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    So I ended a long term relationship with an abusive boyfriend (physical and emotional abuse) a couple months ago and he's still very obsessed with me.

    I have been 'talking' to a guy for several months now after I broke up with my ex and he's been showing me love/care and has been treating me in a way I have never been treated by a guy.

    Last night I came into contact with my ex which led onto us arguing and him beating me up. I was very upset so when I got home i was acting a bit off through text messages with the guy i'm talking to giving him blunt replies. He got annoyed and commented on this as I didn't tell him what was wrong with me when he asked so he just replied "cool".

    I am upset that I annoyed this guy and the fact I have this situation with my ex. My mind is everywhere right now.

    What should I do? Should I talk to the guy I'm talking to about it?
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    I highly suggest cutting all contact from your ex, which you should have done when it broke off.

    I would consider getting the police involved too.
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    assaulting people is a crime. report this criminal to the police.
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    You said he beat you up? If he's stalking you and beating you up, you should probably get the police involved.
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    I highly suggest cutting all contact from your ex, which you should have done when it broke off.

    I would consider getting the police involved too.
    I've considered contacting the police before but I'm worried about what could happen. I blocked him on everything but he still finds way to stalk me/talk to me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've considered contacting the police before but I'm worried about what could happen. I blocked him on everything but he still finds way to stalk me/talk to me.
    What could happen if you don't contact the police is that he'll continue to beat you up as well as other women out there.
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    I'm really sorry to hear that, you should try your best to stay clear of your ex and if you feel unsafe call the police, you should probably call them anyway and report the abuse. As for the guy you're talking to now, if you feel he is trustworthy and that he genuinely cares about you then tell him so he can be more understanding about it, I hope everything gets better for you and if you ever need anyone to talk to about it you can pm me if you want x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've considered contacting the police before but I'm worried about what could happen. I blocked him on everything but he still finds way to stalk me/talk to me.
    He has already attacked you without you going to the police. Brutally this doesn't sound like a problem that is going to just stop on its own.

    Get help as soon as humanly possible.
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    wtf does your ex scum think he's doing , report this **** to the police
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    Opening up to others about emotional and physical abuse is hard. It usually doesn't matter if it's a close friend, family member or someone who you're close with. Sometimes, talking about things and 'venting' can help, it can offer you an outsiders perspective, advice and most importantly making them aware of what you're going through so they can help look out for you or protect you.

    Like majority of people before me, what this ex of yours has done is a crime. He has physically assaulted you which, depending on severity, can get him charged with either assault, attempted bodily harm or grievous bodily harm which all carry sentences.

    Talk to the police in confidence, tell them as much as you can. They will help you.

    Please don't try to hope this blows past, you need to do something before he does it again to you or someone else.
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    Report ex to the police, and explain to the new guy what happened and apologise for being "off".
 
 
 
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