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    (Original post by discobish)
    I came across an article on The Sun (no judgement pls it was a one off) that claims a woman on Mumsnet has been branded 'joyless' when she refused to pay more than her share of the bill when having a meal out.

    Which made me think...

    If you're out for dinner, do you think it's acceptable to only pay for what you've eaten?

    Or, do you think it's good form to split the bill down the middle?

    I'm usually a pay-for-what-I've-had type of gal, unless I'm with my besties or I'm rolling in the $$$$.

    If I'm only having a main, there ain't no way I'm funding someone else's cocktails and three course meal :innocent::noway:

    How about you?
    If I am with family or close friends then we will probably split. Else i will pay for what i have eaten.

    Some people are snakes, they would eat more and drink more than everyone but want the bill to be split evenly.
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    It depends, but usually, I prefer to pay for my food and let the other person pay for their own. However, there are cases in which splitting evenly is better; for example, my flatmate and I ordered pizza two days ago and we qualified for a deal that gave us a total price, meaning it was pretty much impossible to pay for our food individually, so we just split the bill evenly.
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    Since I'd probably order more or things that cost more I'd go for paying for what i ate or evenly plus a little extra. I couldn't do 50/50 knowing she's paying for my stuff lol
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    Neither- The guy is paying
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    I just pay for my own stuff. I don't buy rounds in pubs because I usually only have a coke or a bottle of blue WKD while everybody else has the most expensive drinks.

    If somebody invitied me out for a meal. Unless, It was a date I would assume I was paying for myself so in that case I'd pay for my own food. I wouldn't even need to calculate how much I owe as I always look at the price before ordering as I am a tight wad.
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    If I'm out with my mates we usually just pay for what we actually ate unless one of us happens to be poor that day (in which case one of us will offer for poor boy 'cause it's probably the rest of us that have dragged him out). Tends to be rough amounts rather than exact because nobody cares. Takeaway usually is equal split 'cause everybody eats everybody's ****.

    On a date idk, can't say I've ever had one.

    Overall tho none of it's worth getting too fussed about, I don't really put hard and fast rules on it. There's more important things to be worrying about seeing as I'm not on the breadline.
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    If everyone's had pretty much the same i.e main and a drink or main/drink/pud, then I'm not bothered, but if some people have had 3 courses and multiple drinks, it's not fair to ask for the bill to be split evenly. If you're willing to order that much food, you should be willing to pay for it.
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    Really depends on the situation. Such as who you're with, where you are and what everyone's financial situation is like.

    At the moment I am not doing remotely well financially, so if I go out to eat I have to budget it carefully. So I will only pay for what I am getting. If someone gets annoyed at me over something like that, I'd tell them to sod off :lol: . And in the same respect I wouldn't order a 3 course meal and expect to split the bill evenly if the person I was with only got a main.
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    (Original post by discobish)
    I came across an article on The Sun (no judgement pls it was a one off) that claims a woman on Mumsnet has been branded 'joyless' when she refused to pay more than her share of the bill when having a meal out.
    Err, well yeah.

    In general, when you're with friends, if you can't afford to just have what you want and split the bill then go somewhere cheaper. Don't get your calculator out at the end of the meal. It looks tightfisted and kind of kills any sense of a relaxing evening if you have to stop what you're doing to be an accountant for five minutes when the bill comes.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    Just don't do this...

    What an absolute tool. So much second hand embarrassment.
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    (Original post by TimmonaPortella)
    Err, well yeah.

    In general, when you're with friends, if you can't afford to just have what you want and split the bill then go somewhere cheaper. Don't get your calculator out at the end of the meal. It looks tightfisted and kind of kills any sense of a relaxing evening if you have to stop what you're doing to be an accountant for five minutes when the bill comes.
    What if you're already at a budget place? Some people are on a very strict budgets.

    This also doesn't address the fact that sometimes when out to eat people may order vastly different things.

    If 1 person orders a standard main meal and one drink, and someone else order a main, a side and dessert and a drink. And then someone else order all 3 courses + a bottle of wine....the price for the first person has gone up dramatically if you split the bill equally.


    And In my experience (and me and my friends have done this every time we have gone out). It is not hard or time consuming to add a few numbers together.


    I just think expecting an even split, without taking these things into account just shows a lack of empathy for others.

    Not to say even splits doesn't sometimes work/ isn't appropriate. Obviously sometimes it is.

