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    Me (f) and my ex were together for 2 and a half years but they cheated on me twice. The second time being quite recently. After the second time I decided to break up with her. Things between us were on and off for a while but more off recently, and I do not feel the same way I used to about her. Me and all of my housemates went out one night and me and I ended up kissing one of my housemates several times, despite me and him being good friends and then we ended up cuddling when we got back and again later on. The next day we spoke about it and said that it didn’t mean anything, it was just cheeky and a laugh. A few days later, all of us went out again and me and him ended up leaving earlier than the rest and going home. When we was home we were flirting a lot and cuddled again. We spoke about it again and said we didn’t know why it happened. We spoke about it again yesterday and both admitted an attraction to each other and potentially even feelings. My ex knows what happened the first time, but we told her it didn’t mean anything, and she doesn’t know it happened again. We don’t know what to do now. There is a lot of guilt for hiding the truth and we don’t know where to go from here
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    To be honest you don't owe your ex anything, particularly in light of them cheating on you (especially twice!). I think that if you think it's something that your genuinely seeing going somewhere and it's not to get back at the ex (as this would hurt your flatmate particularly and isn't healthy for you) then go for it!

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    Me (f) and my ex were together for 2 and a half years but they cheated on me twice. The second time being quite recently. After the second time I decided to break up with her. Things between us were on and off for a while but more off recently, and I do not feel the same way I used to about her. Me and all of my housemates went out one night and me and I ended up kissing one of my housemates several times, despite me and him being good friends and then we ended up cuddling when we got back and again later on. The next day we spoke about it and said that it didn’t mean anything, it was just cheeky and a laugh. A few days later, all of us went out again and me and him ended up leaving earlier than the rest and going home. When we was home we were flirting a lot and cuddled again. We spoke about it again and said we didn’t know why it happened. We spoke about it again yesterday and both admitted an attraction to each other and potentially even feelings. My ex knows what happened the first time, but we told her it didn’t mean anything, and she doesn’t know it happened again. We don’t know what to do now. There is a lot of guilt for hiding the truth and we don’t know where to go from here
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    (Original post by simplytheworst)
    To be honest you don't owe your ex anything, particularly in light of them cheating on you (especially twice!). I think that if you think it's something that your genuinely seeing going somewhere and it's not to get back at the ex (as this would hurt your flatmate particularly and isn't healthy for you) then go for it!
    its definitely not to get back at my ex, and i ideally would like to go for it, but i don't want to make things awkward in the house
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    why should you feel any guilt. its your ex... the ex that cheated on you twice. who gives a **** about your ex
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    There is a lot of guilt for hiding the truth and we don’t know where to go from here
    how much guilt did your ex cheat when she cheated on you???
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