Im at sixth form and i finish in September.
Im quite shy.
I sometimes have conversations with class mates. but this only in class time, we dont hang around at breaks, or lunch , or outside of college.
Ive been trying to make more of an effort.
Every free period i have , and every lunchtime just do work and thats it.
Im annoyed at my self. Maybe im introverted. Maybe i have some social anxiety. You can put a label on anything though.
Maybe i need to get a grip and try to be confident, but its easier said than done.
it impacts on me because i wont go to clubs , and everyone goes out and has the time of their lives , and im missing out.
Anyone else had the same experiences/can relate??
People say im a nice person, but i have no real friends. Can anyone else relate? Watch
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- 15-11-2017 02:19
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- 15-11-2017 02:22
How do you cope ?
- 15-11-2017 02:39
same kinda, i have a friendship group of 4, only one i consider a true friend and actually go out with ... outside that group i have another. feels like i only have 2 friends in the whole world lmao. luckily, i'm okay with it although some times i feel like i'm nice enough to have more than two real friends.
in college you need to make sure you live your best. who seems friendly? who have you noticed you could possibly gel with? at this point before lesson ends and its break/lunch, ask someone if they're going out to get lunch or going to the common room and say alright same, i'll tag along. make sure you come off likeable and be yourself, dont try too hard b/c it might be weird. even as an introvert you need to put in the effort.
- 15-11-2017 02:46
same- but then I found LSD
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- 15-11-2017 02:47
Same here. Eventually I just decided to focus on myself and think strictly about work.
Fortunately recently I met some people to hang out with.
However I still have the same ‘focus on work more than friends’ mentality.
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- 15-11-2017 04:37
You just haven't met the right like-minded people yet
- 15-11-2017 04:43
Me too, lol. I have no friends but am a really kindhearted and nice guy, lol.
- 15-11-2017 05:39
I'm pretty quiet and introverted
I would actually kind of call myself a push over and that's how I've been living the last few years
I have many friends I can talk to due to the sport teams and clubs I was in in high school
but I don't think I can act true to anyone besides my family
Never dated anyone either
I guess you can say I'm pretty content with how I'm living since I'm more as a family gal than a hang out gal
But it'd be nice if I had a friend that I can relate to and be myself around
Don't worry you're not the only one
- 15-11-2017 05:52
I’ve felt like that a lot in school and also in college. Mostly when I was at college because I had to travel 20 miles and knew nobody. What you should do in my opinion is try to find ways of being more relaxed in ANY situations you find uncomfortable. I know how hard it can be to introduce yourself to new people etc. Talk to EVERYONE whenever possible. E.g. talk to your neighbour and ask them how they are, the person next to you at a bus stop, or just go window shopping and ask the staff in stores some questions about products. I know this sounds silly but it really helped me so I can’t see why it won’t help anyone else such as yourself. Just make an effort on a regular basis to use your mouth and communicate in a friendly manner with other people. And if you feel nervous about going to clubs when you do find people to go out with on a Friday night, just remember that you’ll have the best time if you let yourself go and relax and just enjoy the company of who you are with at the time. I personally never felt comfortable in a club because I can’t really dance lol. But nowadays I have just learnt to say to myself “**** it” and not care. Now I enjoy myself nearly every time I go out. So basically in a nutshell, just practice talking to people more. Start small with situations you’re more comfortable with and start gradually making it harder so you always push yourself or you won’t grow as a person.
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