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    Im ridicolously socially awkward, I have barely any friends and I can't make new ones, I **** myself when doing anything with anyone, facetiming, texting, and calling i just shake up and can't talk and completely embarrass myself and i look like an idiot. I can talk to my friends at school because ive known them for years, but i dont do anything with them out of school so they arnet true friends. I was texting a girl for a bit but i was too scared to show my face and she just got annoyed and when she saw me we stopped talking. It really brings me down and i dont know what to do about it, ive never had a proper gf and ive never talked to one properly. Im 16 btw and i dont know what to do about it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im ridicolously socially awkward, I have barely any friends and I can't make new ones, I **** myself when doing anything with anyone, facetiming, texting, and calling i just shake up and can't talk and completely embarrass myself and i look like an idiot. I can talk to my friends at school because ive known them for years, but i dont do anything with them out of school so they arnet true friends. I was texting a girl for a bit but i was too scared to show my face and she just got annoyed and when she saw me we stopped talking. It really brings me down and i dont know what to do about it, ive never had a proper gf and ive never talked to one properly. Im 16 btw and i dont know what to do about it.
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    I totally can relate to you - I have autism and I’ve never had a true friend that I can trust and I can rely on. I’m extremely socially awkward, and school and sixth form were some of the hardest years of my life, feeling totally isolated and left out, it was totally heartbreaking and demoralising for me.

    Since you’re 16 it’s not like you can go out and drink alcohol then gain the confidence to talk to strangers/new people - that’s what I do. Are there any activities/hobbies you can get involved with - you could meet new people and make friends if you do these things? Maybe you should arrange to get professional help - maybe social skills help with speech and language therapists, or maybe get some counselling - just to discuss your feelings with and to have someone you can trust to discuss things bothering you. Don’t worry about not having a GF at 16 - I’ve never had one and I’m older than you, it’s not the end of the world, anyway it’s probably better to wait to have someone more serious later in a few years time or something.

    Things will get better eventually. For someone with not great social skills it’s going to be 50x harder to succeed but if do put that extra in (it’s so unfair we’ve got to work SO SO SO much harder than everyone else, I know) and find ways to improve your social skills and ability to talk to people, things will improve. Best wishes.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im ridicolously socially awkward, I have barely any friends and I can't make new ones, I **** myself when doing anything with anyone, facetiming, texting, and calling i just shake up and can't talk and completely embarrass myself and i look like an idiot. I can talk to my friends at school because ive known them for years, but i dont do anything with them out of school so they arnet true friends. I was texting a girl for a bit but i was too scared to show my face and she just got annoyed and when she saw me we stopped talking. It really brings me down and i dont know what to do about it, ive never had a proper gf and ive never talked to one properly. Im 16 btw and i dont know what to do about it.
    I totally relate to you - I’m autistic and I have no friends and no one who I can fully rely on and trust. I know how hard being able to socialise with people is, but the best advice at this stage I can give you is probably to see a professional - perhaps a speech and language therapist to help improve your social skills, or to get counselling to discuss anything that is playing with your mind. The best way for people like us to improve your social skills is to force yourself into awkward situations and just try to practice talking to strangers - just randomly chatting to someone on a bus/train or something, or answering phone calls and making phone calls on behalf of other people. And when you’re 18 you can go to pubs/clubs and talk to strangers (with the help of alcohol!) It’s so unfair we have to work SO SO SO much harder than everyone else, but if you want to improve your social skills and put the effort in, things will get better and hopefully you’ll make friends (and don’t worry about getting a GF now - it’s best to wait till your a bit older when you can be with someone on a more serious basis). Best wishes!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im ridicolously socially awkward, I have barely any friends and I can't make new ones, I **** myself when doing anything with anyone, facetiming, texting, and calling i just shake up and can't talk and completely embarrass myself and i look like an idiot. I can talk to my friends at school because ive known them for years, but i dont do anything with them out of school so they arnet true friends. I was texting a girl for a bit but i was too scared to show my face and she just got annoyed and when she saw me we stopped talking. It really brings me down and i dont know what to do about it, ive never had a proper gf and ive never talked to one properly. Im 16 btw and i dont know what to do about it.
    I totally relate to you - I’m on the autistic spectrum and I have no friends and no one who I can fully rely on and trust. I know how hard being able to socialise with people is, but the best advice at this stage I can give you is probably to see a professional - perhaps a speech and language therapist to help improve your social skills, or to get counselling to discuss anything that is playing with your mind. The best way for people like us to improve your social skills is to force yourself into awkward situations and just try to practice talking to strangers - just randomly chatting to someone on a bus/train or something, or answering phone calls and making phone calls on behalf of other people. And when you’re 18 you can go to pubs/clubs and talk to strangers (with the help of alcohol!) It’s so unfair we have to work SO SO SO much harder than everyone else, but if you want to improve your social skills and put the effort in, things will get better and hopefully you’ll make friends (and don’t worry about getting a GF now - it’s best to wait till your a bit older when you can be with someone on a more serious basis). Best wishes!
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