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Me and my friends don't really get on and I feel left out? watch

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    Well I like my friends and I assume they don't dislike me but I feel like we don't really click. I also joined their friend group at the start of secondary school whereas they have know each other since before primary school so I often feel left out. We don't really have similar
    interests. I really want a best friend who will prefer me over other people but at the moment I always feel like I'm second best. I also feel like I'm not happy when I'm with them which i think is important in friendship. They often meet up without me which I can understand as I live either away from them but I feel like they don't want me along when I can come.
    We have a small friend group - there are 4 of us.
    M likes L best, L likes H best, H likes L best and me and M really don't like each other.
    I feel like perhaps I ought to try and find new friends but its a bit late for that as all friend groups are already formed. Because I live further away, I can't really attend any extracurricular activities and it's a fairly small school anyway. I'm in year 11 so I'm kind of hoping that I'll meet some new people at sixth form.
    I guess I'm just trying to ask for advice - should i just carry on as I am - being friends but not best friends and left out? Or what should I do?
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    I think you should do what’s best for you at the end of year. Maybe talk to them about how you feel as I know what’s it’s like to be left out by your friendship group and when I mentioned it to them, I started to getting invited to more things. You will make new friends in sixth form too, so don’t worry too much. You could always try and join a new friendship but because you’re in year 11 it could be hard as everyone already has their friendship groups and may not be accepting.
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    This has happened to me in a similar way- moved to a new school in the hope of making new friends to find other groups have been established. You could try and make friends with loads of people individually and you can maybe develop a deeper connection to people you find you really do click with.
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