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    So I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend who’s 21, I’m 16. I felt completely comfortable and am happy with my decision as we seem pretty serious however before I met him I hadn’t done anything with a guy before. However he has lost count with how many girls he’s slept with he regrets it but he’s very experienced and I’m not. I’ve never done anything to him and I’m scared I won’t be good. I’m also scared I’m not good at sex. How do I compare myself to him because he knows so much and I’m still so clueless on what to do??
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend who’s 21, I’m 16. I felt completely comfortable and am happy with my decision as we seem pretty serious however before I met him I hadn’t done anything with a guy before. However he has lost count with how many girls he’s slept with he regrets it but he’s very experienced and I’m not. I’ve never done anything to him and I’m scared I won’t be good. I’m also scared I’m not good at sex. How do I compare myself to him because he knows so much and I’m still so clueless on what to do??
    Your post appears to contain a contradiction... I think?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend who’s 21, I’m 16. I felt completely comfortable and am happy with my decision as we seem pretty serious however before I met him I hadn’t done anything with a guy before. However he has lost count with how many girls he’s slept with he regrets it but he’s very experienced and I’m not. I’ve never done anything to him and I’m scared I won’t be good. I’m also scared I’m not good at sex. How do I compare myself to him because he knows so much and I’m still so clueless on what to do??
    Good thing about being experienced and being with a virgin is you can teach them exactly how you like everything. So if you're not sure, ask him to guide you a bit and tell you what he likes.
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    Plus despite having been sexual with other people, the only things he knows that you like are what you can tell him - people vary enormously in what they like sexually, so he's inexperienced with you.
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    You'll learn with practice. Give it time.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend who’s 21, I’m 16. I felt completely comfortable and am happy with my decision as we seem pretty serious however before I met him I hadn’t done anything with a guy before. However he has lost count with how many girls he’s slept with he regrets it but he’s very experienced and I’m not. I’ve never done anything to him and I’m scared I won’t be good. I’m also scared I’m not good at sex. How do I compare myself to him because he knows so much and I’m still so clueless on what to do??
    I hope your boyfriend enjoys his prison sentence!
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    what Archon9 said. this my friend is weird, why were you with a 21 year old
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    Weird relationship but hey ho...

    Ask him!
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    (Original post by Archon9)
    I hope your boyfriend enjoys his prison sentence!
    Age of consent in the UK is 16. Unless he films it, they're good. And yeah, it may seem strange because of the age difference but it's really not that awful; it's only 5 years.
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    (Original post by Archon9)
    I hope your boyfriend enjoys his prison sentence!
    Another moron with no knowledge of the UK age of consent 🙄
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    (Original post by BlameMichaelGove)
    Age of consent in the UK is 16. Unless he films it, they're good. And yeah, it may seem strange because of the age difference but it's really not that awful; it's only 5 years.
    But still pretty ****ed up dont you say? as in 18 is the legal age for an adult and then 16 is still considered to be a child if it was a 15/14 year old people would be singing a different tune here.
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    (Original post by VirgoStrain)
    Another moron with no knowledge of the UK age of consent 🙄
    Haha yeah unfortunately I do not have that much space in my brain for such trivial things!
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    (Original post by Archon9)
    But still pretty ****ed up dont you say? as in 18 is the legal age for an adult and then 16 is still considered to be a child if it was a 15/14 year old people would be singing a different tune here.
    It’s legal to have sex at 16. Would you consider a 19 year old person to be a child considering it’s only been 1 year since they were still legally a child? No one gives a single **** about whether you consider it distasteful. 5 years gap is not a big deal, and if both people are consenting then it isn’t your business to poke your nose into the ethics of their decision.
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    (Original post by VirgoStrain)
    It’s legal to have sex at 16. Would you consider a 19 year old person to be a child considering it’s only been 1 year since they were still legally a child? No one gives a single **** about whether you consider it distasteful. 5 years gap is not a big deal, and if both people are consenting then it isn’t your business to poke your nose into the ethics of their decision.
    Well if you post something like this on a public forum site then I dont think it is really poking in just staring my opinion and saying that I think it is ****ed up and if you dont like that then you can suck on my fat English balls because I am doing it!
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    (Original post by Archon9)
    Well if you post something like this on a public forum site then I dont think it is really poking in just staring my opinion and saying that I think it is ****ed up and if you dont like that then you can suck on my fat English balls because I am doing it!
    Doing what? Having a tantrum...
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    (Original post by Archon9)
    But still pretty ****ed up dont you say?
    Not really. Partners in their early twenties wouldn't really be my cup of tea either, but that doesn't allow me the right to judge or condemn someone else's relationship because I wouldn't personally do it. I'm assuming the OP came for impartial, non-judgemental advice, and everyone in this forum has the responsibility to respect that. If you don't have advice to give, it's perhaps time to check out a different forum.
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    (Original post by VirgoStrain)
    Doing what? Having a tantrum...
    Wow this is ironic you come on this website just to instigate arguments with people that you have never even met in reak life everyday?
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    (Original post by Archon9)
    Wow this is ironic you come on this website just to instigate arguments with people that you have never even met in reak life everyday?
    Chill out, I wasn’t looking for an argument.
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    (Original post by BlameMichaelGove)
    Not really. Partners in their early twenties wouldn't really be my cup of tea either, but that doesn't allow me the right to judge or condemn someone else's relationship because I wouldn't personally do it. I'm assuming the OP came for impartial, non-judgemental advice, and everyone in this forum has the responsibility to respect that. If you don't have advice to give, it's perhaps time to check out a different forum.
    Yes I suppose you are right there seem to be some less then sour personalities on here!
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    (Original post by VirgoStrain)
    Chill out, I wasn’t looking for an argument.
    Why the unnecessary insult then?
 
 
 
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