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    I find myself increasingly looking for the approval, validation and attention of those I like or otherwise have a sexual attraction too.

    Now, the confusing part is, I am already in a long-term committed relationship (of 3 years). While, I love my partner, we've had many problems over the duration. Financial (her debts), unemployment (me been the breadwinner earning very little), wellbeing (both our mental health's), and stress (my job).

    She is very dominant, extroverted and opinionated. I'm the opposite. They say opposites attract, but its more frustrating living with someone who complains over how you do the most daily mundane tasks around the house.

    Top this, our sex life to start with was very good, obviously it dwindles with everyone, but I have no desire to have sex anymore. I love her, but feel little attraction.

    What annoys me is, I often find myself daydreaming and fantasising about people in my daily life. People I work with, those I pass in the street and random people from my past.

    There are 1 or 2 other people in my life that I would happily date, and go out with, that I find both sexually attractive and care about and feel like I would connect with. But because I have low self esteem in reality I'd have no chance.

    I am educated, not necessarily in a great job, and at best average looking - but very ambitious. To me, these people are stunning.

    Not that I would take the opportunity. I do love my partner, but I am becoming more and more frustrated with our situation. Its more of a grass is greener scenario.

    Does anyone else find themselves helplessly daydreaming about their peers or those in their past they find romantically attractive?

    These people are the objects of my desire, and realistically, I dunno if I match up in their eyes or if I'd have a chance but it annoys me that I mentally put myself through it. But its insatiable.
 
 
 
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