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    I have a male friend who began going bald 2 years ago, at 23. At first he was understandably insecure and wore beanie hats a lot; it was quite noticeable around the temples and on the crown.

    He used to make comments about it and was quite bothered by it and I'd always try my best to reassure him that it was fine, not that noticeable and that he was great like that.

    Anyway, I saw him last week for the first time in a while. His hair seemed a lot thicker than it had done previously and the bald patches less noticable.

    I didn't want to say in person as I knew he was sensitive but I thought he'd feel reassured if I told him, so I told him what I thought in a message after I left, as I thought it would make him happy.

    THat was almost a week ago; he's seen the message and hasn't replied. He's still online etc. and he normally always replies within a day or or less..

    I don't understand why he's ignoring me; maybe I should have said nothing as I know he's insecure about it, but I thought that what I said would give him a confidence boost and make him happy, what do others think? Thanks
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    Go see him in person, online doesn't really give proper reason
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    Go see him in person, online doesn't really give proper reason
    I saw him in person a week ago; he lives quite far so can't see him often. I thought telling him by message would be better as I didn't want to upset him or anything by drawing attention to it in person..
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    I wouldn't worry about it- you had good intentions! I think what I would do is tell him that you are a bit concerned at what he might have thought or that he could have misinterpreted your message. Then hopefully that will clear things up and he can be sure that you were only trying to boost his confidence as this was something that he was conscious of before. Hopefully, he will see that you were trying to be a good friend! Or perhaps he just doesn't know what to reply- you could text him something else off this topic and see if he responds to that, as he may just feel awkward and may not know what to reply
 
 
 
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