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    I'm wondering if whether the fact that I am shy is a turn off to girls or whether they find it cute/attractive. I have read online about girls not liking shy guys on the basis that they are clingy but I realize that the girl will have a life other than me and I will respect her for it.

    Still is being shy going to hinder me on my journey to find true love?

    Thanks.
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    TSR answers: OFC NOT ADORBS N SHIET.

    Real life answer: Like, of course it is. Like, duh, you know? Like.
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    It depends on how shy you are. You need to be able to talk and open up to your girlfriend if you want a relationship. I don't think girls see shy guys as clingy.
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    (Original post by FakeNewsEditor)
    TSR answers: OFC NOT ADORBS N SHIET.

    Real life answer: Like, of course it is. Like, duh, you know? Like.
    Ha Ha! Truth hurts! They'll be someone out there though, only it will take me longer to find her.
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    (Original post by cheesecakelove)
    It depends on how shy you are. You need to be able to talk and open up to your girlfriend if you want a relationship. I don't think girls see shy guys as clingy.
    I feel that once I had gotten to know her, I would then (without fear of judgement) be able to talk to her about feelings and personal stuff. That's good to know, I was just reading a Reddit article about girls finding shy guys clingy. I don't think they should, they should see what we offer, I mean once I get a girlfriend she needn't worry about me cheating on her! She'd tell straight away I would be so nervous!
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    (Original post by Robin Tripp)
    I'm wondering if whether the fact that I am shy is a turn off to girls or whether they find it cute/attractive. I have read online about girls not liking shy guys on the basis that they are clingy but I realize that the girl will have a life other than me and I will respect her for it.

    Still is being shy going to hinder me on my journey to find true love?

    Thanks.
    Brings a tear to my eyes.

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    (Original post by Robin Tripp)
    Ha Ha! Truth hurts! They'll be someone out there though, only it will take me longer to find her.
    Maybe.

    Depends on how shy you are. If you are open to talking to a girl like you'd talk to any person regardless of their sex, shyness is unlikely to be an issue.

    If you however don't even talk to girls, they won't even know you're interested in them. Despite all the talk about gender roles, women still expect to be approached, they rarely do the approaching themselves. Also, even if the girl is the sort of girl who does the approaching, "shyness" gives a "I'm unavailable" vibe to them. They won't even think you're interested and will therefore be less likely to approach you.
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    (Original post by FakeNewsEditor)
    Maybe.

    Depends on how shy you are. If you are open to talking to a girl like you'd talk to any person regardless of their sex, shyness is unlikely to be an issue.

    If you however don't even talk to girls, they won't even know you're interested in them. Despite all the talk about gender roles, women still expect to be approached, they rarely do the approaching themselves. Also, even if the girl is the sort of girl who does the approaching, "shyness" gives a "I'm unavailable" vibe to them. They won't even think you're interested and will therefore be less likely to approach you.
    I guess so. I'll work on it.
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    Depends on how confident the female is.

    However, yes shyness is turn off to girls, they love guys who are secure and confident in themselves.

    There are different avenues to find love-through online dating (POF, OkCupid), speed dating, joining cubs based on interests, through education/work, through your network, through hobbies, approaching females.

    Be your best self, hit the gym, wear nice clothes, groom well, have good posture, make good eye contact, have good self esteem, work on your conversation skills.

    I hope this helps:

    1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

    2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

    3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily. Relax.

    Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance. Be happy with yourself.

    4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

    5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

    6) Ask how they are, how are they keeping, how's everything, what's the latest, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening.

    Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them,

    Compliment them, say "I like your jacket".

    If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

    7) Be passionate about life.

    8) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

    9) Look outside!
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    (Original post by Analyst89)
    Depends on how confident the female is.

    However, yes shyness is turn off to girls, they love guys who are secure and confident in themselves.

    There are different avenues to find love-through online dating (POF, OkCupid), speed dating, joining cubs based on interests, through education/work, through your network, through hobbies, approaching females.

    Be your best self, hit the gym, wear nice clothes, groom well, have good posture, make good eye contact, have good self esteem, work on your conversation skills.

    I hope this helps:

    1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

    2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

    3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily. Relax.

    Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance. Be happy with yourself.

    4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

    5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

    6) Ask how they are, how are they keeping, how's everything, what's the latest, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening.

    Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them,

    Compliment them, say "I like your jacket".

    If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

    7) Be passionate about life.

    8) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

    9) Look outside!
    Thanks that's good advice. I'm going to print this off.
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    No, not to shy girls.
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    (Original post by physconomics)
    No, not to shy girls.
    There the kinda girls I'm looking for!
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    (Original post by Robin Tripp)
    I'm wondering if whether the fact that I am shy is a turn off to girls or whether they find it cute/attractive. I have read online about girls not liking shy guys on the basis that they are clingy but I realize that the girl will have a life other than me and I will respect her for it.

    Still is being shy going to hinder me on my journey to find true love?

    Thanks.
    Some girls like shy guys. Personally, when I meet a guy i find it cute that he's shy and thinking about what to say and then just stuttering and waffling.Some girls find shy guys cuter and nicer instead of guys "out there". You can be shy and meet "the one". It doesn't need a personality to find true love. Just be kind and caring and that is a turn for most girls.
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    Actually, it makes me quite curious to why that guy is shy so I'd probably be more likely to try and get the guy to come out more. Its not a turn off for me.
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    (Original post by miss_ambitious)
    Some girls like shy guys. Personally, when I meet a guy i find it cute that he's shy and thinking about what to say and then just stuttering and waffling.Some girls find shy guys cuter and nicer instead of guys "out there". You can be shy and meet "the one". It doesn't need a personality to find true love. Just be kind and caring and that is a turn for most girls.
    Aww OK thanks! I feel better about myself!
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    (Original post by Wisping)
    Actually, it makes me quite curious to why that guy is shy so I'd probably be more likely to try and get the guy to come out more. Its not a turn off for me.
    Oh you mean you would date them and try to like bring them out of their shell more??
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    (Original post by Robin Tripp)
    Oh you mean you would date them and try to like bring them out of their shell more??
    Exactly doing the opposite will make them feel like they're odd which they aren't, they just need to feel comfortable within a person and to be able to talk freely without whatever is keeping them stopping them from being who they really are.
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    (Original post by Wisping)
    Exactly doing the opposite will make them feel like they're odd which they aren't, they just need to feel comfortable within a person and to be able to talk freely without whatever is keeping them stopping them from being who they really are.
    That's exactly how I feel! I hope when I find a girlfriend she's understanding! Thanks I feel a lot better!
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    (Original post by Robin Tripp)
    I'm wondering if whether the fact that I am shy is a turn off to girls or whether they find it cute/attractive. I have read online about girls not liking shy guys on the basis that they are clingy but I realize that the girl will have a life other than me and I will respect her for it.

    Still is being shy going to hinder me on my journey to find true love?

    Thanks.
    Tbh I think that it depends on the girl. I mean i don't really find bad boys attractive but then again confidence is pretty good to have. I find shy guys quite cute but you usually have to have some confidence. In all fairness I'm very shy and so far it hasn't benefited me but I guess it might be different for you
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    (Original post by I love rainbows)
    Tbh I think that it depends on the girl. I mean i don't really find bad boys attractive but then again confidence is pretty good to have. I find shy guys quite cute but you usually have to have some confidence. In all fairness I'm very shy and so far it hasn't benefited me but I guess it might be different for you
    I suppose it will just take longer to find someone.
 
 
 
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