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    (Original post by FriendlyPenguin)
    Ugh. And only a grey squirrel too. Not even one of those nice red ones!

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    Im sorry :cry2:
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    (Original post by eden3)
    No-one is out of anyone's league, you're just (clearly) extremely insecure.

    Only insecure people think that attractive people should and do only date other attractive people... plus attraction is subjective anyway, you might be an 8/10 to him


    Also wtf does your hair and eye colour have to do with anything? Lol
    I find that most men are attracted to blondd with blue eyes, I know that is a stereotype that shouldn't be supported, but you are right I am insecure, which is why it is hard for me to believe anyone would be interest in traits I posses. Thank you for the advice though!
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    (Original post by RockyDennis)
    I'm a 10.

    Why did you not want to go with him if you find him to be astonishing? Be srs too. You'd go with Channing Tatum right? Why why whyyyyy.
    There is another factor... He is 26 and I am 17. And I kind of claimed I was 19, which was only my fault and I am a horrible person, but I never thought he'd give me his number and there would be any chance of seeing him again.
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    (Original post by sfdgdgdcfxv)
    How old are you?
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    (Original post by merlin451)
    There is another factor... He is 26 and I am 17. And I kind of claimed I was 19, which was only my fault and I am a horrible person, but I never thought he'd give me his number and there would be any chance of seeing him again.
    You should've told him that, he'd be thinking its his lucky day. Youth is good for women, though 16 might be pushing it, 16 year olds tend to look very young.
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    give it a go at least you can say at least you tried but also at least you have your wits about it x
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    Beauty is subjective, do what you think is right.
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    (Original post by RockyDennis)
    You should've told him that, he'd be thinking its his lucky day. Youth is good for women, though 16 might be pushing it, 16 year olds tend to look very young.
    He was already expressing concern over my young age(19) I don't think he would have talked to me if he knew my real age. He seemed like a gentleman that didn't want to
    "use" a younger girl.
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    if bella swan can snag a vampire, you can do anything and get your man. In all seriousness, if you two are compatible then sure. If not, there are plenty of astonishing men in the club so don't cry in the club.

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    actually, just read the reply. he's 26. Onision was 26 when he met his wife Taylor, 17. Don't be a Taylor.
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    (Original post by FriendlyPenguin)
    Brown eyes are the least attractive colour.

    If you have brown eyes, you are basically doomed to be single forever.
    Yeah,because brown eyed people are too cool to be looking for partners.
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    (Original post by merlin451)
    I am an average looking girl. I have dark hair and brown eyes. I'm quite introverted and awkward so I can't really connect with people easily, at least not without alcohol. I was in a club and I noticed a guy who was absolutely astonishing, totally out of my league. I was quite intoxicated by that point, so when my best friend dared me to talk to him I did it with little discomfort. Surprisingly we hit it off and he seemed to be really interested in me despite the fact that there were other, prettier, girls than me. He invited me over to his place, but I refused. He took it well and only kissed me goodbye. My question is, why would a guy like that be into me at all? I can't stop thinking about him and i have his phone number but he hasn't texted and I'm not sure if I should text him first.
    You missed out big time.
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      (Original post by merlin451)
      There is another factor... He is 26 and I am 17. And I kind of claimed I was 19, which was only my fault and I am a horrible person, but I never thought he'd give me his number and there would be any chance of seeing him again.
      So he is a pedophile?
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      (Original post by FriendlyPenguin)
      So he is a pedophile?
      No he is not. The legal age of consent where I live is 15 and you are an adult from 18 years. Since he doesn't know my real age he cannot be considered a pedophile especially when he didn't go beyond kissing me.
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      Disclaimer: I am just saying what I think.

      We can never really tell you a definite answer unless we somehow get into his head (obviously). Hence, I am going to give you my opinion on the situation.

      Firstly, we don't actually know that you are average; people tend to be harsh on themselves. For example, I have friends who are like 8+/10 but they think they're 3/10 and I just want to roundhouse them all in the face. So, in reality, you may be hot as fk and that is why he was interested. Or you might just be his "type". Secondly, if we were to assume that you are average, then, in my opinion, he might just be thinking "pu$$y is pu$$y". I assume he was looking for a one night stand and that's why he invited you over. For guys, they tend to not care so much about appearance when considering a girl for a one night stands, as long as you are not hideous, as when they are looking for a girl to be in a relationship with because there is no commitment and they never have to look at you again. In addition, you approached him so immediately he knows that you are interested. He might be thinking: "yes! I don't have to work (approach, buy drinks and etc) for sex, this girl is down to clown". By you approaching him, you took away all the stress, anxiety and effort that is usually required for a guy to approach a girl and like they say in physics: electrons tend to take the path of least resistance. You are the path of least resistance.

