How to ask a girl out, who you havnt spoken in a while

Mention that you haven’t met in a while and that someone mentioned her name recently and it made you think you should catch up - something simple like coffee?

Well, honestly, I'd go to her fb page and see if there are any new pics of her w/ some new guy that wasn't around 4 mos ago. Assuming she still doesn't have a boyfriend then send her a friendly text or fb message and say what the above poster suggested that _____ mentioned her name and it made you think about her and you wanted to say 'hi' and see how she is doing. Assuming that a text exchange ensues then ask if she'd be up for meeting for coffee. But please only do this if you have honorable intentions. Please don't chat her up and invite her for coffee if you're really just looking for a hook-up. That would be pretty mean actually. So, again, assuming, that you think you could kind of like this girl take her for coffee and pay for it. That kind of helps to differentiate 'buddies' from a date. Then if things go well suggest getting together again in the future.... and gage her response. Then text with her again for 2-3 days and suggest getting together to do something - dinner, a movie and drinks (whatever) - she'll know it's a date.

I would not suggest going in for the 'silly'/flirty comments - especially about her 'turning into a nice girl now' - for now... that might have worked a few months ago but you've been gone, you've had a different gf and you haven't been in contact with her for a significant amount of time so approach her first with respect and as the text exchanges go along and if she meets you for coffee you'll get a better feel of when it is okay to put in the flirty comments.

Good Luck!

Thanks for his amazing advice,

I've had a good look at her social media, she put quite a few since. Can't see any pictures with other guys.

I really want to try and hammer home, "we are not going out as buddies but more on a date"

Do you think I can go straight for dinner?