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    I live with this guy at university and I really fancy him so much. Basically he seems to totally fancy this model (literal model) in my flat and I'm so insecure about it. All I can constantly think is 'what would she wear' 'how would she look' 'how can I be as skinny as her'.

    It's so pathetic, I truly know it is and of course I don't tell the other people in my flat how bothered I am by it but how can I make him like me more? It's really getting to me now
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    (Original post by skljfhakjf)
    I live with this guy at university and I really fancy him so much. Basically he seems to totally fancy this model (literal model) in my flat and I'm so insecure about it. All I can constantly think is 'what would she wear' 'how would she look' 'how can I be as skinny as her'.

    It's so pathetic, I truly know it is and of course I don't tell the other people in my flat how bothered I am by it but how can I make him like me more? It's really getting to me now
    Have you guys ever hanged out before? Like I mean is it often ? Because the more you hangout the more they get to know you . And one thing i’ve learnt is that just because you fancy them it doesn’t mean it’ll workout, this is probably something you don’t want to hear but it’s true.

    Nine out of ten times these crushes that do turn into something more never really work out. Maybe it’s just meant to be a crush ? Why don’t you just take charge and go out and show him a side you probably don’t show to often. I’m not talking about like sexy side lol, not quite yet. I’m talking about being fun and spontaneous.

    Hope this helped
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    Yep - I agree with the above poster. Most crushes don't become more than crushes. A lot of guys at uni are very superficial and it's pretty normal that he is enamored with the literal model. But, most women, are not models!! Don't get down about this. The best thing you can do is just be yourself. I know that sounds so cliche but I promise that is the best and only thing you can do.

    They may get together and it will be very tough to watch but in the long run it wasn't meant for you. They may not as well.
    You know you shouldn't compare yourself to her.... it will only cause insecurity. Insecurity even when you are trying to hide it comes out in odd ways. So don't compare yourself to her. Continue to be yourself, dress how you like, and as the above poster said be fun, light hearted, kind, spontaneous. Your flatmate might not notice (sadly) but someone else will!! Confidence is alluring. The best way to have confidence is to be comfortable w/ yourself..... and that can take time and work but it will never come from comparing yourself to the next girl.

    So dress basically how you like but make sure your clothes are clean, hair tended to, some light make-up in my opinion enhances your nature beauty but should be applied light to moderate. Do what enhances your own natural beauty but at the end of the day confidence, happy attitude, etc. is key.
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    Condition him. Find out his favourite sweet and every time you see him give him one and he'll eventually like you...


    Seriously though, talk to him more, ask him for help if needed. Once you get to know him better you might find out that you don't like him as much as you originally thought
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    You can't make someone like you.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    You can't make someone like you.
    I think everyone finds out this the hard way lol
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    (Original post by skljfhakjf)
    I live with this guy at university and I really fancy him so much. Basically he seems to totally fancy this model (literal model) in my flat and I'm so insecure about it. All I can constantly think is 'what would she wear' 'how would she look' 'how can I be as skinny as her'.

    It's so pathetic, I truly know it is and of course I don't tell the other people in my flat how bothered I am by it but how can I make him like me more? It's really getting to me now


    You can't make someone like you.

    He may or may not like you already, but one thing seems clear ....is that he likes her more.

    All you can do is put your cards on the table and hope that he decides to get with you because he thinks she will not get with him.

    that's it basically. You can't make him like you.

    If you know she has a bf or fwb or something now is the time to disclose it to him.......
 
 
 
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