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    My boyfriend isn't 20 and I am 16 but we haven't told anyone about our relationship except from our parents, only because my boyfriend is scared nobody will agree and will say stuff. We are in love but I'm concerned that he wont ever want to tell anyone because of the 4 years age gap. I'm asurred that it's legal to have sexual intimacy but with dating I have no clue. HELP!!
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    Your boyfriend's a paedophile and anyone who disagrees probably is one too.
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    Your bf is a pedo b. That's all you gotta worry about .
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      maybe when ur older?
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      My boyfriend isn't 20
      is this a typo ?
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      4 years isn't massive, and maybe the OP has a very mature personality and looks very mature too. I don't think you could go as far as calling him a paedophile, I mean if she (I assume you are female) were 17 would you? Probably not, and that's only one year older.
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      (Original post by catmckie)
      4 years isn't massive, and maybe the OP has a very mature personality and looks very mature too. I don't think you could go as far as calling him a paedophile, I mean if she (I assume you are female) were 17 would you? Probably not, and that's only one year older.
      And if she was 1 year younger then he'd be a paedo. Please stop trying to excuse predatory behaviour. If you're 20 the lowest you can really go is 18, it's an unwritten rule but that's just how it is.
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      (Original post by catmckie)
      4 years isn't massive, and maybe the OP has a very mature personality and looks very mature too. I don't think you could go as far as calling him a paedophile, I mean if she (I assume you are female) were 17 would you? Probably not, and that's only one year older.
      Also I think the biggest way paedophiles are defended is because the victim is "mature" . Gtfo.
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      (Original post by offsetWHOOP)
      Also I think the biggest way paedophiles are defended is because the victim is "mature" . Gtfo.
      Calling someone a paedophile is a massive accusation that should not be said so lightly. You do not know him nor her or their relationship. Think before you say something like that.
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      Once you're 18, no one will give a ****.
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      unlucky mate, have fun with a pedo
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      (Original post by catmckie)
      Calling someone a paedophile is a massive accusation that should not be said so lightly. You do not know him nor her or their relationship. Think before you say something like that.
      Oh look at you taking the moral high-ground. If you're 20 and going out with a 16yo then yes you are a paedo and that's embarrassing. End of story.
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      all girls at my sixth form be dating 18 + guys, like ***** sit the fuk down, annoys me so much bruv
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      (Original post by catmckie)
      Calling someone a paedophile is a massive accusation that should not be said so lightly. You do not know him nor her or their relationship. Think before you say something like that.


      On TSR I have heard that word used to describe men in their 40's dating women in their 20's.........
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      (Original post by ANM775)
      On TSR I have heard that word used to describe men in their 40's dating women in their 20's.........
      On TSR ive seen old men like you defend men going out with teenagers.
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      It's not socially acceptable but it isn't paedophilia, I don't think many people know what it means.
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      (Original post by offsetWHOOP)
      On TSR ive seen old men like you defend men going out with teenagers.


      lmao just a sec let me fetch my zimmerframe

      do you know what a peadophile is?
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      (Original post by ANM775)
      lmao just a sec let me fetch my zimmerframe

      do you know what a peadophile is?
      Oh old man, did I say paedophiles? I said you're defending old men going out with schoolgirls which is exactly what you do you sad loser
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      (Original post by offsetWHOOP)
      Oh old man, did I say paedophiles? I said you're defending old men going out with schoolgirls which is exactly what you do you sad loser


      which topic did I defend an old man going out with a school girl, you've totally made that up.

      If there is an age gap and the persons are close in age but underage, or one person is above the age consent ..and the other person is noticeably older than the age of consent usually [but not always] I won't see what the massive deal is over it and will say the person is not a paedophile

      it's pretty obvious you don't actually know what a paedophile is. I suggest you actually research a word before using it
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      I wouldnt necessarily consider him a pedo, but I would definitely consider ending the relationship due to how you not having fully grown yet. If you were over 18 and were dating someone with a 4 year age gap then it would be okay but in your current situation it's just problematic.
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