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Would you date a single mom with 3 kids from 2 different dads? Advice please!!! Watch

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    There are a lot of stigmas around single moms, especially women with multiple kids from different fathers. My question is, would you date one? In my situation, I’ve taken to liking a single mom with 3 kids from 2 different dads. I need perspective on this as a man in his late 30's who’s never been married and has never had kids.
    As I'm writing this down, I realize why she is on a "mail order bride" site. I'm currently using AFA's dating service because I'm not into American women. Foreign women are more docile, soft, and understanding.
    The woman I'm kind of seeing is great. From our communication I know that she loves her three kids equally and she's striving hard to provide of them.
    I knew from the get go that we would suit well because we can talk about a lot of things, She's educated and know a bit of American culture so it's not that hard to find some common ground.
    I find it a little bit offputting that she has kids from different men. I learned from her that women from the east who date white men get a lot of flack and are judged like a gold digger. I don't really understand it but from her point of view, it seems like a painful reality to deal with.
    I’ve been to different forums and there are many mixed views regarding dating single mothers so I’m really torn up about it. Both sides have very convincing views and I agree with some of what has been said. I like this woman and I planned to pursue her but I was put off when she let me know that she has kids. I appreciate the honesty but I don’t know what to say , so please help me. Would you date a single mom with multiple kids from different fathers? Please advise and thank you in advance.
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    No.
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    No I would not date a single mother.
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    Hell naw

    But a beta cuck would
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    Personally no. But if you really want to be with her, then go for it.
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    As I'm a lady I'm reversing the situation. I would be very cautious dating a man who had children with two different women. It's not that I'm against fathers, but the track record isn't that good for a committed relationship, however it would depend on the person individual situation. It is hard enough when there is one ex partner and kids in the situation let alone two.
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    Nope, would show that she's one or more of the following:
    1. Very religious and therefore hasn't used contraception so we wouldn't get on (although seems unlikely assuming she wasn't married and divorced twice)

    2. Irresponsible in having children with the wrong person, twice!

    3. Trying to keep a man by getting pregnant, leading to both men so far leaving
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    Avoid like the plague.
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    Do YOU want to be with her?

    That’s the only question you need to ask yourself.
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