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    I'm in a bit a bad situation here. I really, really fancy my flatmate at university, to the point where I actually want to be with her. She doesn't have a clue at all that I'm interested, I'm very good at suppressing my feelings but when I'm alone it eats away at me in my head. I've never really had this feeling for a girl, in fact I've never been with a girl (although I did lie about being with a girl uni because I didn't want feel isolated from the group), especially being the second oldest too.

    I honestly think she doesn't reciprocate these feelings back. We're friends but that's it. I want to tell her how I feel but I know this will probably be a bad idea and make life 10x harder for me, especially if she doesn't like me or it begins to change her opinion of me.

    So honestly, I just need advice on how to get over her and move on. I usually hit the books and distract myself which is helpful. I don't want to not stop going out with her because all my other friends hang around her too.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm in a bit a bad situation here. I really, really fancy my flatmate at university, to the point where I actually want to be with her. She doesn't have a clue at all that I'm interested, I'm very good at suppressing my feelings but when I'm alone it eats away at me in my head. I've never really had this feeling for a girl, in fact I've never been with a girl (although I did lie about being with a girl uni because I didn't want feel isolated from the group), especially being the second oldest too.

    I honestly think she doesn't reciprocate these feelings back. We're friends but that's it. I want to tell her how I feel but I know this will probably be a bad idea and make life 10x harder for me, especially if she doesn't like me or it begins to change her opinion of me.

    So honestly, I just need advice on how to get over her and move on. I usually hit the books and distract myself which is helpful. I don't want to not stop going out with her because all my other friends hang around her too.
    If you tell her how you feel and she doesn't reciprocate (a likely outcome, given that you're living together/ dontshitwhereyoueat), then it could make things really awkward for the remainder of the year.

    Your best bet would be to wait until the end of the year and then declare your undying love to her.
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    Exactly what Jim said!

    TBH wait until the end of the year and just come straight out with it.... it's not a good idea to do it while your living together.

    Good luck!
 
 
 
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