Okay so I’m in a relationship, but I honestly don’t see it lasting by the time they go next year to uni never mind when I do in two years, because we have completely different aspirations in life. They’re much more chilled out whereas I have a clear goal. She wants to live in the moment with our relationship and I cannot do that and it’s making me doubt whether I should be with her. The problem lies in that we have the same social group, and she’s so obsessive that last time when we broke up (after 2-3 months) she was upset for about 3-4 months afterwards, and we’ve been together since September this time round. She irritates me with how obsessive she is and although I care about her I just don’t know whether I should be with her.
So, I wanted to know a) whether anyone had a relationship from 6th form to uni and how that worked or didn’t work, and b) how to deal with an obsessive partner without feeling like the bad guy.
x Turn on thread page Beta
Uni, relationships watch
- Thread Starter
- 07-11-2017 20:54
- 07-11-2017 21:45
1) whether anyone had a relationship from 6th form to uni and how that worked or didn’t work
2) how to deal with an obsessive partner without feeling like the bad guy.
It's possible to have a relationship that continues over from 6th form into uni, but the social aspect of meeting people grows significantly. 6th forms usually have 2,000 people. Uni's (depending on which one you go to) can top nearly 10,000.
Don't be with someone who doesn't appreciate you for you. If she's obsessive, let her know straight-on, and explain you don't want to have a relationship with someone who won't give you time to yourself.
Set clear boundaries, or ground rules on what you like and dislike. If she can't handle this, she's not for you.
Your needs should come first over hers. If she's respectful of your needs, she'll understand.
Hope this helps.