month, and when I do I'm dying to come home. However I am concerned that when I am out of education I will just sit at home alone all the time which is unhealthy and after a few years very lonely. I am in year 11, so not much time to change. I get bored of people easily and like being with myself but only the past year has it been a real issue. This was more of getting it out but open to any suggestions
    You're not a loser. Some people just prefer their own company.
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    (Original post by so5tired758)
    I kind of have friends on a surface level, like people I'll hang out with sometimes and to be fair I do get invited to parties and to do things but I always feel like everything is too much effort I'd rather be in bed alseep I know im pathetic lol
    There's nothing wrong with wanting to be by yourself. Because it's quite clear you have friends but you're just not putting the effort it in.
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    i have no Friends too i just socialize with people
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    You have friends m8, some may even be good ones in fact, but you seem like you don't know how to appreciate them or their presence/value.
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    If you dread socialising, then I suggest you don’t at all. It’s healthy to get along with people your age but if you don’t have any friends, and don’t want any, then why does it matter? It’s cool.
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    Honestly, no advice can come from me. I'm now in Year 9 and I moved schools for the only reason being because I thought I had no friends but when they realise you [me] leaving they [apparently my friends] all came together and said a really big and sad goodbye as much as I hate goodbyes I liked that one because it showed me how many so-called friends I have! I guess they just don't realise what they're missing until they actually lose it [me]! Now, after I've moved for a good 7 or 8 weeks, I feel bad and good: bad because those so-called friends I left in my old school are missed and teachers and lets not forget that people in my new school don't ignore my imperfections and are mean to me but that's althea know, right? That's how I forget about those bullies, unfortunately it's really unhealthy for me but oh well. So really my advice is to weigh the pros and cons of having/having no friends and see which is better and be confident forget about all those judgemental eyes staring at you waiting for you to do a mistake because honestly that's all they know what to do, judge! So again just find a REAL FRIEND that won't judge you for being you or calling you weird and be yourself! If that doesn't work think about, you nearly finished high school (the worst 5 years of child-hood) and keep doing what you are doing, whatever make you happy !!! Just know the real friend see the beauty in you not out ! Also find something you love to get your mind of things!
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    That's good. I don't have friends either - and I eat alone and never go anywhere - and I'm happy this way. It is much less stressful. Just make sure you stay near other people at school, not off in the distance so you look weird, and people won't notice.
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    (Original post by JDieMstr)
    You have friends m8, some may even be good ones in fact, but you seem like you don't know how to appreciate them or their presence/value.
    People like me alot less now though because I wasn't that nice to basically everyone over the past year, I just don't want to go through life pushing people away and being alone even though that's what feels better if you know what I mean
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    (Original post by hi there :))
    Honestly, no advice can come from me. I'm now in Year 9 and I moved schools for the only reason being because I thought I had no friends but when they realise you [me] leaving they [apparently my friends] all came together and said a really big and sad goodbye as much as I hate goodbyes I liked that one because it showed me how many so-called friends I have! I guess they just don't realise what they're missing until they actually lose it [me]! Now, after I've moved for a good 7 or 8 weeks, I feel bad and good: bad because those so-called friends I left in my old school are missed and teachers and lets not forget that people in my new school don't ignore my imperfections and are mean to me but that's althea know, right? That's how I forget about those bullies, unfortunately it's really unhealthy for me but oh well. So really my advice is to weigh the pros and cons of having/having no friends and see which is better and be confident forget about all those judgemental eyes staring at you waiting for you to do a mistake because honestly that's all they know what to do, judge! So again just find a REAL FRIEND that won't judge you for being you or calling you weird and be yourself! If that doesn't work think about, you nearly finished high school (the worst 5 years of child-hood) and keep doing what you are doing, whatever make you happy !!! Just know the real friend see the beauty in you not out ! Also find something you love to get your mind of things!
    Thanks for sweet reply! Did you find moving schools to be good for your social skills, I'm thinking of moving for sixth form but I'm really pathetic so probably would be too nervuos to actually do it
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    Lool people like you are just butters, you needa get that fresh trim and wear a nice jacket and you will have all the *****es coming for you for pleasure.!!! Then school will be fun
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    (Original post by Capitata)
    That's good. I don't have friends either - and I eat alone and never go anywhere - and I'm happy this way. It is much less stressful. Just make sure you stay near other people at school, not off in the distance so you look weird, and people won't notice.
    I am literally the person off in the distance alone in a classroom, people must think I'm a right creep!
 
 
 
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