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    Has anyone got any tips for flirting with older men? This one is particularly awkward and nerdy and I don't think he has any idea how attractive he is. I also can't tell if he's gay.
    I try and hold eye contact but often he looks away. He doesn't seem the seedy type which is almost a shame because I want him to flirt back.
    Anyone got any tips? (And no he isn't a teacher, it's all legal)
    And how do I subtly find out if he's married/gay? He doesn't wear a ring but a lot of men don't. I'd just be surprised if he hasn't been snapped up.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Has anyone got any tips for flirting with older men? This one is particularly awkward and nerdy and I don't think he has any idea how attractive he is. I also can't tell if he's gay.
    I try and hold eye contact but often he looks away. He doesn't seem the seedy type which is almost a shame because I want him to flirt back.
    Anyone got any tips? (And no he isn't a teacher, it's all legal)
    And how do I subtly find out if he's married/gay? He doesn't wear a ring but a lot of men don't. I'd just be surprised if he hasn't been snapped up.
    Puerile as it is, I can't help being put in mind of this:

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    (Original post by liquidconfidence)
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    I'm sorry, how is she a homewrecker? OP stated he isn't married.

    To wager if he's gay, hm...I honestly think the only way to find out without outright asking is to ask about his past relationships? Just in a roundabout sort of way. Like, when I fancied this guy and I wanted to know if he was in a relationship, I was chatting to him about a holiday I went on, and I said, "oh it's amazing, you should take your girlfriend there". And then if he has a girlfriend, he'd agree, and if he didn't, he'd probably correct you. Things like that.

    And well I know flirting is exciting and stuff but if he's not showing any signs of flirting back I would hold back for at first. Wait until you've built up a bit of a stronger relationship, done things together. I think it's important you show him that you're mature as he's an older man. Don't go on about getting really wasted at the weekend in a club because he might write you off as young and immature. When I was talking to this guy, I'd always make sure our discussions were open and honest. I think the tendency would be to try and act way more experienced and outrageous to seem more mature but being adult is being able to carry interesting conversations and to embrace your past.
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    ask him old people's stuff like " who is your favorite Beatle ?" in a flirty way ? idk

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    (Original post by vanderwoodsen)
    I'm sorry, how is she a homewrecker? OP stated he isn't married.

    To wager if he's gay, hm...I honestly think the only way to find out without outright asking is to ask about his past relationships? Just in a roundabout sort of way. Like, when I fancied this guy and I wanted to know if he was in a relationship, I was chatting to him about a holiday I went on, and I said, "oh it's amazing, you should take your girlfriend there". And then if he has a girlfriend, he'd agree, and if he didn't, he'd probably correct you. Things like that.

    And well I know flirting is exciting and stuff but if he's not showing any signs of flirting back I would hold back for at first. Wait until you've built up a bit of a stronger relationship, done things together. I think it's important you show him that you're mature as he's an older man. Don't go on about getting really wasted at the weekend in a club because he might write you off as young and immature. When I was talking to this guy, I'd always make sure our discussions were open and honest. I think the tendency would be to try and act way more experienced and outrageous to seem more mature but being adult is being able to carry interesting conversations and to embrace your past.
    I didn't read all of that but Op clearly stated that she's trying to 'subtly' find out if he is married, or gay
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    (Original post by liquidconfidence)
    I didn't read all of that but Op clearly stated that she's trying to 'subtly' find out if he is married, or gay
    Your...point being? A homewrecker disrupts a relationship. OP wants to find out if this man is in a relationship, presumably, so that she knows whether to try flirting or not.
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    (Original post by vanderwoodsen)
    Your...point being? A homewrecker disrupts a relationship. OP wants to find out if this man is in a relationship, presumably, so that she knows whether to try flirting or not.
    Exactly what I said, in the original post, Op said she is 'subtly' trying to find out if he is married, or gay.

    The fact that she needs to try and investigate this instead of just simply asking him is ridiculous to begin with
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    leave him alone, he's looking away from you lol
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    (Original post by liquidconfidence)
    Exactly what I said, in the original post, Op said she is 'subtly' trying to find out if he is married, or gay.

    The fact that she needs to try and investigate this instead of just simply asking him is ridiculous to begin with
    You have misunderstood the meaning of the word 'homewrecker'.
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    (Original post by vanderwoodsen)
    You have misunderstood the meaning of the word 'homewrecker'.
    And you, have misunderstood the meaning of the word 'inference'.
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    The Tories have plenty of men who seek relationships with younger women, so perhaps they can offer advice.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Has anyone got any tips for flirting with older men? This one is particularly awkward and nerdy and I don't think he has any idea how attractive he is. I also can't tell if he's gay.
    I try and hold eye contact but often he looks away. He doesn't seem the seedy type which is almost a shame because I want him to flirt back.
    Anyone got any tips? (And no he isn't a teacher, it's all legal)
    And how do I subtly find out if he's married/gay? He doesn't wear a ring but a lot of men don't. I'd just be surprised if he hasn't been snapped up.
    hello, like you said finding out if he is even available is a good start ,once the path cleared the balls in your court. i wish you had mentioned how old he was ,.and what you thought the age gap was makes a big difference. maybe you can put up that info or message me privately whatever you prefer.
 
 
 
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