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    I've known her for around a year, just sitting next to her I lectures.

    We have gotten closer recently, she teases and jokes around with me a lot.

    I've asked her out for dinner and she said yes.

    So I want to go for a hug early on, it breaks the touch barrier and sets the tone for the evening.

    How would I do it?

    I'm picking her up, so...

    1. Get out of my car, and greet her. Hug her. But this feels a bit try hard.
    2. Let her get in the car, say hello while offering a hug.
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    I always greet with a hug. It does set the tone for the evening and I don't think it's too try hard, just don't grab her ass or hug her for too long. A quick hug should do the trick.

    Never handshake, it's not a job interview.
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    I always greet with a hug. It does set the tone for the evening and I don't think it's too try hard, just don't grab her ass or hug her for too long. A quick hug should do the trick.

    Never handshake, it's not a job interview.
    At the very least it will make her smile.

    So should I do it in my car, or get out for her?
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    (Original post by UWS)
    I always greet with a hug. It does set the tone for the evening and I don't think it's too try hard, just don't grab her ass or hug her for too long. A quick hug should do the trick.

    Never handshake, it's not a job interview.
    My student has learnt well :yep: my job here is done

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    At the very least it will make her smile.

    So should I do it in my car, or get out for her?
    Step out of the car and greet her with a hug.
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    yes. this.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've known her for around a year, just sitting next to her I lectures.

    We have gotten closer recently, she teases and jokes around with me a lot.

    I've asked her out for dinner and she said yes.

    So I want to go for a hug early on, it breaks the touch barrier and sets the tone for the evening.

    How would I do it?

    I'm picking her up, so...

    1. Get out of my car, and greet her. Hug her. But this feels a bit try hard.
    2. Let her get in the car, say hello while offering a hug.
    giving hugs in cars is just uncomfortable,

    do the 1st one, wait outside the car, greet her with a hug and maybe a kiss on the cheek, and help her in the car?
    Also dont think about it too much, just go with the flow and let things happen!!

    Gooood luck!!!
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    A hug is the best way to greet; handshakes are so awkward :rofl:

    Thank you teacher!
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    (Original post by UWS)
    A hug is the best way to greet; handshakes are so awkward :rofl:

    Thank you teacher!
    youre welcome child

    im a huggy person in general, i mean like even when i met you and B you all got hugs hahaha

    i dont do handshakes, like what even is that :rofl:
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    (Original post by CleverSquirrel)
    youre welcome child

    im a huggy person in general, i mean like even when i met you and B you all got hugs hahaha

    i dont do handshakes, like what even is that :rofl:
    I had one of my previous dates greet me with a handshake, I wanted to bolt asap. Suffice to say, there was no follow up date :toofunny:
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    (Original post by UWS)
    I had one of my previous dates greet me with a handshake, I wanted to bolt asap. Suffice to say, there was no follow up date :toofunny:
    you should have pulled her in for a hug when she brought her hand near you :rofl:
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    I think hugs are a bit friend zoney. I wouldn't want to hug my date. I think just give her a cheeky grin when she comes into the car and then a couple times during the journey could put your hand on her leg or arm (briefly) during conversation when you're making a point. And when you reverse, put your hand behind her headrest. Even at the end of the date I'd avoid hugging at all costs instead go for either a kiss on the cheek or on the lips.
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    DO NOT HUG UNLESS YOU WANT FRIENDZONED.
    If you want to break the touch barrier, a brief hand-to-shoulder/upper arm touch while saying hi/greeting her. Otherwise, if you are walking through a crowded/semi crowded space, guide her to walk in front of you with a hand to the shoulder/back.

    SUBTLETY IS KEY, MY FRIEND.

    Good luck on your conquest.
 
 
 
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