    But to call someone "tightfisted" or tell them they're ruining the relaxation of the night because they want to only pay for their order....I think it's a bit cruel. You may not know their financial situation. Going out at all may be a big stress cause for them, attitudes like this can just make it worse.
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    (Original post by bones-mccoy)
    What an absolute tool. So much second hand embarrassment.
    Lol, what a mess. That was proper awkward. That's why you look at prices before ordering.


    I do however agree with him that you don't "have" to tip. We pay servers minimum wage in this country. I don't really understand why we'd tip someone in a restaurant but not at say McDonald for example. They're both being paid by the hour. I just find it an odd concept.
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    It depends on the pricing. If, for example, everyone got a pizza that was £10-£12 each then I would just split between everyone. If people got the pizza and then some had a side and others had a couple drinks. Then I'd ask to pay for our own

    Edit. Just to add. Basically, I don't mind giving a couple of pounds to help a friend pay but I don't see why I would have to pay for someone else's meal. I'm not rich and if I'm short on money so limit myself to a £10 meal while others spend £30, I don't see why I should be paying for them.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    What if you're already at a budget place? Some people are on a very strict budgets.

    This also doesn't address the fact that sometimes when out to eat people may order vastly different things.

    If I order a standard main meal and one drink, and someone else order a main, a side and dessert and a drink. And then someone else order all 3 courses + a bottle of wine....the price for the first person has gone up dramatically if you split the bill equally.


    And In my experience (and me and my friends have done this every time we have gone out). It is not hard or time consuming to add a few numbers together.


    I just think expecting an even split, without taking these things into account just shows a lack of empathy for others.

    Not to say even splits doesn't sometimes work/ isn't appropriate. Obviously sometimes it is.

    But to call someone "tightfisted" or tell them they're ruining the relaxation of the night because they want to only pay for their order....I think it's a bit cruel. You may not know their financial situation. Going out at all may be a big stress cause for them, attitudes like this can just make it worse.
    Look I get that most on here are students and relatively hard up, so it's a bit different, but the woman in OP was a fully grown, married woman with kids.

    I'd always offer to cover the difference if I'd had noticeably but not ridiculously more than someone else, but particularly in groups where it's going to be a hassle I'd sort of expect the others to decline the offer and just split the bill, and if the roles were reversed I'd decline and just offer to split the bill. If it were at the point where you'd only had a main and one drink when others were having starters and desserts and coffees and wine I'd probably assume you were having budgeting difficulties and wouldn't expect you to pay an even split.

    On the other hand if you're with the sort of people who would try to take advantage by intentionally ordering more and having you pay towards it I'd suggesting finding different friends tbh.
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    (Original post by TimmonaPortella)
    Look I get that most on here are students and relatively hard up, so it's a bit different, but the woman in OP was a fully grown, married woman with kids.

    I'd always offer to cover the difference if I'd had noticeably but not ridiculously more than someone else, but particularly in groups where it's going to be a hassle I'd sort of expect the others to decline the offer and just split the bill, and if the roles were reversed I'd decline and just offer to split the bill. If it were at the point where you'd only had a main and one drink when others were having starters and desserts and coffees and wine I'd probably assume you were having budgeting difficulties and wouldn't expect you to pay an even split.

    On the other hand if you're with the sort of people who would try to take advantage by intentionally ordering more and having you pay towards it I'd suggesting finding different friends tbh.
    Well yeah, this is a student forum lol :lol: so opinions are going to largely air on the side of budgetting.

    Also I will admit, I did not fully read the article. However being married and with kids does not automatically mean rolling in money and not having to budget carefully.

    From the sounds of it, you seem to be pretty reasonable when in that situation. If you see someone only having a main and realising they might be budgeting. And I appreciate that. But some people can be very oblivious.

    Agreed, if you have those kinds of people in your life...should get rid.
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    It's always good to split it evenly but if it was up to me, I'd just want everyone to be responsible for what they ate/drank.
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    All depends on what we eat

    If we ate the same amount of food then split equally
    If I've just had a starter or a dessert and coffee and the person I'm with had a three course meal with wine then hell no way am I splitting it
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    (Original post by UWS)
    Just don't do this...

    Urgh I have so many friends like him, stingy people are the worst
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    We always seem to pay for what we've had, though in a group of 8+ I find it awkward when everyone's got their phones out adding up exactly what theirs cost, especially when I'd probably tip..but they're evidently not going to. I prefer to just do a reasonable round-up guess. Like let's say starter was 5.95, main was 13.95, dessert was 5.95, drinks were 7, I'd just say mine's 35 and be done with it, ain't going to hassle over a couple of quid (prefer to just give notes and not faff with coins).
 
 
 
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