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    Hey all,

    So first post. My guy and me have been together for around 3.5 years now, and we have some serious feelings for each other. To avoid details, it's mushy to the fullest extent.

    Yet we're agreeing on separating so we learn to grow as individuals, experience independence, experience uni, and meet new people. Yet again, we are both pretty...sad, about the whole thing. We do believe the whole 'if its meant to be' yada yada, but we don't really know how to go about it.

    We still want to keep in close contact as we are genuinely interested in each others lives, since we have come so far together. And we'll back off when one of us gets into a relationship etc.

    We have a plan, but we're just not 'happy' about it, so I was wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences? Or advice lmao I'm pretty stuck.
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    (Original post by yadanishgirl)
    Hey all,

    So first post. My guy and me have been together for around 3.5 years now, and we have some serious feelings for each other. To avoid details, it's mushy to the fullest extent.

    Yet we're agreeing on separating so we learn to grow as individuals, experience independence, experience uni, and meet new people. Yet again, we are both pretty...sad, about the whole thing. We do believe the whole 'if its meant to be' yada yada, but we don't really know how to go about it.

    We still want to keep in close contact as we are genuinely interested in each others lives, since we have come so far together. And we'll back off when one of us gets into a relationship etc.


    We have a plan, but we're just not 'happy' about it, so I was wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences? Or advice lmao I'm pretty stuck.
    Maybe you could just go on a "break" though it sounds like the relationship is over if you're already planning what would happen if either of you gets into another relationship.

    There must be a reason as to why you want to separate. Is it because you don't feel the same as when you first got with him? Sounds like you've already made up your decision anyway. Keep in mind that either of you may feel jealous if a new relationship starts. If that happens you'll probably have to cut contact because it's going to hurt.
 
 
 
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