      Lastly, but most importantly, when guys are in the mood for sex, then they tend to become desperate.

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      - Do keep in mind that he might also be average but you find him attractive because you have low standards
      - Text him to find out the answer. If you do and he blows you off, then you know he was just looking for a one night stand. If he is engaged and you go on a date and etc, then you know he was actually interested.
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      (Original post by merlin451)
      I am an average looking girl. I have dark hair and brown eyes. I'm quite introverted and awkward so I can't really connect with people easily, at least not without alcohol. I was in a club and I noticed a guy who was absolutely astonishing, totally out of my league. I was quite intoxicated by that point, so when my best friend dared me to talk to him I did it with little discomfort. Surprisingly we hit it off and he seemed to be really interested in me despite the fact that there were other, prettier, girls than me. He invited me over to his place, but I refused. He took it well and only kissed me goodbye. My question is, why would a guy like that be into me at all? I can't stop thinking about him and i have his phone number but he hasn't texted and I'm not sure if I should text him first.
      You should really text him. Hit it off again and see how it goes

      (Original post by FriendlyPenguin)
      Brown eyes are the least attractive colour.

      If you have brown eyes, you are basically doomed to be single forever.
      I have dark and brown eyes. Maybe that explains why I'm single
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      (Original post by idklolhelp)
      actually, just read the reply. he's 26. Onision was 26 when he met his wife Taylor, 17. Don't be a Taylor.
      I love Onision's take on the age gap topic. I would never do anything to harm a man that I promised to love even if that love disappears. I'm a rational person.
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      (Original post by PhilandTheo)
      Disclaimer: I am just saying what I think.

      We can never really tell you a definite answer unless we somehow get into his head (obviously). Hence, I am going to give you my opinion on the situation.

      Firstly, we don't actually know that you are average; people tend to be harsh on themselves. For example, I have friends who are like 8+/10 but they think they're 3/10 and I just want to roundhouse them all in the face. So, in reality, you may be hot as fk and that is why he was interested. Or you might just be his "type". Secondly, if we were to assume that you are average, then, in my opinion, he might just be thinking "pu$$y is pu$$y". I assume he was looking for a one night stand and that's why he invited you over. For guys, they tend to not care so much about appearance when considering a girl for a one night stands, as long as you are not hideous, as when they are looking for a girl to be in a relationship with because there is no commitment and they never have to look at you again. In addition, you approached him so immediately he knows that you are interested. He might be thinking: "yes! I don't have to work (approach, buy drinks and etc) for sex, this girl is down to clown". By you approaching him, you took away all the stress, anxiety and effort that is usually required for a guy to approach a girl and like they say in physics: electrons tend to take the path of least resistance. You are the path of least resistance.

      Lastly, but most importantly, when guys are in the mood for sex, then they tend to become desperate.

      Note:
      - Do keep in mind that he might also be average but you find him attractive because you have low standards
      - Text him to find out the answer. If you do and he blows you off, then you know he was just looking for a one night stand. If he is engaged and you go on a date and etc, then you know he was actually interested.

      I really like what you just wrote, it's realistic and quite frankly what I thought the entire time he was talking to me. I was so sure that all he cared about was having sex with me no matter the appearance, but then I ran off and left him and my friends claimed that he looked for me everywhere and was very frantic about it. Also he made it clear he didn't want to have sex, if anyone was pushing on that it was me. I don't know what to think. Thank you for the advice though, everything you said was rational and realistic and cleared up my thoughts a bit.
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      (Original post by merlin451)
      I really like what you just wrote, it's realistic and quite frankly what I thought the entire time he was talking to me. I was so sure that all he cared about was having sex with me no matter the appearance, but then I ran off and left him and my friends claimed that he looked for me everywhere and was very frantic about it. Also he made it clear he didn't want to have sex, if anyone was pushing on that it was me. I don't know what to think. Thank you for the advice though, everything you said was rational and realistic and cleared up my thoughts a bit.
      I would stop playing games and running away, if you want to be with him then talk to him.
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      I wasn't playing games I just felt unwell and didn't want to throw up in front of him(in case I would need to)
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